It’s not natural

I have had recent conversations with submissives who have said that their partners are not a natural Dominant. I find this a really interesting thought. When I first suggested D/s to HisLordship I felt it would work well because it fell in with the way that we were naturally. I […]

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A submissive mind

A submissive mind. Yes please. I would like to order one of these. Recently I have been having  problems quieting my crazy messed up head which is stuffed full of thoughts that seem to go round and round and round. It drives me nuts at times that I can’t switch […]

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I have always said that I am not a ‘service sub’. My evidence for this has been the fact that I don’t particularly like doing chores (it certainly doesn’t turn me on) and that I complete household tasks as and when required and because they need to be done, so […]

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Sir has been away from home since Monday and won’t return until tomorrow. The time without him has highlighted how much both me, and our lifestyle have changed since we became D/s. Unlike previous trips, this time he left in a hurry so there was no time to prepare, and […]

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When real life interferes with your D/s

I sort of feel it may be more appropriate to ask when real life doesn’t interfere with our D/s!  I think from the very beginning, well at least after the first week, things started to get in the way of what we wanted to do and where we wanted to […]

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The house that D/s built

Recently a friend asked me an interesting question. What is the bread and butter of your D/s? I had to think about this for a while and later on I discussed it with Sir as the process led me to evaluate what we were doing and discover why, at times, […]

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Sensory Deprivation

Sensory play is a huge part of any sexual activity. From touch, to sight, to taste, to smell, it all works to heighten the experience; but within BDSM sensory deprivation can play an even bigger role.  When you lose one sense the others immediately become enhanced, meaning that the experience […]

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My recent post on Humiliation attracted some interesting comments. I love it when this happens as I think that sharing and hearing from others really helps to develop your thinking. One such comment was from Jen. I know that a lot of you already follow Jen’s Blog but if not, and you […]

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Some Like it Rough

A number of women I speak to seem to enjoy rough sex sometimes and I guess that is why being Dominated can work for many. You are vulnerable, at the mercy of someone else, sometimes bound, senses blocked, just focussing on the sensations as the moment builds. I have also […]

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A need for submission

A Need for submission

My last two posts A Need for Domination and Humiliation got me thinking, again, about my submission and what that means for me, and for us as a couple.  I have come to the conclusion that while I like being submissive, it is being Dominated which switches me on sexually.  However, I need the […]

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A Need for Domination

Domination is my safe place. For those who are not in a D/s relationship it can be difficult to explain why this is the case and how it works. Sometimes it can also be difficult to explain to my Dominant what it is I need and why I need it, […]

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Surviving the holidays

Really this post should be called, surviving the holidays, with your D/s intact, or holiday tips. This can be difficult to do. There can be so many pressures on you – usually time and people – that keeping each other as your priority can be hard. In our efforts to […]

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22. Dancing Queen

The first time I danced for Sir for his pleasure, we were in a hotel and we were rudely interrupted by the fire alarm. My gift for today is to dance for him again;  I hope this time I will only ignite him and not the actual building! 

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21. School's Out!

Woohoo – last day at work and then no more school for two weeks.  So to mark the occasion, I hope to be allowed to be Sir’s very own naughty schoolgirl this evening. 

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Reflections on advent – so far

Part way through, not quite half-way, and I thought I would consider how things are going with my Submissive Advent Calendar.  It has been quite illuminating for me as a submissive actually.  I am not sure I have learnt anything that I didn’t know already, but it has certainly been […]

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4. Naked Bake

Today will combine two things – one my love of baking sweet treats for Sir, and two, his love for me to be more naked and comfortable with myself around the house.  Eeeek – I hope that he lets me wear an apron and that the kids don’t come home […]

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3. Christmas Stocking

Today’s theme will be Christmas stockings.  I am always happy to dress in as much or as little as Sir requires but he does enjoy it when I make an effort. So on my recent trip to Amsterdam, I picked up some sexy stockings and some other bits which I […]

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2. Naughty Lunchbreak

Sir has been amazing this past while in terms of supporting me with my ever increasing workload at school. Today, to show my thanks, I will skip home at lunchtime and fulfil his naughty wishes, hopefully brightening up his day.  Related post: Details of a naughty lunchbreak  

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Catch me if you can

The first thing with Sir is that he can catch me, and the second is that I know that he will catch me. This is reassuring to say the least; I trust him implicitly and he has never knowingly let me down. However, sometimes it is hard to catch someone […]

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Submissive Advent Calendar

This year I have decided that I will do a submissive advent calendar for HisLordship.  There are a few reasons for this.   One is that I thought about doing this last year and then ended up following something that someone else persuaded me into and it didn’t really work […]

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