The thing about vanilla …. I don’t usually do vanilla. I gave it up as my flavour when I embraced the world of D/s and kink and, being honest, I have never really looked back. Not that there is anything wrong with vanilla sex, it can actually be a very […]
What a weird year 2021 was an odd year. After the strangeness of 2020, I think that I, like many others, thought things would get back to normal. Nope. We started with a second national lockdown and all the surreal events of the previous year continued. The world has changed, […]
He kept her on a leash, not because he saw her as being lower or less than him, but because he was more certain of her value than he had ever been about anything. It wasn’t because he thought that she might run either. She was so very obedient and […]
He puts her in position and he waits. It takes five minutes until she accepts that she is going to be displayed like this. Objectified. A pretty piece of furniture for them to look at. He waits. After 10 minutes her muscles ache and she wonders if she can keep […]
The best advice I have to give The best advice I have for those of you who are thinking about starting out in a D/s lifestyle is to find what fits and to make it your own. There are many who will tell you what you should do, and think […]
There are lots of misunderstandings about Dominance and submission. One of these is the idea that ownership is a negative thing. For a submissive this is not the case. Ownership and the sense of feeling owned or belonging to someone is a powerful and beautiful thing. It is not about […]
Feeling like a change is needed I have been talking about feeling I wanted things to change for a long time. My impatience to see results has spilled over into my writing and I feel that I am going over the same ground quite a lot of the time. But […]
I have been meaning to write a post about topping from the bottom for a while. For quite a long time, in fact. Why? Because it is a term which is bandied around in submissive circles and I often disagree with its use. Technically speaking, topping from the bottom is […]
“The deeper the blue becomes, the more strongly it calls man towards the infinite, awakening in him a desire for the pure and, finally, for the supernatural … The brighter it becomes, the more it loses its sound, until it turns into silent stillness and becomes white.” Wassily Kandinsky Sometimes […]
Why we decided to try electric sex The topic for Tell Me About… this time is Electroplay. This is something I have written about quite a bit and, if you are interested, I have linked the posts at the bottom. Suffice to say, we enjoy electroplay. We have an ElectraStim […]
Finding your Comfort Zone We all seek comfort. Why wouldn’t we? Ultimately a place where we feel safe and in control is what we are stacked to aim for. Comfort is a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint so it is natural that as people we […]
I am a married wife who has recently started to explore her submissiveness. Since my husband is not a Dominant I am currently being trained by a Male Dom who is fully aware of my marriage and my husband’s complete support. I W ould love to connect with other sub […]
I suppose I was aware that there was an ‘orgasm gap’ but had never really heard it being referred to or discussed before seeing it highlighted May’s 4 Thoughts prompt. Basically the term refers to an issue in predominantly cis gendered hetero-sexual couples where the focus in on PIV sex […]
It might seem that focussing on the needs and desires of your partner would leave you open to being taken advantage of and not able to fully have your own needs met. I think that this can be a common misconception of those who do not have a full understanding […]
He positioned her on a chair and told her not to move. She was very self-conscious to begin with. The sheer blouse covering her left little to the imagination, but once his friends were assembled and began their evening, things changed. They laughed and chatted in small groups, so hardly […]
He has watched her for days now, his study. The details of every move and mannerism, the intonation of her voice, the cadence of her laughter. He know her as his. He has traced the lines of her body with the fingertip of his mind’s eye, the curve of her […]
What happens when life gets in the way? Well from experience it impacts your power exchange and your D/s relationship. Clearly I write from the viewpoint of a full time lifestyle dynamic but I think that whatever set up you have, significant life events will have an impact. Obviously sometimes […]
Do you have any recommendations for books about married D/s relationships? i love to hold the printed word in my hand. I refer to your website, but i was just wondering if you have any books that you like to refer to. I have searched amazon, but i value your […]
This is a big one: defining and coming to terms with the kind of submissive I am. In some ways, I feel like a little. I often call him “Daddy” as that’s something I called him before we started this, and I fought calling him that as my Dom for […]
I saw Marie had posted something for Mrs Fever’s new Saturday writing project. Although Marie’s was a 100 word story, that isn’t a requirement of joining in, but I thought that I would give it a go. So here is my own drabble. Sharing me is a fantasy of HL’s […]