Two Floggers

Two floggers are better than one

We have received a gift of a set of Poi Floggers from our friend, Leatherman. We haven’t had the opportunity to use them but HL tells me that tonight is the night. I am both interested to see how they feel and nervous about the play, as it is a […]

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submissive feelings

Submissive feelings and how to embrace them

When did you first realise you had submissive feelings and how far have you embraced those feelings? This is the first in the Submissive Reflection Prompts over on Tell Me About. My aim is to really take a long hard look at where I am in terms of my submission […]

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When D/s doesn't happen

When D/s doesn’t happen ~ Missing missy

I feel like December sort of came and went without much missy. I missed her, and I missed being here, but somehow it just didn’t work out. I had been juggling too much for too long, and in the end it sort of broke me a bit. I have been […]

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Objectified and on display

Objectified and on display

He puts her in position and he waits. It takes five minutes until she accepts that she is going to be displayed like this. Objectified. A pretty piece of furniture for them to look at. He waits. After 10 minutes her muscles ache and she wonders if she can keep […]

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back in the real world

Back in the real world

I can’t believe I have left my blog again. And for so long this time. I seem to come unstuck sometimes and it affects my ability to write. I become overwhelmed with things to do, I fall out of the habit, and for some reason, everything slips. It seems ironic […]

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simplicity

The simplicity of a white shirt and black boots

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication Leonardo Da Vinci Sometimes it is the classic things which have an appeal. Personally I like the simplicity of a plain white shirt worn with very little else. I also love boots. I have lots of pairs and so it is fun to slip them […]

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Emotional Play

Emotional Play and why it’s on the edge

What is Emotional Play Emotional play is a type of BDSM play which explores using situations which will make a submissive feel uncomfortable in an emotional sense. As with anything, it is important to see this play within the context of a safe and caring relationship. With any play which […]

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Silence

The search for silence before the scene

I am waiting for you in the silence. I listen for you: for your breathing, or the sound of you sipping your coffee, or the tapping of the keys on your phone. But I hear nothing. I try to silence my own head. My thoughts are talking at me. So […]

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life gets in the way

What happens when life gets in the way

What happens when life gets in the way? Well from experience it impacts your power exchange and your D/s relationship. Clearly I write from the viewpoint of a full time lifestyle dynamic but I think that whatever set up you have, significant life events will have an impact. Obviously sometimes […]

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submissive type

What type of submissive am I?

This question is something that seems to cause a lot of deliberation and consideration in D/s circles. I am not sure why. I suppose somewhere there is pressure to be a ‘submissive type’ so that we can see how well we are doing and how well we match up. I […]

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MILF

So you want to be a MILF?

Actually I wouldn’t mind being a MILF again. I know it’s not always taken as a compliment but as someone who has moved out of my milfing years I am sort of sorry to see them go. I am not sure what age you have to be to be a […]

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Foundations

Finding your foundations and building on them

The foundations of our D/s relationship are the same as would exist for any good relationship: Honesty, Trust, Respect and Open Communication. Because we are a couple, I am happy to say that there is also love. A lot of love. In fact, love is at the heart of everything […]

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The shape of things to come

The shape of things to come – the naked truth?

Recently I wrote about the disconnect I have experienced from myself and the way I have been thinking about my motivations for some of the things I do. One of these areas has been photography, the pictures that we choose to share, and the shape of things to come. I […]

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be daring and find ways to surrender

Be daring and find ways to surrender

It takes courage to surrender. We are designed to want to feel in control of things. We crave routine and order and a sense of, well … things making sense really. But often that is not what we find. It can be exhausting when we try to control elements that […]

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Submissive Goals - looking in the mirror

Submissive Goals ~ Looking in the Mirror

Setting Some Submissive Goals This is the third part in response to Setting Goals for D/s. It is not the final part because we will use our reflection to agree some joint goals and HL is still working through his. However, doing this has thrown up some things for me […]

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The Best of 2020

The Best of 2020

2020 has been quite the year. I have written a bit about some of the negatives that have occurred but I have found that each has brought me some positives too, whether that be in the real world or the online world. Essentially this has been in the form of […]

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the feel good factor - cover

The Feel Good Factor

One of the things I wanted to come out of this year, was a focus on trying to feel good, about myself and about my life. This came partly from turning 50, partly from the craziness that has been going on around us in the world, and partly just because […]

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My journey in submission

My Journey in submission

My journey really began when I met HL. He wasn’t HL back then of course, but without knowing it, I saw the part of him that HL would become. There was something about him and the way we interacted. It was exciting, it was full of promise and it felt […]

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