Submissive mindset

New ways of keeping a submissive mindset

What helps you to keep your submissive mindset? The third prompt for my submissive reflection is about keeping a submissive mindset. I don’t know that others always agree but I have come to see my submissive mindset as different to my submissive headspace. My submissive mindset is about the way […]

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Silence

The search for silence before the scene

I am waiting for you in the silence. I listen for you: for your breathing, or the sound of you sipping your coffee, or the tapping of the keys on your phone. But I hear nothing. I try to silence my own head. My thoughts are talking at me. So […]

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accessories

Look for the Bare Accessories

I was reflecting at the weekend on accessories and the part they can have in locating or keeping the right mindset for play. This was not due to anything particularly profound, but more mundanely down to the fact that I wrote a post on Accessories and Mindset for The SafeworD/s […]

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Going Deeper

Going Deeper

There is a difference between being a submissive and being submissive. Being a submissive is something that you are and have agreed to be. Being submissive is something that you do and it affects not only your behaviour but also your thoughts and feelings. This caused some confusion for me […]

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what to wear

All the fun of the fair

HisLordship and I went off the Torture Garden last night with our good friends and fellow kinksters, kisungura and Cuiplash. We have been before but not for a while so we were really looking forward to it. For those of you who haven’t heard of Torture Garden, it bills itself […]

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A re-set spank

I wrote in Spanking Uncovered that sometimes we used spanking for a re-set. By a re-set I mean that we will use it to re-set the dynamic when things have slipped sometimes. This can happen for a variety of reasons from one of us coming out of the correct mindset, to things […]

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Stop running the wheel has stopped

Yesterday was interesting. Sir and I had the chat that I referred to in my last post about how we wanted to use the time over the next few weeks to work on some of the areas of our D/s that we would like to develop.  We talked a lot about being […]

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