Beware the false prophets. One of the reasons I gave for starting my blog was that when I started out on this journey, I found it difficult to find reliable information about living in a D/s relationship. There was plenty erotic fiction of course, but that centred around wealthy, mind-reading […]
I think that for most women, being desired makes them feel sexy. That ‘I want you to want me’ idea still reigns strong and sometimes that can be a hard thing to find. The drudge of daily life can drag you down and mean that you begin to feel a […]
I first learnt about squirting orgasms when I met Sir, but that was before he was Sir and he was just my boyfriend. (If you can have a ‘boyfriend’ when you are in your late 30s that is.) Maybe I was a bit too old to be learning new tricks, […]
Patience is a virtue; not one that I would ever have attributed to myself readily, however. And yet, I can wait sometimes. And I do believe that I have learnt better patience through my submission. When we first began this lifestyle I wanted to run with it all. But to […]
I thought I would write about my frienD/s as I have been thinking a lot about real frienD/ship recently. By frienD/s I mean the people who I chat with regularly, who have supported my journey, who are aware of my submission and who follow a similar lifestyle. These people have […]
Spanking. What is it about this that gets me running to my room to slip off my knickers, bend over and present myself? I’m sure that my fellow spankthusiasts out there know exactly what I mean. But somehow, at some point, I moved from being someone who enjoyed the odd […]
I feel like I have posted a lot about going back to work and feeling tired. Actually, maybe it is more that I have been mad busy back at work and I haven’t posted much at all because of it. Anyway work has come between me and the things that […]
In my last post D/s with kids I referred to the fact that one of my children knew about our D/s. This is the story of how that happened and living with teenagers who ‘know’. This was pretty early on in our journey but thankfully there have been no terrible […]
D/s with kids is a topic that comes up quite frequently when I talk with other married submissives, particularly those starting out. It is also something that I have been asked about by vanilla friends and family who are aware of our dynamic. I guess that the fact that people […]
I think that for me this is true. Obviously there are many different types of love in life – the love of our children, parents, friends etc will be very different to the love of our partner, but to actually feel that love is always an incredible thing. It is […]
I think I would have to describe this past week as a week of maintenance D/s, if such a thing exists. It hasn’t been full on, in your face bells and whistles that is for sure, but rather bubbling away under the surface, an ever present part of what we […]
What you will have realised from reading my blog so far is that I am married (to my husband and Dominant), we are in a monogamous relationship, and I am a submissive. We are both in our 40s, we have a blended family and we live in the UK. We […]
The night before last, Sir became unwell. This resulted in a journey to the hospital emergency department in an ambulance. For most of the night we remained there while they conducted various tests and in the end discovered that he had gall stones and would need to be moved to […]
Letting go of control was hard (and I would be lying if I did not say that it sometimes still is!!!) When I met the man who is now my Dom, I was living as a single parent and had control over pretty much all aspects of my life (acts […]
I think that being kinky is something that you are and not something you become, although the realisation that not everyone feels as you do and wants to do the things that you do can mean that you don’t always get to explore as you might. I remember even as […]
By 24/7 D/s, I mean that the foundations of the Dominant/submissive dynamic are woven throughout our relationship. These foundations are open communication, honesty, trust, respect and love. We have made a commitment to one another to be submissive (me) and Dominant (Sir) to one another and this is something we […]