Natural submissive

Is it better to be a natural submissive?

To what extent are you a natural submissive? What is a natural submissive? This one is a bit of a can of worms, and I do love opening those online as they so often lead to very good discussion. The idea of the natural submissive as the ultimate parter is […]

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Submissive Self

Break me and make me yours ~ submissive self

How would you describe your submissive self? I belong to HL and am his in so many ways. I have a commitment to him formally as his wife, and privately as his submissive. I have grown with him in so many ways over the past 10 years that we are […]

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Sexy scene

A sexy scene

Actually it was more sexy play than a sexy scene but I felt the alliteration worked better for my title. In addition, the sexy play lasted about an hour and a half which, by my definition puts it more in the scene category. However, usually a scene is something that […]

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Learn from others - best friends

The best ways to learn from others

How do you learn from others? I thought a good place to start writing again would be to pick up where I dropped off with regard to my submissive reflection prompts. Who doesn’t benefit from some submissive reflection? Fortunately I had made a list of them before I started (and […]

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I took a break

I took a break but I am not broken

Well. As you can see. I took another break again. This is the longest break I have had so far. But the fact that the past year has seen a few, probably tells me something. And I will tell you. I have wondered about whether or not continuing to blog […]

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Chess pieces - challenges to submission

The greatest challenges to my submission

What challenges your submission? The next submissive reflection prompt is about challenges to my submission. There is not one clear answer to this one as there are a few different factors playing into it, but I think it is something really worthwhile to consider. One of the main things that […]

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Fun, photos and switching things up

This image was taken a while ago, the first time we went away for a few days with our friends PS and gem. One of the things we had planned to do together was to take some pictures and this was one of the outfits I put on. It is […]

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Submissive mindset

New ways of keeping a submissive mindset

What helps you to keep your submissive mindset? The third prompt for my submissive reflection is about keeping a submissive mindset. I don’t know that others always agree but I have come to see my submissive mindset as different to my submissive headspace. My submissive mindset is about the way […]

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Submissive growth

Submissive growth and how to make it happen

How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? The second question that I am focusing on in terms of my current submissive reflection is How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? For me, growth as as submissive […]

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A dance is better than a song

A song is nice but a dance is better

If I had to choose between a song or a dance, I would choose to dance everything time. For one, I do not have a great singing voice. Not that this feels fair. I am musical, play several instruments, have a good sense of rhythm and can hold a tune. […]

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submissive feelings

Submissive feelings and how to embrace them

When did you first realise you had submissive feelings and how far have you embraced those feelings? This is the first in the Submissive Reflection Prompts over on Tell Me About. My aim is to really take a long hard look at where I am in terms of my submission […]

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Beyond Black and white

Beyond the Black and the White

I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and […]

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It is time

It is time

Time is a funny thing. There never seems to be enough of it, and yet, we make it work for us, fitting in with the ticking and passing of the units it gives us. I sometimes wonder what the world was like before these units of time, and often think […]

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discarded underwear

Discarded underwear

A while ago, I had a friendship with another Dom that turned into a bit more. From my side it was friendship and that is important to me. I felt a connection emotionally and that is vital for me ever to contemplate anything more than that, even discarded underwear! I […]

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Mirror Scene

Mirror Scene ~ tell me what you see

Last night we played with our friends via video link. Actually, we played with our respective partners but there was engagement across the couples and what we did was mirrored by the other. I don’t know if this has a name but we have called it a mirror scene due […]

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Endings and beginnings

The Beauty of Endings and Beginnings

The change of seasons always marks the ending of one thing but the beginning of something else. As autumn shifts into winter I have a strong sense of both the endings and the beginnings this time. I wonder if this is due partly to the fact that the period of […]

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Kept on a Leash

Kept on a leash

He kept her on a leash, not because he saw her as being lower or less than him, but because he was more certain of her value than he had ever been about anything.  It wasn’t because he thought that she might run either. She was so very obedient and […]

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Why Autumn is the Sexy Season

My Love of Autumn I have always loved autumn. In many senses I love something about each season: the promise of spring, the warmth of summer sun and the coziness of winter. But autumn feels sexy to me. I don’t know if it’s the cooler weather which is borne rather […]

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