Just over half way through our amazing Eroticon weekend and I am really feeling the effects. I have been inspired, enthused and encouraged by so many positive and interesting people and have learnt so much already. So here I go ready to step into day 2 as a sex positive, […]
Sir loves to hear me play the piano so this evening I hope he will let me play for him. I hope his own carol concert will help to get him into the festive mood, and to add a kinky edge, I will play naked.
‘Any plans for the weekend?’ ‘Yes. We’re off to London to meet with a group of kinky friends we found online, attend a sex and lifestyle exhibition and have some bdsm fun together in our hotel room!” Obviously that wasn’t the answer I gave my family, friends and work […]
I am lying on my front. My arms are spread above me and my legs are spread apart. I must not move and so I lie still, bound by his will. My body is pressed into the sheets and my sensitivity to the touch of the cotton is a telltale […]
For want of trying to describe our current dynamic, Sir and I would label ourselves as 24/7. We are not, however, in a high protocol Dominant/submissive relationship full-time as there has to be space there for the other things that make up our lives; work, children, friends, domestic chores etc. […]
Patience is a virtue; not one that I would ever have attributed to myself readily, however. And yet, I can wait sometimes. And I do believe that I have learnt better patience through my submission. When we first began this lifestyle I wanted to run with it all. But to […]
Sir just told me that he would like to use some pictures of me on his blog. Mad panic. I know I am not meant to tell him no, but I told him no. I think the submissive in me was shaking in the wardrobe looking for a floor length […]
Spanking. What is it about this that gets me running to my room to slip off my knickers, bend over and present myself? I’m sure that my fellow spankthusiasts out there know exactly what I mean. But somehow, at some point, I moved from being someone who enjoyed the odd […]
I feel like I have posted a lot about going back to work and feeling tired. Actually, maybe it is more that I have been mad busy back at work and I haven’t posted much at all because of it. Anyway work has come between me and the things that […]
The romantic in me has always loved this poem. I have always wanted to feel the devotion and trust that inspired Yeats but it evaded me for most of my life. The student in me appreciated the imagery and understood the depth of the passion and love that he felt in […]
In my last post D/s with kids I referred to the fact that one of my children knew about our D/s. This is the story of how that happened and living with teenagers who ‘know’. This was pretty early on in our journey but thankfully there have been no terrible […]
D/s with kids is a topic that comes up quite frequently when I talk with other married submissives, particularly those starting out. It is also something that I have been asked about by vanilla friends and family who are aware of our dynamic. I guess that the fact that people […]
I think that for me this is true. Obviously there are many different types of love in life – the love of our children, parents, friends etc will be very different to the love of our partner, but to actually feel that love is always an incredible thing. It is […]
I think I would have to describe this past week as a week of maintenance D/s, if such a thing exists. It hasn’t been full on, in your face bells and whistles that is for sure, but rather bubbling away under the surface, an ever present part of what we […]
I want to share with you a letter that I sent to my Sir yesterday. The purpose of doing this is to show that not everything can ever be positive all of the time. Any relationship, especially one with rewards as good as ours, is hard work sometimes. We are […]
The night before last, Sir became unwell. This resulted in a journey to the hospital emergency department in an ambulance. For most of the night we remained there while they conducted various tests and in the end discovered that he had gall stones and would need to be moved to […]
Letting go of control was hard (and I would be lying if I did not say that it sometimes still is!!!) When I met the man who is now my Dom, I was living as a single parent and had control over pretty much all aspects of my life (acts […]
I think that I said before how important we felt communication was in helping us to build and maintain our D/s dynamic. For us, the key foundations are love, trust, respect, honesty and open communication but really we have found that the communication is the glue that holds the rest […]
I think that being kinky is something that you are and not something you become, although the realisation that not everyone feels as you do and wants to do the things that you do can mean that you don’t always get to explore as you might. I remember even as […]
In addition to the rules, rituals and tasks that we agreed to take on as part of our commitment to a D/s lifestyle, we also had a set of protocols designed around play and scenes. In terms of setting limits, we worked on a limits list quite early on […]