broken trust

Broken Trust

I have written a lot about trust and the need for trust in a D/s relationship such as the one I have with HL. In order to build this level of trust it is important to be honest and open and this can make us vulnerable. I am generally a […]

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I get by with a little help from my friends

I have always enjoyed having friends in the real world and for a time, when I was unhappy in my former marriage, friendships were what I focussed on and what kept me going. I was a bit of a party girl, hosting events and organising get togethers and dinners whenever […]

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Lucky is a state of mind

So, this is late and is not the post that I was planning to write at all.  I had planned a combined post about luck and about words to live by but it is not this post. I had sat down at my laptop and written one line of the […]

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Emily – A slave, a little, an aspie and a dinosaur. And my best friend. I don’t know where to start with how I am feeling but I wanted to write as I hoped that it might hep me. I suppose this is a bit of a eulogy; it seems […]

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Riding the Slash

As most of you will know, last night saw the opening of our new chat site – The SafeworD/s Club.  We were lucky to have some great chat with some amazing people and I am feeling pretty excited about things to come. One thing that I really liked was having the […]

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Online FrienDships

It has been two weeks since I last posted and I am shocked at how fast things move.  To be honest it is the hideously fast pace of my life which has kept me away so I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised that the same thing happens in the virtual […]

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Living in the Shadows

As I sit here on a Tuesday evening writing this post for my married submissive blog, my kids are chatting in the family room and my husband is talking about sex toys and building bondage furniture on a skype call to his Dom friend in Norway. I realise that there […]

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A Fun Weekend

  ‘Any plans for the weekend?’ ‘Yes. We’re off to London to meet with a group of kinky friends we found online, attend a sex and lifestyle exhibition and have some bdsm fun together in our hotel room!” Obviously that wasn’t the answer I gave my family, friends and work […]

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King George

I have an amazing friend. She is a fellow submissive, well actually she is a slave, and she has played an important part in my growth as a sub. For all we are different, we have a strong connection which means that we have supported each other through many difficult […]

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I thought I would write about my frienD/s as I have been thinking a lot about real frienD/ship recently.  By frienD/s I mean the people who I chat with regularly, who have supported my journey, who are aware of my submission and who follow a similar lifestyle.  These people have […]

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