disordered eating

Diary of a disordered diet ~The Road to Recovery

Content Warning. The subject matter of Diary of a Disordered Diet is eating disorders. Please don’t read if you might find the topic of eating issues upsetting.  I actually wrote this quite a while ago after I wrote another post and was trying to raise awareness about eating issues. It […]

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Control and D/s - the beginning and the end of everything

Control and D/s

The topic this time for Tell Me About is control. I really don’t know if I have any more to say on the subject. And yet I probably do. Why? Well because control is the beginning and the end of everything in D/s really. You can’t have a D/s relationship […]

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Perfect

Keeping up with Miss Perfect

It is not easy to keep up with Miss Perfect. She’s so so bloody perfect, after all.  Not that she actually is, she just sets herself standards which make it seem that way. To herself, and to others. It’s exhausting and it’s daunting and it can be quite destructive. Perfection […]

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Control Freak

The biggest challenge to my mental health is control. Ironic for a submissive who has relinquished control of a number aspects of my life that this should be the case. Or perhaps, it is not an irony after all. Perhaps it makes a lot of sense and perhaps the requirement […]

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Posts, Puppies and Pubes

So it turned out that I took a break from writing posts last week. This was not planned, it just sort of happened. But it has made me think, once I got over my feeling of guilt that is. And that is it! Why was I feeling guilty about something […]

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All about Control

All about Control

I am a submissive living in a full time D/s dynamic with my husband and Dominant. Assumption would dictate that I will be weak and dependent on a stronger (male) partner to make decisions and choices for me. It would struggle to imagine how I could be of a nature […]

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being vocal

Being Vocal

I struggle with being vocal during sex and play. It is not something that I have ever done and therefore it feels uncomfortable I suppose. I know that part of what makes things work well is to communicate your thoughts and feelings and I have no trouble with that in […]

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Control, Communication and Consent

A to Z Challenge – C It seems that C is a huge letter for me and I have loads to say on the topics I have chosen. Control plays such a large part in a Dominant submissive relationship and it is also a big deal for me as a […]

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Missy’s SoSS #1

I have seen the SoSS tag on Twitter before but never really known what it was about. More and more I feel like I have bedded into my cosy little corner of WordPress and not really noticed what was going on too much in the outside world. If I am […]

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All the fun of the fair

HisLordship and I went off the Torture Garden last night with our good friends and fellow kinksters, kisungura and Cuiplash. We have been before but not for a while so we were really looking forward to it. For those of you who haven’t heard of Torture Garden, it bills itself […]

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Body Image

I have been quite overwhelmed by the response to the recent pictures that I have posted here. I know that people are usually kind but it really has made me think about the body image issues that I have. In some ways I feel bad about it. I know that […]

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self-control

Self-control

I grew up in an environment which was quite tightly controlled. There were certain house rules and there were expectations of how you should behave. I think that is fairly usual and probably most homes are like that to a greater or to a lesser extent. Through my role at […]

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The painful truth

The painful truth

I have written about pain before and in my post Pleasure from Pain looked at the relationship between the two and how that works for me. I still feel that there is a very close link between them for me but lately I have come to feel that my response to […]

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Controlling Me

Controlling me

I was reading a post by Naughty Nora this morning, ‘The Surrendered Wife’, and it made me think that the strategy she was writing about, detailed in the book she had been reading, was one of the ones that I would use to help pupils to tackle anxiety. In her post, […]

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vulnerability

Vulnerability

My recent post on Humiliation attracted some interesting comments. I love it when this happens as I think that sharing and hearing from others really helps to develop your thinking. One such comment was from Jen. I know that a lot of you already follow Jen’s Blog but if not, and you […]

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