Natural submissive

Is it better to be a natural submissive?

To what extent are you a natural submissive? What is a natural submissive? This one is a bit of a can of worms, and I do love opening those online as they so often lead to very good discussion. The idea of the natural submissive as the ultimate parter is […]

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Submissive Self

Break me and make me yours ~ submissive self

How would you describe your submissive self? I belong to HL and am his in so many ways. I have a commitment to him formally as his wife, and privately as his submissive. I have grown with him in so many ways over the past 10 years that we are […]

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Learn from others - best friends

The best ways to learn from others

How do you learn from others? I thought a good place to start writing again would be to pick up where I dropped off with regard to my submissive reflection prompts. Who doesn’t benefit from some submissive reflection? Fortunately I had made a list of them before I started (and […]

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I took a break

I took a break but I am not broken

Well. As you can see. I took another break again. This is the longest break I have had so far. But the fact that the past year has seen a few, probably tells me something. And I will tell you. I have wondered about whether or not continuing to blog […]

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Chess pieces - challenges to submission

The greatest challenges to my submission

What challenges your submission? The next submissive reflection prompt is about challenges to my submission. There is not one clear answer to this one as there are a few different factors playing into it, but I think it is something really worthwhile to consider. One of the main things that […]

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Submissive mindset

New ways of keeping a submissive mindset

What helps you to keep your submissive mindset? The third prompt for my submissive reflection is about keeping a submissive mindset. I don’t know that others always agree but I have come to see my submissive mindset as different to my submissive headspace. My submissive mindset is about the way […]

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Submissive growth

Submissive growth and how to make it happen

How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? The second question that I am focusing on in terms of my current submissive reflection is How do you want your submission to grow over the course of this year? For me, growth as as submissive […]

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submissive feelings

Submissive feelings and how to embrace them

When did you first realise you had submissive feelings and how far have you embraced those feelings? This is the first in the Submissive Reflection Prompts over on Tell Me About. My aim is to really take a long hard look at where I am in terms of my submission […]

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Beyond Black and white

Beyond the Black and the White

I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and […]

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The sex life I want is passionate, intimate and intense

The sex life I want This post is about the sex life I want, which is really the one I have. But I want it more: more frequently, more consistently, more reliably. More passionate, more intimate, and more intense.(But first ……a little digression.)I decided this year that I wanted to […]

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Top Ten

And now for the Top Ten

I don’t tend to pay a lot of attention to stats, but it can be interesting to look and see what posts have been popular and which haven’t so much. Often I think it depends on factors beyond my control, and it is not always the quality or content of […]

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When D/s doesn't happen

When D/s doesn’t happen ~ Missing missy

I feel like December sort of came and went without much missy. I missed her, and I missed being here, but somehow it just didn’t work out. I had been juggling too much for too long, and in the end it sort of broke me a bit. I have been […]

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back in the real world

Back in the real world

I can’t believe I have left my blog again. And for so long this time. I seem to come unstuck sometimes and it affects my ability to write. I become overwhelmed with things to do, I fall out of the habit, and for some reason, everything slips. It seems ironic […]

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Dom Worship

A little bit of Dom worship

For fear of enraging the D/s purists who scream “topping from the bottom” when I explain what I did the other night, I am going to tell you about a little bit of Dom worship that took place. I have thoughts on the whole topping from the bottom thing of […]

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Back on track

Back on track and back to basics

Getting back on track Sometimes you lose each other. It can be hard when you are used to the closeness to work out what to do about it and how to get things back on track. We have been talking a lot lately about what to do and how to […]

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Is masturbation selfish

Is Masturbation within a relationship selfish?

Question: Is Masturbation Selfish? The topic for the erotic journal challenge is whether or not masturbation is selfish. As I had been thinking about this a bit recently anyway, I thought I would get my thoughts down on the page and hopefully find out what others think too. The key […]

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Spinning Plates - time for me

Spinning plates and finding time for me

The irony that one of my last posts was about what happens when life gets in the way, is not lost on me. I have been somewhat absent from this space and didn’t really anticipate going back to work after the holidays would have that effect. It isn’t that we […]

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The shape of things to come

The shape of things to come – the naked truth?

Recently I wrote about the disconnect I have experienced from myself and the way I have been thinking about my motivations for some of the things I do. One of these areas has been photography, the pictures that we choose to share, and the shape of things to come. I […]

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