sexy is

Sexy is as sexy does

I have made no secret of the fact that recently I have struggled to feel sexy. But I have also struggled to take my own advice. I know that I need to make some changes but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. But enough of the doom and gloom: Other times […]

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Is masturbation selfish

Is Masturbation within a relationship selfish?

Question: Is Masturbation Selfish? The topic for the erotic journal challenge is whether or not masturbation is selfish. As I had been thinking about this a bit recently anyway, I thought I would get my thoughts down on the page and hopefully find out what others think too. The key […]

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My journey in submission

My Journey in submission

My journey really began when I met HL. He wasn’t HL back then of course, but without knowing it, I saw the part of him that HL would become. There was something about him and the way we interacted. It was exciting, it was full of promise and it felt […]

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Desires, Dominance and submission

Desires, Dominance and submission

The Difficulty with our Desires Many of us are never able to have our desires met for one reason or another. This might be to do with the fact that we keep them to ourselves and feel unable to share them, or it might be that we have not found […]

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wearing his collar and cuffs out to dinner

Wearing his collar and cuffs

I get ready as usual in the clothes that we have agreed I will wear. I see that on the counter, he has set out my play collar and cuffs.  It is not unusual to see them because often a hotel stay will include some heavier play and I know […]

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encouraging dominance

5 things that encourage Dominance

If you are like me, Dominance might be something that you crave. If you are also like me, it might be something that you ask your partner for. In my case he said yes and he did become my Dom. But it is not always the case that wanting is […]

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Dom in a suit

Dom in a Suit

Dom in a suit is a post which follows on from When it’s complicated, and gives a little more detail about one of the main ways that our dynamic was affected by the shift caused by the work situation that we found ourselves in. It marks the return of HL to […]

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What is Dominance

What is Dominance?

The Tell Me About prompt this time is Dominance. I have written before about why I feel that I have A Need for Domination on an emotional level, and have also explored Why Dominance turns me on in a more recent post. What I don’t think I have ever really been able […]

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Why Dominance Turns Me On

Why Dominance turns me on

More and more I am realising that it is Dominance that turns me on. I am not sure why I am surprised about this as it was one of the things which initially encouraged me to ask HL to be my Dominant, but I at points we have got lost […]

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Strength - Anais Nin quote

Strength and submission

“I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.”  Anais Nin The prompt for […]

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exploring bondage

Exploring Bondage

Bondage is an interesting topic for me to write about and it is not something I have written about much before. Synonymous with the image of BDSM, and yet it is probably one of my lesser kinks. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy to be tied, restrained, spread and […]

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play

Play with me and play with you

Play is a huge part of our relationship. Much of our connection is fuelled by the closeness that arises from our play sessions; I have never been played with as much as I have been since becoming a submissive and this is something that I love. It is sort of […]

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The other me

In my other life I am a champion for others. This is a good thing, don’t get me wrong, but recently I have been feeling that the two parts of my life are becoming more and more polarised. Actually keeping things separate is something that we have worked to achieve. […]

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Dominance, Drop and and Discipline

A to Z Challenge – D Three more great topics for today. DOMINANCE. For me, without that there would be no submission, at least in the form that it exists now. HisLordship is not a Dominant, he is my Dominant and I am not a submissive, I am his submissive and […]

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Submissive Power

So we were lying there this Sunday morning enjoying a slow start to the day. We had woken up at the usual time and were snuggled up with ipads, catching up on social media. There was no rush so we enjoyed the time that we had but after a while […]

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Being Self-Conscious

So this is sort of a part two to yesterday’s post and came from the discussion with HisLordship following him reading it. He was asking me questions and talking about how the constant discussion and analysis of things at home when I was young had not only led to me […]

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missing you - video still from snow patrol turn the fire to the third bar

No. 6 – missing you

Number 6 for our advent calendar was Missing You. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfa9yxCpWoA I love this song and sent it to HisLordship this morning to let him know how I am feeling being apart from him. I like Snow Patrol anyway and have listened to them since I bought their first album back […]

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light-bulb moments

Ahhhhhh!

I feel like I have had one of those great light-bulb moments of enlightenment about my submission, HisLordships’s Dominance and how that works within our D/s relationship. How has this come about three years down the road? Like most things really. By chance, by being open to new things, by […]

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darkness

Darkness

I have always been attracted to the darkness.  I don’t know what it is about it but there is something about the mystery of it all that makes it appealing. Obviously real darkness is different but the dark side of a person, all their hidden desires and wants is something […]

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