Online community

Joining an online community

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 5 Joining an online D/s community was a huge step for us. We had been operating for the past few years on our own trying to make things stick. We had found a way in terms of our newly found commitment to making […]

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Ready, steady, go – the honeymoon begins

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 4 Our honeymoon was mostly spent in the suite of a small hotel in the Florida Keys, serenaded by the sound of torrential rain storms caused by the tail end of a hurricane which had hit the Caribbean. Following a stressful build up, […]

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Bedroom only dominance and submission

Bedroom Only Dominance and submission

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 3 For one reason or another, despite our determination to embrace our version of bedroom only Dominance and submission, it was a bumpy ride to begin with. We were exposed to how well it could work, and there were more than snippets of […]

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You tell me we will play later and I hear the anticipation in your voice. You smile and go back to what you are doing but when you stand up later you seem taller as you look down and say, “Bed?” with an upturn in your tone that means I […]

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Bottom half

Bottom Half

This time for the Fun Theme Photo Meme the theme is half. So here is a picture of my bottom half which, looking at most of my images, is probably the most posted part of me. According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and […]

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erotic photography and where it fits

Erotic photography and where it fits

This post is about erotic photography and where it fits within our D/s dynamic. I have written about photography before, including pieces about publishing images, and also some pieces which touch on how it can make me feel with regard to my submission to HL. Over the years I have […]

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bit gag

Wearing a bit gag

I stay away from gags usually. Firstly I like to talk and so to be silenced is not something which appeals. Secondly, I have a bit of a saliva-phobia and so the thought of not being able to swallow properly and allowing myself to dribble and drool a little, is […]

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Where’s the Discipline?

In a D/s relationship the term discipline really covers quite a broad range of areas. While the one which springs to mind would be about rules and the subsequent punishment thereof, there are other areas where it plays a significant part. In my post about Training for The Safeword/s Club, […]

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asking for dominance and submission

Asking for Dominance and submission

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 2 It is all very well knowing what you want, or at the least, thinking that you know, but once you have worked out what it is, you need to be able to ask for it or make it happen. Asking for Dominance […]

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sex and BDSM

Sex and BDSM: Dominance and submission

Many people assume that sex and BDSM are linked in that BDSM (Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) is always about sex. I suppose this depends on your definition of ‘sex’. For me, all of these elements would have a sexual charge, I find them sexy too, […]

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pleasure like this

I have never known pleasure like this

‘Many of us pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that we hurry past it.’ Søren Kierkegaard The sexual pleasure that came with the practice of Dominance and submission, sort of hit me in a way which was both unexpected but familiar. It was like something I had always known was possible was but […]

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Just another statistic to crawl for

Statistically, the odds of her finding herself here had been pretty high. He liked to play games, but the games, of course, were never really stacked in her favour. Well only insofar as he knew her needs of course. He loved a spreadsheet too. He kept data on everything and […]

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sexual epiphany

How it all started – a sexual epiphany

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 1 The winds of change really started when my mother-in-law recommended a new trilogy she had been reading as holiday literature that I might want to consider. “It has, you know, sex and things, but I sort of skipped some of that as […]

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Being missy - Me, myself and her

Me, myself, and her – being missy

She is me and very much me, but I am not always her. I don’t know if that makes sense or not but I hope that it does. Being missy is an important part of me and, really, she has always been there although I didn’t see her there before […]

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A time to transform

“Within you is the power to rise above any situation or struggle, and transform into the brightest, strongest version of you ever.” I found this lovely quotation and it seemed apt. I have struggled to find out who to attribute it to, as there were so many different sources, so […]

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Offering an act of service

Acts of Service

I wrote about service before, back in August 2017, when I had various revelations about the fact that, despite believing that I was not a service sub, there were elements of my relationship which were acts of service and had a service function to them. My revelations came really due […]

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You twist my words

You twist my words

You twist my words, Turning and truncating them Into something new,  Slowly before my eyes. Letters shape and move, Syntax slicing through My nuance, creating Something I do not recognise.   Screaming the meaning, Disbelieving, I try to explain. Flowing freely the words fall Into the air, landing In neat […]

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Feline Fatale - cougar and sexy woman

Feline Fatale

Like a cat, stretched out, content in her own fur, she purred lightly to him. Crooking her finger, she beckoned, enticing him slowly closer. He went of course, why wouldn’t he? Why would he refuse? She was like no one else. There was only her and his mind was full […]

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seeing the sun hot tub

Seeing the sun

Things recently have been tough on all of us in different ways. In some senses it has felt that the slower, more basic pace of life has been a helpful breather, but in others, it is if we are existing in a pressure cooker of emotions. It has been a […]

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Haiku about waiting for play

Waiting – a haiku

He paints me in place,Pulls my mind into his space,Draws me out … and in. That moment, when I am waiting, something special happens. It may look like nothing, but, it is the beginning. I am not sure that my effort at a haiku puts it across as I feel […]

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