broken trust

Broken Trust

I have written a lot about trust and the need for trust in a D/s relationship such as the one I have with HL. In order to build this level of trust it is important to be honest and open and this can make us vulnerable. I am generally a […]

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honesty in a dominant submissive marriage

Honesty in a Dominant submissive marriage

Honesty is one of the cornerstones of a Dominant submissive marriage. Honesty is a hard one in lots of ways. Many people take it to mean the absence of telling lies. Clearly it is important to be honest about what you say but honesty is also about your actions. If […]

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Achieving Intimacy

Achieving Intimacy

This is a partner post to one I have written for The SafeworD/s Club about what intimacy is and how that fits with a D/s lifestyle. While the other post is more informational, I wanted to include some of the more personal side about the things that we do which […]

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dreams

I have spread my dreams under your feet

I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams. These lines are taken from one of my favourite poems, The Cloths of Heaven by W B Yeats. I wrote a short piece about the poem before and when I did, described my dreams […]

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authentic - woman with eye mask

Standing up to being authentic

I like to think that I am authentic.  I aim to be true to myself, not just here but in other areas too.  If I do something which I know compromises me then it plays on my mind and stresses me as I mull over it. I want to be […]

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Trust and submission

Trust and submission

If D/s has taught me anything, it has taught me that feelings are not quantifiable. I have always had trust in HL. Has it always been the same level of trust that I have in him now? No. Is it at a level where I can say in all honesty, […]

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love and trust

Love and Trust

To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.     George MacDonald I wrote in Domination, submission and Trust that I believe that trust is vital in any relationship.  It is one of the cornerstones and without it the relationship will soon start to crumble.  In the same way, if […]

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Trust, Transition and Training

A to Z Challenge – T T is another letter where there is quite a lot to say but I want to begin with TRUST. I have always trusted HisLordship but the sort of trust we have now is not anything that I ever would have anticipated. It is linked […]

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D/s is a dance

The D/s Dance

I have often said that I think D/s is like a dance. This is because, if done well, it can be a thing of beauty. There is a lot of focus required, there are intricate steps to learn, you can add lib a little depending on your mood and it […]

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Intimacy and Vulnerability - F Scott Fitzgerald quote

Intimacy and Vulnerability

I wrote about Vulnerability in a previous post and my main focus then was reflecting on the journey that I had been through in terms of making myself more vulnerable to HisLordship. I see it as being such an important part of our relationship and I wrote about how I […]

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Evening 'Completus'

I do realise that completus is a made up word, but this is the continuation of my last post Evening Interruptus.  Having had our plans for Wednesday evening’s play foiled, Sir had postponed things until Friday when we would, hopefully, be alone again.  Friday was a little more tricky than Wednesday […]

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girl hugging a tiger out of trust

Domination, submission and Trust

                                                               via Daily Prompt: Trust Trust is vital in any relationship.  It is one of the cornerstones and without it […]

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