Submissive growth

Submissive growth and how to make it happen

How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? The second question that I am focusing on in terms of my current submissive reflection is How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? For me, growth as as submissive […]

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A dance is better than a song

A song is nice but a dance is better

If I had to choose between a song or a dance, I would choose to dance everything time. For one, I do not have a great singing voice. Not that this feels fair. I am musical, play several instruments, have a good sense of rhythm and can hold a tune. […]

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submissive feelings

Submissive feelings and how to embrace them

When did you first realise you had submissive feelings and how far have you embraced those feelings? This is the first in the Submissive Reflection Prompts over on Tell Me About. My aim is to really take a long hard look at where I am in terms of my submission […]

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Beyond Black and white

Beyond the Black and the White

I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and […]

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It is time

It is time

Time is a funny thing. There never seems to be enough of it, and yet, we make it work for us, fitting in with the ticking and passing of the units it gives us. I sometimes wonder what the world was like before these units of time, and often think […]

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discarded underwear

Discarded underwear

A while ago, I had a friendship with another Dom that turned into a bit more. From my side it was friendship and that is important to me. I felt a connection emotionally and that is vital for me ever to contemplate anything more than that, even discarded underwear! I […]

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Mirror Scene

Mirror Scene ~ tell me what you see

Last night we played with our friends via video link. Actually, we played with our respective partners but there was engagement across the couples and what we did was mirrored by the other. I don’t know if this has a name but we have called it a mirror scene due […]

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Endings and beginnings

The Beauty of Endings and Beginnings

The change of seasons always marks the ending of one thing but the beginning of something else. As autumn shifts into winter I have a strong sense of both the endings and the beginnings this time. I wonder if this is due partly to the fact that the period of […]

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Kept on a Leash

Kept on a leash

He kept her on a leash, not because he saw her as being lower or less than him, but because he was more certain of her value than he had ever been about anything.  It wasn’t because he thought that she might run either. She was so very obedient and […]

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Why Autumn is the Sexy Season

My Love of Autumn I have always loved autumn. In many senses I love something about each season: the promise of spring, the warmth of summer sun and the coziness of winter. But autumn feels sexy to me. I don’t know if it’s the cooler weather which is borne rather […]

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Being shared with another dominant

Being shared with another Dominant

“You are such a good submissive. I know that you want to please me and do these things for me but tonight I am going to ask more from you. Tonight I would like to share you.” He watched her face and saw her hesitation. They had discussed it, of […]

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Fallen Angel Black and white

Being His Fallen Angel

She was his fallen angel. It was important to her that she was seen that way, not just by him but by herself too. In fact, by anyone who saw the parts she hid. It wasn’t that she wanted to hide them really, more that they were hard to acknowledge, […]

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The simplicity of a white shirt and black boots

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication Leonardo Da Vinci Sometimes it is the classic things which have an appeal. Personally I like the simplicity of a plain white shirt worn with very little else. I also love boots. I have lots of pairs and so it is fun to slip them […]

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Feeling Fresh

Turning the feeling into action

Feeling like a change is needed I have been talking about feeling I wanted things to change for a long time. My impatience to see results has spilled over into my writing and I feel that I am going over the same ground quite a lot of the time. But […]

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The Cat Cafe

A Surprise Visit to The Cat Cafe

Things had been a bit quiet for us so when HL told me to go and put on my catsuit and ears and wait for him, I was pretty excited. The wet-look suit fitted me closely and I felt pretty sexy as soon as I slipped it on. I wore […]

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Dom Worship

A little bit of Dom worship

For fear of enraging the D/s purists who scream “topping from the bottom” when I explain what I did the other night, I am going to tell you about a little bit of Dom worship that took place. I have thoughts on the whole topping from the bottom thing of […]

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