Living in the Shadows

As I sit here on a Tuesday evening writing this post for my married submissive blog, my kids are chatting in the family room and my husband is talking about sex toys and building bondage furniture on a skype call to his Dom friend in Norway. I realise that there […]

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The Doxy

I mentioned in my last post that we went to sexpo last year and that when we were there we bought ourselves a brilliant new wand. This has to be the single best toy that we have bought so far and although it was pretty pricey, it was worth every penny. […]

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I thought I would write about my frienD/s as I have been thinking a lot about real frienD/ship recently.  By frienD/s I mean the people who I chat with regularly, who have supported my journey, who are aware of my submission and who follow a similar lifestyle.  These people have […]

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Married, monogamous and submissive

What you will have realised from reading my blog so far is that I am married (to my husband and Dominant), we are in a monogamous relationship, and I am a submissive. We are both in our 40s, we have a blended family and we live in the UK.  We […]

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Actively Submissive

As good submissives we are all ready to submit to the will of our Dominants; we wait in anticipation of his commands, and try to meet his needs, wants and desires. But sometimes it takes more than being ready to respond. Sometimes we need to be more active and really […]

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How I Got Here

In 2012, I realised that I was a submissive.  In some ways this came as a bit of a surprise to me; I had always been strong and independent and felt safest when I was in control. In other ways, however, this made perfect sense; the fantasies I felt were […]

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