D/s relationship expectations

D/s Relationship Expectations

To have expectations can be a great thing. It allows you to set standards and to measure where you are in terms of meeting your targets. Within a D/s relationship expectations are really important as they are a key part of the commitment that you are making to the other […]

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feeling feminine

Femininity and feeling feminine

I have been thinking a little more about what I wrote in my previous post about the fact that feeling feminine also made me feel sexy. I concluded that was part of the reason the D/s worked for us but that was something that I haven’t really thought much about […]

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Come Fly With Me

A journey always allows time for reflection and the way home from a nice few days break was no exception to this.  I am not sure why, but a flight out of Heathrow always includes a long period waiting for takeoff. With a window seat you become quite aware of […]

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Taking a Trip

Going away with HisLordship always makes me feel close to him. Today we set off for a few days away to visit his parents. Unfortunately this was not a full on holiday in the sun (if only) but rather a quick trip to the other end of the country, so […]

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Desiring my Man as well as my Dom

I think that anyone who has experienced the intensity of the physical connection in a D/s relationship will know that it is really pretty addictive. It is similar to the way you feel at the start of a relationship where you are overwhelmed by your desire for that other person. […]

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HisLordship was away for a couple of days this week. It is a while since we spent time apart and I was reminded of how intensely I feel his presence, even in his absence. The depth of our connection means that although I crave his physical touch, his emotional one […]

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One of the things that I like about being online and having a presence here on WordPress and twitter is that I am exposed to lots of different views, opinions and ideas about relationships and dynamics which have things in common to mine. I think that this is a positive […]

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Online FrienDships

It has been two weeks since I last posted and I am shocked at how fast things move.  To be honest it is the hideously fast pace of my life which has kept me away so I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised that the same thing happens in the virtual […]

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50 Shades Darker

Ok so I went to see the film. Actually we went to see the film but really it was me who wanted to go and Sir took me as part of the whole being a good Dom thing – ironic in a way. And I am sort of embarrassed because […]

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My recent post on Humiliation attracted some interesting comments. I love it when this happens as I think that sharing and hearing from others really helps to develop your thinking. One such comment was from Jen. I know that a lot of you already follow Jen’s Blog but if not, and you […]

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soliciting Dominance

Soliciting Dominance

Someone told me the other day that ‘When Dominance is solicited it will ring hollow. He has to want to change and choose on his own.’  I will admit I was annoyed and I wondered what the term ‘soliciting Dominance’ even meant.  Is that what I am doing, and if […]

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Some Like it Rough

A number of women I speak to seem to enjoy rough sex sometimes and I guess that is why being Dominated can work for many. You are vulnerable, at the mercy of someone else, sometimes bound, senses blocked, just focussing on the sensations as the moment builds. I have also […]

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My thoughts on rules are mixed right now.  Usually I think that rules are good; they help to keep structure and peace. They mean that we know where we are. We are taught from a young age that all we do is simply follow the rules and we will be […]

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A need for submission

A Need for submission

My last two posts A Need for Domination and Humiliation got me thinking, again, about my submission and what that means for me, and for us as a couple.  I have come to the conclusion that while I like being submissive, it is being Dominated which switches me on sexually.  However, I need the […]

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Happy Hogmanay

Wishing you all a very happy Hogmanay and a prosperous new year.  “Lang may your lum reek” is a traditional Scottish greeting for this time of year, which translated means long may your chimney smell, or rather, may your fire always have fuel. Clearly this is important in the freezing […]

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Happy Christmas

Whatever it is that you love to do, I hope that this Christmas you find the time and the opportunity to make it happen. Wishing you all a very merry Christmas. Warmest wishes, missy and HisLordship ?

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This Thing We Do

The last few weeks have made me realise that actually my effort at a submissive advent calendar is a good example of how I define this thing we do: ttwd; this D/s thing. It is an illustration of how my submission works and I think it is a good insight […]

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Reflections on advent – so far

Part way through, not quite half-way, and I thought I would consider how things are going with my Submissive Advent Calendar.  It has been quite illuminating for me as a submissive actually.  I am not sure I have learnt anything that I didn’t know already, but it has certainly been […]

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4. Naked Bake

Today will combine two things – one my love of baking sweet treats for Sir, and two, his love for me to be more naked and comfortable with myself around the house.  Eeeek – I hope that he lets me wear an apron and that the kids don’t come home […]

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