You all know me as missy because it is the name that I blog under, but missy is more to me and to HL than that. I have written before about how much missy the writer and missy the submissive have cemented each other but I wanted to focus more […]
Why we decided to try electric sex The topic for Tell Me About… this time is Electroplay. This is something I have written about quite a bit and, if you are interested, I have linked the posts at the bottom. Suffice to say, we enjoy electroplay. We have an ElectraStim […]
Cervical Screening Awareness Week – 14 – 20 June 2021 This week is cervical screening awareness week. Despite invites for women and people with a cervix to attend cervical screening appointments via their GP surgery, there are still some who are not taking up this offer. According to leading cervical […]
Sex toys is the current topic for Tell Me About and surprisingly I have never really written about them before. We have LOADS of toys and so, although I am linking to Wicked Wednesday’s peep show prompt, this is more of a peep at a virtual show and tell than […]
What happens when life gets in the way? Well from experience it impacts your power exchange and your D/s relationship. Clearly I write from the viewpoint of a full time lifestyle dynamic but I think that whatever set up you have, significant life events will have an impact. Obviously sometimes […]
I know I am kinky in vanilla terms but because we have been exploring kink for so long, much of what we do feels normal to me now. I wondered for a while if I was even kinky anymore, whilst at the same time knowing that kinky is something that […]
The foundations of our D/s relationship are the same as would exist for any good relationship: Honesty, Trust, Respect and Open Communication. Because we are a couple, I am happy to say that there is also love. A lot of love. In fact, love is at the heart of everything […]
I have always liked talking about sex. In fact, I love talking about sex. One of the things I enjoy about this space is that talking about sex is something I can do and, even better, I can talk about it to other people who are interested in the same […]
I wrote a post about expectations in our D/s before which explains how expectations work and the things that can be problems to meeting them at points. One of the key things is to have realistic expectations so that is what this post will focus on. Expectations are central to […]
For me submissive headspace is the place I am in when I am deeply submissive. It goes beyond my submissive mindset because mindset is more of a conscious thing. Submissive headspace differs because it is about thinking and feeling deeply submissive which becomes an automatic response. It is a place […]
My journey really began when I met HL. He wasn’t HL back then of course, but without knowing it, I saw the part of him that HL would become. There was something about him and the way we interacted. It was exciting, it was full of promise and it felt […]
The Difficulty with our Desires Many of us are never able to have our desires met for one reason or another. This might be to do with the fact that we keep them to ourselves and feel unable to share them, or it might be that we have not found […]
The flogger was one of the first impact toys we bought. When we first started to experiment more with kink as part of our Dominance and submission, I was keen to experience the flogger. I had read so much about it in fiction and loved the way it was described. […]
This is a partner post to one I have written for The SafeworD/s Club about what intimacy is and how that fits with a D/s lifestyle. While the other post is more informational, I wanted to include some of the more personal side about the things that we do which […]
Back in January 2019 I wrote about the new writing project I had was launching, Tell Me About … Dominance and submission. This came really from me thinking about my direction as a blogger and my place in the writing community. I started my blog to write about D/s as […]
In a D/s relationship the term discipline really covers quite a broad range of areas. While the one which springs to mind would be about rules and the subsequent punishment thereof, there are other areas where it plays a significant part. In my post about Training for The Safeword/s Club, […]
‘Many of us pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that we hurry past it.’ Søren Kierkegaard The sexual pleasure that came with the practice of Dominance and submission, sort of hit me in a way which was both unexpected but familiar. It was like something I had always known was possible was but […]
Ok I am going to start by saying that while I like wax play, I am not totally into it. I surprised myself by this as I have always loved candles – the look, the feel, the thought. I assumed that because I had played with fire as a child, […]
Content Notice: This post contains details of edge play including knife play, needle play, CNC and breath play. What is edgy for one is not necessarily edgy for another and this post has come at a time when I am not feeling at my most edgy. So consider this a […]
I thought that I would start with the Carol Ann Duffy poem, ‘Valentine’ because, through her metaphysical interpretation, she turns on its head our preconceptions of romance, and I have always quite liked that. In comparing love to an onion, she covers many of the aspects of relationships which are […]