13 things about a D/s relationship

13 Things about a D/s Relationship, and a Bertie

Let’s start with some common misconceptions about a D/s relationship 1. D/s is not abuse And those who take part in it are not always victims of abuse looking for a way to manage it. While public opinion would have you believe that D/s relationships are abusive, this is not […]

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Foreplay - is it a thing?

Foreplay: Is it a thing?

I used to really enjoy foreplay. And other times I used to find it a chore. Now I don’t think we do it which sounds weird, but bare with me. Foreplay is what you do before sex, right? But what we do is play. Yes, often there is penetration but […]

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broken trust

Broken Trust

I have written a lot about trust and the need for trust in a D/s relationship such as the one I have with HL. In order to build this level of trust it is important to be honest and open and this can make us vulnerable. I am generally a […]

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An unrequited love for kink

An Unrequited Love for Kink

Unrequited love is usually concerned with a love which is not reciprocated for whatever reason. It may be that the object of your desire is unaware of your feelings, or indeed unavailable to you. It might happen that your love for them has continued beyond the point where you were […]

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submissive wife

What is a submissive wife

I have thought a lot about what it is to be a submissive wife and I suppose it starts with what submission is or, at least what it means. The meaning of submissive is: Ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive, Assuming this […]

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kink or fetish or D/s

Kink or Fetish or D/s?

I would have said that I was into kink but had no fetishes. Having done some research I am now confused. At times I have even wondered if I am still kinky. It is hard because I move in worlds where what we do seems to be the norm. I […]

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Sex as the sixth sense - picture of the brain

Sex as the Sixth Sense

Back in the 18th century, philosophers debated whether or not sex was a sense. This continued into the Victorian times with good arguments on both sides, but the discourse became sort of settled and the acceptance of only 5 senses was adopted. More recently discussion has started again with proposals […]

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Sex, submission and confidence

I have low confidence. That is not to say I am not confident in some things, knowledge about certain topics and stuff, but in myself, not really, no. I have quite low self esteem too. It is a fragile thing and although my life pretty much validates me, it is […]

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labels - love them or hate them

Labels – love them or hate them

The topic for Tell Me About this time is labels. Categorising and labelling in an essential part of our learning and understanding of what is going on around us. It helps us to link things and by understanding similarities and differences within and between these categories, to arrive more quickly […]

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The magic of Dominance and submission

The Magic of Dominance and submission

It’s a kind of magic I don’t use the term magic here to mean wonderful and refer to the fact that I love living a D/s lifestyle – “It’s just magic, honest!” I mean it in terms of the mysterious, mystical nature; the spell that it seems to cast over […]

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feminism and submission

Feminism and submission

I have mixed feelings on the topic of feminism. I believe in equality of opportunity and in a society which is inclusive and non-discriminatory. I realise that our world is far from achieving these goals and am supportive of those who try to effect change in these areas. I grew […]

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Nothing Lasts Forever

Nothing Lasts Forever

My friend Jae Lynne, has started a new bi-weekly music meme called Musically Ranting, which is hosted over on her blog. I really enjoy music and like taking inspiration from other forms to use as a stimuli for my writing. I have used the words from a number of songs […]

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Thoughts on celebrity - red carpet through town

Some thoughts on celebrity

I wonder if the view on celebrity is changing. For some reason, in usual circumstances we seem to love celebrity. We have a society which doesn’t just raise up the status of celebrities but actually goes out of its way to create them. I don’t get it. Well, that’s not […]

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our dreams

Sweet Dreams are Made of This

Sweet dreams are made of this. Who am I to disagree? I travel the world and the seven seas, everybody is looking for something. I have always like this song. 1983 was a good year and I love the 80s music and the way it feels. I have danced, many […]

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A hug a snug and a fug

I am a bit mixed on hugging. I do like it but only with the right person. I know that there are lots of health benefits to hugging due to the release of Oxytocin and dopamine, but I would be choosy about who I wanted to hug really. If I […]

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Ideas, and ideas, and ideas

I have lots of ideas. Ideas seem to come and go for me and flood my mind. I can get carried away and I often try to get HL to buy into these initiatives. Often he does, but he also asks questions and slows me down at points. It can […]

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The worst week

The Worst Week

Wow – what a week. I have honestly never experienced such a range of emotions in such an ever changing landscape before. I know that people are probably fed up hearing about and reading about the effects of Covid-19, but I often write to process because it is something that […]

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sport mat in arm

Being a good sport

I like to think that I am a good sport, but that does not mean that I am good at sport. Oh no. Sport really is not my thing. I am lucky that there is nothing physically wrong with me which prevents me being able to take part so it […]

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intent and impact

Intent and impact

Intent and impact, and the relationship between them, is something I have been thinking about a bit recently. There has also been some discussion in other forums around it and so I want to state my intent in writing this piece really clearly. This is about me and my response. […]

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