Is masturbation selfish

Is Masturbation within a relationship selfish?

Question: Is Masturbation Selfish? The topic for the erotic journal challenge is whether or not masturbation is selfish. As I had been thinking about this a bit recently anyway, I thought I would get my thoughts down on the page and hopefully find out what others think too. The key […]

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talking about masturbation

Talking about masturbation

Talking about masturbation. Generally we don’t, do we? I mean here in these sorts of circles we do, But out there? Not so much. And I wonder why that is. I suppose like all things sexual, we are conditioned to feel it is something which should be kept private. It […]

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punished for playing - Lying with the satsifyer luxury high fashion across the body

The Price to Play

I don’t often write about being punished and part of that is the fact that usually I am very good at sticking to the rules and expectations for behaviour. I am not the sort of submissive who pushes things just to see and am more likely to follow the correct […]

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The power of touch - woman on bed with lingerie touching herself

The power of touch

I am not planning to touch myself but my fingers slip underneath the edge of my knickers and I am gently playing with the small rectangle of hair that he has me keep there, stroking back and forth subconsciously with the back of my fingernail nail. It makes me think of […]

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The Queen Bee – Review

The Queen Bee by Hot Octopuss describes itself as ‘a powerful next-generation clitoral stimulator’. As those of you who read my blog regularly will know, clit stimulation is really my thing, so I was keen to try out a toy which claimed it could provide ‘a unique and intense experience’. I sometimes feel […]

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I remember when I first started masturbating. I don’t know how old I was, maybe 12, but I recall the way it felt. Even then it wasn’t just the physical; doing it felt really illicit and I loved it. In fact the thought of doing it was so thrilling and […]

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30 Day Orgasm Fun – First 10

So I thought I would give an orgasm update on how things have been going for me with the 30 Day Orgasm Fun. As I said in First Thoughts, I had a few reasons for wanting to take part, and a few considerations about what it might mean. I can’t […]

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missy's 30 day orgasm project

30 Day Orgasm Fun – First Thoughts

When I heard about this orgasm project I was keen to take part. It was the mental health/wellbeing thing that got me really as it is always an issue that has my support; anything that can improve or highlight things so that the stigma falls away the better. And what […]

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