Learn from others - best friends

The best ways to learn from others

How do you learn from others? I thought a good place to start writing again would be to pick up where I dropped off with regard to my submissive reflection prompts. Who doesn’t benefit from some submissive reflection? Fortunately I had made a list of them before I started (and […]

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Submissive growth

Submissive growth and how to make it happen

How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? The second question that I am focusing on in terms of my current submissive reflection is How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? For me, growth as as submissive […]

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New angle

Looking at things from a new angle

Sometimes it is helpful to look at things from a new angle. It can be really hard to do, especially when you are reflecting or examining things about yourself. Even with others, we seem to become so easily entrenched in what we expect an outcome to be, or the way […]

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submissive feelings

Submissive feelings and how to embrace them

When did you first realise you had submissive feelings and how far have you embraced those feelings? This is the first in the Submissive Reflection Prompts over on Tell Me About. My aim is to really take a long hard look at where I am in terms of my submission […]

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submissive mindset

Focus questions for a submissive mindset

This post is part of the back to basics focus that HL and I have for our D/s this year. I started by looking in general terms at myself as a submissive and from our shared reflection and discussion, we identified mindset as being something we both wanted to address. By submissive mindset I mean […]

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Submissive Goals - looking in the mirror

Submissive Goals ~ Looking in the Mirror

Setting Some Submissive Goals This is the third part in response to Setting Goals for D/s. It is not the final part because we will use our reflection to agree some joint goals and HL is still working through his. However, doing this has thrown up some things for me […]

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bad language

Bad Language – looking in the mirror

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 6 One of the things that I had to do and really work at doing when we started our full time living as a Dominant submissive couple thing, was put myself in HL’s shoes. It is very easy when you want something and […]

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Seeing the sun

Things recently have been tough on all of us in different ways. In some senses it has felt that the slower, more basic pace of life has been a helpful breather, but in others, it is if we are existing in a pressure cooker of emotions. It has been a […]

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Time to explore

2020 – Time to Explore

This year has been a strange one. There has been some change, but in the same sense, not much has actually changed. I have done a lot of reflecting and thinking about where I want to go with the various areas of my life, so it feels odd somehow, to […]

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This is one of the images that we took for the letter H prompt earlier at the beginning of December. I was going for hourglass but when I saw it, it looked far less hourglass than it had looked, or indeed felt, at the time. I decided to go with […]

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Window watching

There is something about watching from a window. It feels like time well spent on the observations made. Meaningless in themselves, they require nothing from me in terms of response and yet, each picture evokes a response regardless. What looks like a simple daydream from the outside, is actually the […]

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A Risky Business

This is the follow on post to Staying Focussed where I said that I was in a dilemma as to whether I continue down the path I am on, or veer either to the left or to the right. I don’t know whether to continue to split my focus between both […]

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Black and White

To see in color is a delight for the eye but to see in black and white is a delight for the soul. – Andri Cauldwell I am going to be away this week for work. My life will be lived out in colour as I take in all the […]

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Posts, Puppies and Pubes

So it turned out that I took a break from writing posts last week. This was not planned, it just sort of happened. But it has made me think, once I got over my feeling of guilt that is. And that is it! Why was I feeling guilty about something […]

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I had a message from one of my good friends this morning where she said that she had read my 1st March entry and asked if I needed to talk. I told her that we were okay and thanked her, adding that things move pretty fast and that usually the process […]

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School's Out for the Summer

So here it is. The end of term and I made it!  Yippeeeeeee. I have to admit I felt I was hanging on there by a silken thread at points this week but my pupils have all gone home, my desk is tidy, and my out of office auto reply […]

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