Foundations

Finding your foundations and building on them

The foundations of our D/s relationship are the same as would exist for any good relationship: Honesty, Trust, Respect and Open Communication. Because we are a couple, I am happy to say that there is also love. A lot of love. In fact, love is at the heart of everything […]

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Our D/s Contract

Do you need a D/s Contract? In short the answer is no: You don’t need anything to have a successful D/s relationship other than effective communication, trust, respect and honesty. Probably there will be love too, at the very least a strong emotional connection, but really whether or not you […]

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Curious about Dominance and submission?

Judging by my recent google visits, I would say that there are quite a few people out there currently who are curious about Dominance and submission. There are lots of myths about what D/s is and isn’t and so I thought that it would be a good idea to bust […]

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From a Distance

The topic for our chat last night on The SWC was D/s from a Distance. Basically the focus was on how you keep the dynamic going and make it work when you are not physically together. This is something that we have talked about before on a number of occasions […]

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Maintaining my mindset

Maintaining my Mindset

I am having some trouble maintaining my mindset at the moment. This does happen sometimes, usually when the stuff of life has de-railed us somewhat from the goal of our happily ever after. Some of these things are surmountable and other things seem to be less so. This has been […]

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A Fucking Machine

HisLordship has made a fucking machine.  It was revealed on Saturday and although the unveiling did not really take the form of the kind of hot, steamy scene that he had envisaged (the changing movements of teenagers foiled us again) we did get a chance to give it a quick […]

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200 Posts

It turns out that yesterday I hit my 200 Posts milestone here on WordPress.  I was quite surprised as I never would have considered myself a writer and would not have expected to have written so much.  When I started out I really just wanted to be able to share […]

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The house that D/s built

Recently a friend asked me an interesting question. What is the bread and butter of your D/s? I had to think about this for a while and later on I discussed it with Sir as the process led me to evaluate what we were doing and discover why, at times, […]

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