To what extent are you a natural submissive? What is a natural submissive? This one is a bit of a can of worms, and I do love opening those online as they so often lead to very good discussion. The idea of the natural submissive as the ultimate parter is […]
How would you describe your submissive self? I belong to HL and am his in so many ways. I have a commitment to him formally as his wife, and privately as his submissive. I have grown with him in so many ways over the past 10 years that we are […]
There is magic in words. Well at least there is for me. Words have power and D/s is all about the power exchange. When you are submissive, feeling the power someone has over you is key, and all of this can happen with words. A good Dominant dialogue will really […]
Forced orgasms happen when the stimulation used to bring about an orgasm is continually applied. I can only speak for the techniques that HL uses on me but it most often is done using a wand directly on my clit. Forced orgasms hurt. But they also bring intense pleasure and […]
I have made no secret of the fact that recently I have struggled to feel sexy. But I have also struggled to take my own advice. I know that I need to make some changes but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. But enough of the doom and gloom: Other times […]
Question: Is Masturbation Selfish? The topic for the erotic journal challenge is whether or not masturbation is selfish. As I had been thinking about this a bit recently anyway, I thought I would get my thoughts down on the page and hopefully find out what others think too. The key […]
My journey really began when I met HL. He wasn’t HL back then of course, but without knowing it, I saw the part of him that HL would become. There was something about him and the way we interacted. It was exciting, it was full of promise and it felt […]
The Difficulty with our Desires Many of us are never able to have our desires met for one reason or another. This might be to do with the fact that we keep them to ourselves and feel unable to share them, or it might be that we have not found […]
I get ready as usual in the clothes that we have agreed I will wear. I see that on the counter, he has set out my play collar and cuffs. It is not unusual to see them because often a hotel stay will include some heavier play and I know […]
If you are like me, Dominance might be something that you crave. If you are also like me, it might be something that you ask your partner for. In my case he said yes and he did become my Dom. But it is not always the case that wanting is […]
Dom in a suit is a post which follows on from When it’s complicated, and gives a little more detail about one of the main ways that our dynamic was affected by the shift caused by the work situation that we found ourselves in. It marks the return of HL to […]
The Tell Me About prompt this time is Dominance. I have written before about why I feel that I have A Need for Domination on an emotional level, and have also explored Why Dominance turns me on in a more recent post. What I don’t think I have ever really been able […]
More and more I am realising that it is Dominance that turns me on. I am not sure why I am surprised about this as it was one of the things which initially encouraged me to ask HL to be my Dominant, but I at points we have got lost […]
“I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” Anais Nin The prompt for […]
Bondage is an interesting topic for me to write about and it is not something I have written about much before. Synonymous with the image of BDSM, and yet it is probably one of my lesser kinks. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy to be tied, restrained, spread and […]
Play is a huge part of our relationship. Much of our connection is fuelled by the closeness that arises from our play sessions; I have never been played with as much as I have been since becoming a submissive and this is something that I love. It is sort of […]
In my other life I am a champion for others. This is a good thing, don’t get me wrong, but recently I have been feeling that the two parts of my life are becoming more and more polarised. Actually keeping things separate is something that we have worked to achieve. […]
A to Z Challenge – D Three more great topics for today. DOMINANCE. For me, without that there would be no submission, at least in the form that it exists now. HisLordship is not a Dominant, he is my Dominant and I am not a submissive, I am his submissive and […]
So we were lying there this Sunday morning enjoying a slow start to the day. We had woken up at the usual time and were snuggled up with ipads, catching up on social media. There was no rush so we enjoyed the time that we had but after a while […]
So this is sort of a part two to yesterday’s post and came from the discussion with HisLordship following him reading it. He was asking me questions and talking about how the constant discussion and analysis of things at home when I was young had not only led to me […]