Respect the Rules

Rules are pretty key to our relationship, although even without that I am a person who likes to have rules to follow. I suppose that is why a D/s marriage works so well for me as having rules and structure makes me feel safe. It makes sense of things and […]

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More or less me

I have always been a more type of person: the more I get the more I seem to want and that motivates me. Conversely, the opposite is also the case: the less I experience something, the less I think about and want it. I seem able to quickly move on, […]

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Pleasure, Pain and Power

A to Z Challenge – P Although two separate things, for me PLEASURE and PAIN sort of come together as that is how I like them. I have written about how that works in Pleasure from Pain but I have also written before about the pleasure that comes from being submissive which […]

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Submissive Power

So we were lying there this Sunday morning enjoying a slow start to the day. We had woken up at the usual time and were snuggled up with ipads, catching up on social media. There was no rush so we enjoyed the time that we had but after a while […]

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A fun No.1 and a naked No.2 – D/s Advent 2017

This morning HisLordship left to work overseas again and he won’t be back until the 15th December. We have had a bit of a run of him working away and have tried to do things to keep the close connection we have between us. It has been a challenge though […]

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More about the sex

Since writing All about the sex? where I explained that although sex is part of our dynamic, there are other key parts too that I feel can sometimes be overlooked, a couple of conversations and a couple of comments have made me think a bit more about sex and the role it […]

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Pleasing you, pleasing me?

When give and take in a relationship becomes a finely tuned thing, it is interesting to see how that plays out. When you decide to put the needs of each other before your own, gone are the days of the power struggle and the tit-for-tat. Instead you become more focussed […]

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The Power Exchange

The power exchange that takes place in our D/s relationship is a key part of what keeps our dynamic alive, but it is not something which is easy to explain. I imagine that those in similar relationships can understand the significant part it plays, but for those who aren’t, or […]

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