Mindful Masturbation

Mindful Masturbation

Setting the Scene It is a Sunday morning and I am sitting in the bath, about to  masturbate with a toy. It is nearly two weeks since I decided that I was going to prioritise me time and connecting with my body.  The fact that it has taken so long […]

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Time Management

Time and it’s management

I am not really good at time management. Timekeeping, yes, but time management, no. I think there are a couple of good reasons for this: The first is the fact that I set myself high standards and want to achieve the best I can, and the second is that I […]

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home place or person

What makes a house a home?

When I saw the question Home – place or person?, I wanted to say person because the people there are really what makes a home. I have moved house a few times and I am always able to establish a sense of home in a new place fairly quickly and […]

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Bathtime Fun

Bathtime Fun

HisLordship and I have managed to sneak away for a night to a nice hotel, with a nice room, and this rather cool bath.  It feels like ages since we had some fun like this together and although the bath and the room are cool, I am hoping that everything […]

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Priorities - motivated and ready to go

Priorities – motivated and ready to go

I admit I have felt somewhat motivated by the posts I have seen so far about people sorting out their life with relevant goals etc. I touched loosely on the way I wanted things to go this year in 2020 – Time to Explore and then in The List – […]

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My Shadow

According to the psychologist Carl Jung, the Shadow Self is made up of the aspects of our personality that we choose to reject and repress. Most of us never know our shadow as those elements remain in our sub-conscience and only manifest themselves through what he terms as projection, where […]

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Time to explore

2020 – Time to Explore

This year has been a strange one. There has been some change, but in the same sense, not much has actually changed. I have done a lot of reflecting and thinking about where I want to go with the various areas of my life, so it feels odd somehow, to […]

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Excited, Nervous – Save the Date!

HL and I have attended Eroticon for the past two years. In short, we have been inspired, motivated and enthused by what we learned there. We have also felt welcomed, included and accepted by a whole community of people who are altruistic, encouraging and who we are excited to be […]

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Astrology - chinese chart

Astrology – A lot of old poppycock?

I am not much into astrology as the title of my post might suggest. I did read the little blurbs on the back pages of ‘Patches’ when I was young so that I could check out what was in my stars for romance, but I can’t say that I ever […]

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Being the submissive

Being the submissive in our Relationship

First of all I would like to start by making a distinction that for me, being a submissive or the submissive is not the same as being submissive.  A submissive (noun) is the name for someone who adopts a submissive role within a power exchange dynamic, in my case this […]

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Friends

Back to Work

Next week is back to work for me. Having a 6 week holiday is fantastic although it means that I slip very easily into a different life. It has felt like a good fit and although I love my job, I feel a bit reluctant to go back to rushing […]

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punished for playing - Lying with the satsifyer luxury high fashion across the body

The Price to Play

I don’t often write about being punished and part of that is the fact that usually I am very good at sticking to the rules and expectations for behaviour. I am not the sort of submissive who pushes things just to see and am more likely to follow the correct […]

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Dom in a suit

Dom in a Suit

Dom in a suit is a post which follows on from When it’s complicated, and gives a little more detail about one of the main ways that our dynamic was affected by the shift caused by the work situation that we found ourselves in. It marks the return of HL to […]

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Complicated

When it’s complicated

Complicated is a word that I have used to describe the changes that we have dealt with over the past while. I try not to speak in negative terms because that feels unfair when we are so lucky and we have so much. What was difficult was dealing with the […]

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selfie

The Innocent Selfie

HL is a fan of the selfie. In fact, it is one of the ways that he uses to remind me of his ownership of me. Sunday: I will require you to send me a picture of you in your underwear each morning this week. A simple enough instruction on […]

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Crazy

Crazy for You and for Everything

Crazy feels good for me. It holds an attraction that I just can’t shake and this has been with me for a long time. I am very normal. And I know better than to use that word – it alienates and it excludes, but it is anyway. And in many […]

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risk

A Risky Business

This is the follow on post to Staying Focussed where I said that I was in a dilemma as to whether I continue down the path I am on, or veer either to the left or to the right. I don’t know whether to continue to split my focus between both […]

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Focussed

Staying Focussed

I have not written anything, or posted here, for a week and four days. That is pretty much unheard of in the history of my blog and it feels odd. It feels a little like I have ignored a friend, but while that thought and the accompanying feeling has been […]

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