Strength - Anais Nin quote

Strength and submission

“I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.”  Anais Nin The prompt for […]

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Hold my hand

And you hold my hand

Through it all you hold my hand. You take it in yours and you shelter and keep it safe. You envelope yours, the larger, around about it and protect it from the world. Whatever happens, you hold my hand. And as you do, you squeeze your words into my brain. […]

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Together in Electric Dreams

I find that I dream less these days than I used to when I was younger. Or perhaps, I dream the same amount but it feels less vivid. I often wake knowing I have had a dream but the events seem hard to pinpoint, as if they are less real […]

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Living in Parallel

I quite often feel that I have two parallel lives. I think that can often happen when you are in the sort of relationship which can be misunderstood. Part of me wants to say, “fuck it,” but the other part doesn’t use that language. That alerts me to the fact […]

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Fear of acceptance

My biggest fear is that I won’t be accepted. I have a deep-rooted need for approval that can actually be quite destructive. It has been with me for as long as I can remember. The recurring nightmare I had as a child was of me trying to do something and […]

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The capture of Astrid - Finfolkaheem

The Capture of Astrid

Astrid had wandered the shores for three summers now, begging for him to come. She had seen him in her dreams and, longed for what she knew only he could give.  He could complete her. He could make her feel alive, although it seemed ironic under the circumstances. She didn’t […]

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Celibacy: A piece of the past

When I saw that this week’s Wicked Wednesday prompt was celibacy, I thought that I had nothing to write. It wasn’t until I read May More’s post, Being Celibate, Love and Sex, that I realised that I had, like her, been celibate for a large chunk of time during my […]

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missy and HL exchange gifts as part of the D/s Advent 2018

Festive Fun – Our D/s Advent Calendar 2018

Well that is the period of advent at a close and, therefore, the end of ‘gifts’ that we were giving each other as part of our D/s Advent Calendar for 2018. I have posted about some of these activities and others I have left private. In order to be transparent, […]

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Hiding from Time

I am hiding from time. It seems to keep creeping in, and creeping up, and catching me off guard. Can it see me here? Will it find me? Or can I sit here and be safe for a while? I want these moments. I want to take them and grow […]

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Fire meets Gasoline

Fire Meet Gasoline

I remember people saying that it can be dangerous to fall in love, but I had never really understood what that meant. I think that I thought maybe it was about being hurt emotionally and I can’t say that put me off very much. But I came to realise when […]

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Play with me and play with you

Play is a huge part of our relationship. Much of our connection is fuelled by the closeness that arises from our play sessions; I have never been played with as much as I have been since becoming a submissive and this is something that I love. It is sort of […]

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writing your way on my body - written on missy

Writing your way on my body

You are writing your way on my body. You are telling me how things should be and showing me that I am worthy of you, of this. You are re-writing all of the wrongs and making them right. You are loving me with your words and the pictures of your […]

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Scent to test us written on a card

Scent to test us

It has long been accepted that a person’s natural scent can make up part of what attracts others to them. According to the science this is down to the fact that people use body odour or scent to subconsciously identify how likely a potential mate will be to pass on […]

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desire - heart on fire in grey ashes

Desire of the dark: crossing the boundary

She had busied herself with the preparations for the last few days now. It was really hard to have a relationship like this, but worth it, the waiting. It was her time, the time when patience and control could finally give way to desire. She sang her songs and cleaned […]

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The house with the purple door

The House with the Purple Door

The design of the website had drawn her in from the outset; a passionate purple, it spoke to her of promises of what was to come. And from the comfort of her purple pyjamas, she was able to reveal to him things about herself which she had never previously shared. […]

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Blogging and me

When I started blogging I really had no idea how it would work for me. The purpose of my blog was to be able to share my own experience and hopefully to connect with others. This happened in a much bigger way than I could have predicted but actually blogging […]

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The other me

In my other life I am a champion for others. This is a good thing, don’t get me wrong, but recently I have been feeling that the two parts of my life are becoming more and more polarised. Actually keeping things separate is something that we have worked to achieve. […]

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Roots Revisited

….we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.  ‎Louis de Bernières In my post, Roots, I wrote about the impact that change and loss had on our relationship and […]

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Someday I I will be able to be lost in him, not for hours but for days and perhaps even for weeks


Someday we will have an empty nest. I am not wishing my life away as I love the life that I have but neither am I dreading the end of the formal part of my role as a mother. I really enjoy being a mum and for a time that […]

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Lifestyle submissive - submissy

Lifestyle Submissive

What is a Lifestyle Submissive? I would term myself as a lifestyle submissive. To me this means that I am submissive to my husband 24/7; this is not to say that I am actively submitting every minute of every day. I work and I sleep and I do the regular […]

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