I used to really enjoy foreplay. And other times I used to find it a chore. Now I don’t think we do it which sounds weird, but bare with me. Foreplay is what you do before sex, right? But what we do is play. Yes, often there is penetration but […]
I have been meaning to do the D/s Diary Project for a while but one thing has led to another and it has never quite happened. The purpose is to provide a snapshot into my life as a submissive wife. I am married to my Dominant, HisLordship and we have […]
I often write about how great a D/s lifestyle is. I write about the closeness and the intimacy. And I write about what an amazing connection it allows us to have. But what about when it doesn’t work? What about when things go wrong? What about when the great connection […]
The topic for Tell Me About this time is labels. Categorising and labelling in an essential part of our learning and understanding of what is going on around us. It helps us to link things and by understanding similarities and differences within and between these categories, to arrive more quickly […]
Being a submissive wife is not something that has come easily to me. It is something that I very much wanted, and yet, at times, it has seemed to be a somewhat elusive idea which I chase. That being said, we have been in a D/s relationship for 8 years […]
The Tell Me About prompt this time is Dominance. I have written before about why I feel that I have A Need for Domination on an emotional level, and have also explored Why Dominance turns me on in a more recent post. What I don’t think I have ever really been able […]
The Food for Thought Friday topic this week is LANDMARKS. What, if any, have been your particular landmarks, either in relation to your blog or your wider life? Do you have any future goals/landmarks you want to achieve? What are they? This is the 100th F4TF prompt and I really […]
A really important part of a successful relationship is effective communication. Although we begin learning how to communicate with those who are around about us and will support us and meet our needs from a very young age, many of us are not truly effective at communication. Communication is a […]
I have had recent conversations with submissives who have said that their partners are not a natural Dominant. I find this a really interesting thought. When I first suggested D/s to HisLordship I felt it would work well because it fell in with the way that we were naturally. I […]
When you compare yourself against an unrealistic ideal it leads to unrealistic expectations and ones which you will likely never meet. There is a simple reason for this: they are not actually realistic. Through my blog and through chatting at The SWC I talk to a number of new submissives. […]
Long term readers of my blog will no doubt read this piece and think to themselves, ah yes – the end of term post. I have avoided writing it for that reason (predictability can become a bore) and have tried to focus on other things instead. But in the end […]
I think I have a bit of sub drop today. I don’t think I have had this after an event before but today going back to work was really hard. This weekend I felt caught up in another world and now the transition back to reality has been tough. Where […]
I read something yesterday which annoyed me about married D/s. I know that probably I should leave it but then again I have a blog so if I want to rant about something then I have an outlet to do it. Warning – if you are not in the mood […]
I have always said that I am not a ‘service sub’. My evidence for this has been the fact that I don’t particularly like doing chores (it certainly doesn’t turn me on) and that I complete household tasks as and when required and because they need to be done, so […]
I guess that the truth is: sex sells. And in our society that seems to be the case whether you are selling a car, a bottle of perfume, an ice-cream, or a relationship. If you look around you, it is often difficult to separate the sexy images from the product […]
I sort of feel it may be more appropriate to ask when real life doesn’t interfere with our D/s! I think from the very beginning, well at least after the first week, things started to get in the way of what we wanted to do and where we wanted to […]
I have been thinking a little more about what I wrote in my previous post about the fact that feeling feminine also made me feel sexy. I concluded that was part of the reason the D/s worked for us but that was something that I haven’t really thought much about […]
One of the things that I like about being online and having a presence here on WordPress and twitter is that I am exposed to lots of different views, opinions and ideas about relationships and dynamics which have things in common to mine. I think that this is a positive […]