Submissive Questions - the cognitive triangle

Submissive Questions

Why do I ask myself submissive questions?All behaviour is communication whether it is based on something that you say or something that you do. So the way you behave will say something to those around about you about what you are thinking and what you are feeling. Your behaviour will […]

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Safe

Being exposed can make you feel vulnerable, and being vulnerable can make you emotionally dependent on someone else. Within D/s these feelings are all real, but they do not carry with them the same negative aspects as they might usually.  Being exposed can mean that you are at risk of […]

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Vulnerability

My recent post on Humiliation attracted some interesting comments. I love it when this happens as I think that sharing and hearing from others really helps to develop your thinking. One such comment was from Jen. I know that a lot of you already follow Jen’s Blog but if not, and you […]

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Roots

….we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two. All relationships have bumps and ups and downs. Sometimes outside factors can become too great and they start to challenge […]

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The Reality of my Fantasy 

The reality of my fantasy is hard to explain. HisLordship commented in his recent post that behind my “‘come fuck me eyes’ lurks a mind probably full of dreams, like clouds of purple and red smoke whirling around forming new erotic shapes.” This reminded me of the poem pictured here which […]

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A Need for Domination

Domination is my safe place. For those who are not in a D/s relationship it can be difficult to explain why this is the case and how it works. Sometimes it can also be difficult to explain to my Dominant what it is I need and why I need it, […]

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24. Christmas Present

‘Twas the night before Christmas and all through the house Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse; missy got ready, preparing with care, Knowing HisLordship soon would be there. Meanwhile, he too, was preparing for bed, While visions of kink danced around in his head; He imagined having […]

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This Thing We Do

The last few weeks have made me realise that actually my effort at a submissive advent calendar is a good example of how I define this thing we do: ttwd; this D/s thing. It is an illustration of how my submission works and I think it is a good insight […]

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19. Christmas Candle

The temperature has dropped and it’s cold outside so today I thought that I would give HisLordship a candle in case he fancied some wax play at some point over the festive season.

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18. I saw missy tickle Santa Claus

HisLordship has a very sensitive back and he loves when I touch it. So today’s treat is a back tickle. In celebration of my submission, I will put on some nice Christmas music and gently trace the words from the songs on his skin.

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16. Naughty Elf

Today I will offer Sir his very own naughty elf.  We are out this evening so I will pretend to be good to our friends, but underneath he will know.  And when we get home it will be all change. (Yes, I did get the outfit too).  

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14. Touch me

Sometimes I think that we can be guilty of forgetting about the simple things that help to connect us. So to celebrate the 14th day of my submissive advent calendar, I would like to spend (at least) 14 minutes touching Sir sensually and just enjoying the feel of him.

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13. Things I love

Just over half-way and this will be an easy one. Sir knows how much I love him but he always enjoys being reminded what some of those little things are. So today I will send him 13 messages, each with a different thing that I love about him.

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12. At Your Feet

Today I would like permission to sit at Sir’s feet and give him a foot massage.  This is not something that he would usually require but I am hoping that he might enjoy being pampered a little bit.

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11. Striptease

Today I am pushing my tinselled boundaries and, hopefully, giving Sir something which is both naughty and nice. He will know that this one will not be easy for me, but I aim to give it my best shot.

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Reflections on advent – so far

Part way through, not quite half-way, and I thought I would consider how things are going with my Submissive Advent Calendar.  It has been quite illuminating for me as a submissive actually.  I am not sure I have learnt anything that I didn’t know already, but it has certainly been […]

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10. Kings and Courtesans

Today is Saturday so I wanted to have some fun.  The theme is simple: Sir is my King and I will be his courtesan.  I am not sure what this will involve and what he will require of me, but hopefully it will set the scene for some real fun.

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9. Sexy Photo Text

On the 9th day of advent, my true love sent to me: 9 sexy selfies. Sir likes to get some naughty pictures of me now and then, so today I will oblige by making that my focus. I hope I don’t have to teach about the dangers of improper use […]

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