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6 Reasons To Use A Blindfold

There are lots of good reasons to use a blindfold: they can be fun, they can be sexy and in a BDSM sense, they can enhance the experience that you have in a number of ways. Sexually, I quite like to have my eyes closed as I am less distracted […]

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Labels – love them or hate them

The topic for Tell Me About this time is labels. Categorising and labelling in an essential part of our learning and understanding of what is going on around us. It helps us to link things and by understanding similarities and differences within and between these categories, to arrive more quickly […]

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The magic of Dominance and submission

The Magic of Dominance and submission

It’s a kind of magic I don’t use the term magic here to mean wonderful and refer to the fact that I love living a D/s lifestyle – “It’s just magic, honest!” I mean it in terms of the mysterious, mystical nature; the spell that it seems to cast over […]

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Sex and BDSM: Dominance and submission

Many people assume that sex and BDSM are linked in that BDSM (Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) is always about sex. I suppose this depends on your definition of ‘sex’. For me, all of these elements would have a sexual charge, I find them sexy too, […]

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Lola in fishnets

Things felt like they had been slipping for a while and she knew she needed to do something to get them back. It was hard though as in many ways she didn’t have the energy or the inclination. That was part of the issue really. They sort of mirrored each […]

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Self-harm

Self-harm has become a wellbeing issue which has been in the spotlight for a while now. I think with the rise of social media, it is something that is spoken about more openly and that is a good thing. However, I also think that self-harm is probably about as misunderstood […]

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Hungry Eyes – Kink of the Week

You know that feeling when you are looking at someone from across the room? Watching them and thinking about them and then they catch you? You glance away but your eyes are drawn back and you make eye contact again but your eyes lock this time? That happened to us. […]

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Thorns and roses

There are thorns everywhere, but along the path of vice, roses bloom above them. — Marquis De Sade   Don’t forget to check out the other Sinful Sunday contributions for this week  

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Sugar and Spice – spicy sex?

I have always been someone who enjoys sex. When I look back now that sort of surprises me as the type of sex we have currently is so different to anything that I had found before. The closest comparison would be at the beginning of the relationship when you are […]

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A Sensory Deprivation Hood?

It is nice when someone you know really well can surprise you. When HisLordship told me that he had bought something new, and then added that he wondered if he might feel even more Dominant during play if he couldn’t see me, I initially wondered how he would manage a […]

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Unexpected

Wicked Wednesday Prompt #307: What would YOU do with a million dollars? It was easy really as it had never felt like their money in the first place. They had bought the estate with a view to making more of it and that had certainly happened. It had been quiet at […]

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Darkness

I have always been attracted to the darkness.  I don’t know what it is about it but there is something about the mystery of it all that makes it appealing. Obviously real darkness is different but the dark side of a person, all their hidden desires and wants is something […]

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Hand Spanking

I have written about spanking before as it is something that I enjoy and is a big part of our dynamic so thought that I would try to put another post together.  Hand spanking is my favourite type of impact play and I love nothing more than being bared over […]

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Consent and D/s

Consent is a serious topic and it is a complicated and contentious area in BDSM. For us consent is always present unless a safe word is used, but in reality Sir would never ask me to do something that I didn’t want to. The level of trust we have is […]

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Hot Stuff

So I got my need met, and some. As it turned out, Sir had planned to play anyway so my cry for help was well timed.  I thought, actually that he hadn’t seen my post as I published it just before we started watching a film together with my daughter.  After […]

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A need to be used

I often feel that things build for me physically until I get to the point that I have a need for something more extreme.  This can be all consuming sometimes and it feels like it will only be properly satisfied by being physically overwhelmed by HisLordship.  I suppose it is […]

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Sensory Deprivation

Sensory play is a huge part of any sexual activity. From touch, to sight, to taste, to smell, it all works to heighten the experience; but within BDSM sensory deprivation can play an even bigger role.  When you lose one sense the others immediately become enhanced, meaning that the experience […]

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Living in the Shadows

As I sit here on a Tuesday evening writing this post for my married submissive blog, my kids are chatting in the family room and my husband is talking about sex toys and building bondage furniture on a skype call to his Dom friend in Norway. I realise that there […]

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Kinky

HL and I were chatting this evening about our direction and where we wanted our D/s to go. As often happens we ended up in quite an interesting discussion where we were talking about things we had experienced and the directions some of the other people we know seemed to […]

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The Doxy

I mentioned in my last post that we went to sexpo last year and that when we were there we bought ourselves a brilliant new wand. This has to be the single best toy that we have bought so far and although it was pretty pricey, it was worth every penny. […]

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