Showing Stigma the Finger

Showing Stigma the Finger

I have been fortunate not to have suffered a lot of stigma in my life, but when I saw an email from Hot Octopuss yesterday explaining their #ShowStigmaTheFinger campaign, I felt it was such a good cause that I wanted to take part. Anything that raises the profile of a […]

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Being the submissive

Being the submissive in our Relationship

First of all I would like to start by making a distinction that for me, being a submissive or the submissive is not the same as being submissive.  A submissive (noun) is the name for someone who adopts a submissive role within a power exchange dynamic, in my case this […]

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Watched

Jed was a watcher. He watched all day and he was damn good at it. It was his job, after all.  Sometimes he got carried away though and that was what had happened at The Unit. They had told him to switch the cameras off, but that had just piqued […]

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He wanted Red

He wanted red

Red. He wanted red. Ready in red. Kneeling down, bum on heels, Legs apart. Further apart. Stop. No, further again. Too much? No, not too much. Carefully. Both the same. Perfect. Breathe. Remember to breathe. Back straight. Don’t slouch. Breathe. Calm. Breathe again. Waiting. Chin down, eyes cast low. Don’t […]

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A life of pleasure (Part 1)

She ushered the car which came for her away, choosing instead to walk to The Citadel. She knew she was lucky, such luxuries as vehicle transportation were not afforded to most, but then she wasn’t part of the masses and hadn’t been for some time. She didn’t really know whether […]

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dearg-due lady in red

Dearg-due – lady in red

He knew when he first saw her that she was different to the others. She was stunning and there was something about her which seemed almost of a different world. She was certainly beautiful but not in the traditional way. Her hair was so dark and her skin so pale […]

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writing

Writing: The what and the why

I have always enjoyed writing but it isn’t something felt I was good at as a young person. I wrote stories which I made into books as a child, but when my sister started the same thing, it was hers that my parents held in esteem. I suppose after a […]

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authentic - woman with eye mask

Standing up to being authentic

I like to think that I am authentic.  I aim to be true to myself, not just here but in other areas too.  If I do something which I know compromises me then it plays on my mind and stresses me as I mull over it. I want to be […]

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Lucky

Lucky is a state of mind

So, this is late and is not the post that I was planning to write at all.  I had planned a combined post about luck and about words to live by but it is not this post. I had sat down at my laptop and written one line of the […]

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Inside my head

Inside my head

My head is my retreat. I escape inside my head all of the time, wasting minutes and hours and days. I say wasted because not all of what is going on in my head is useful, but I retreat there none-the-less.  It is my place, my quiet space, although really […]

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Complicated

When it’s complicated

Complicated is a word that I have used to describe the changes that we have dealt with over the past while. I try not to speak in negative terms because that feels unfair when we are so lucky and we have so much. What was difficult was dealing with the […]

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only a kiss

Mr Brightside: It was only a kiss

He knew that he wanted her as soon as he saw her. He couldn’t quite say why but he was kind of a serial pursuer of pleasure. He had married by mistake if the truth be known. Like a genuine case of misunderstanding, but that was another story; his story, […]

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Pleasure and subspace

Pleasure and subspace

For me, deep submission brings pleasure at its ultimate. It is a letting go of myself and the freedom that comes from that. My need for control means that actually I don’t seem to get properly lost in pleasure unless I have given control of myself up completely. I need […]

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At the centre

At the Centre: being the stars of your own show

We are at the centre. And that has been, and remains, our secret. Staying at the centre is a knack, that’s for sure, but it’s made easier by the structure and the routine that we have. We have both been in relationships previously where we weren’t at the centre, where […]

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Fantasies

When your fantasies don’t align

Fantasy is defined as being the faculty or activity of imagining impossible or improbable things. It seems unlikely then that the fact that your fantasies don’t align would matter. And I suppose that is how I have always felt before. What is purely imagining of the impossible or improbable is […]

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laughter

Laughter – take me higher

Laughter is good for you. It is an integral part of social communication and the way that human bonding happens most easily. When people are asked what makes them laugh they will think of jokes and comedians and funny events but actually we laugh most when we are in the […]

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Ritual

Ritual

Wicked Wednesday prompt #364: Ritual What rituals do you have, and how have they changed you? Transformed you? Or are there rituals you feel nothing for, like marriage or baptising a child? Or maybe there are rituals that intrigue you, that are mysterious and ‘out of this world’. Share your thoughts […]

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Why Dominance Turns Me On

Why Dominance turns me on

More and more I am realising that it is Dominance that turns me on. I am not sure why I am surprised about this as it was one of the things which initially encouraged me to ask HL to be my Dominant, but I at points we have got lost […]

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unmentionable

Never mention the unmentionable

There are some things that I would like to mention. About me. And about my life. I have never told you because I worry that you would not understand, and that you might use it against me, so I keep quiet. I don’t mention these things which are unmentionable. It […]

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