seeing the sun hot tub

Seeing the sun

Things recently have been tough on all of us in different ways. In some senses it has felt that the slower, more basic pace of life has been a helpful breather, but in others, it is if we are existing in a pressure cooker of emotions. It has been a […]

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Haiku about waiting for play

Waiting – a haiku

He paints me in place,Pulls my mind into his space,Draws me out … and in. That moment, when I am waiting, something special happens. It may look like nothing, but, it is the beginning. I am not sure that my effort at a haiku puts it across as I feel […]

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change

D/s on Lockdown – dealing with change

I have learnt, the hard way, that a D/s relationship is very susceptible to change. I know that all relationships require adjustments and tweaks in order to accommodate change, but I think, for us at least, the tight sense of structure and routine that supports a D/s lifestyle is easily […]

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wax play

Wax play – burning for it?

Ok I am going to start by saying that while I like wax play, I am not totally into it. I surprised myself by this as I have always loved candles – the look, the feel, the thought. I assumed that because I had played with fire as a child, […]

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In need of a spank

In need of a spank

“Why?” she giggled, nervously. “Because I want to,” he replied. “And because I have been watching you all night and my fingers are literally tingling to touch you. Also, I think that you need it,” he said, as if it were the most normal thing in the world to have […]

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The Fun Theme Photo Meme

Burlesque Baby – Fun Theme Photo Meme

I wanted to post this picture as part of a new meme which is being hosted by my good friend Sweetgirl. I know that she has worked really hard on this project and has been absolutely thrilled with the participation so far. So the idea behind the Fun Theme Photo […]

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Blue

Blue

He had always called her Blue. She didn’t know why, it wasn’t her name, and when she had asked him he simply said it was because he might get lost in her. She smiled up at him, and as the feeling inside seemed to overwhelm her, she wondered really who […]

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Respectful

Being Respectful

The Tell Me About topic this time is respect and usually I would write about respect in a D/s relationship. But I already did that in this post. I could also write about respecting the rules, but I already did that in this post. Respect is a big thing for […]

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Edge Play

On the Edge play

Content Notice: This post contains details of edge play including knife play, needle play, CNC and breath play. What is edgy for one is not necessarily edgy for another and this post has come at a time when I am not feeling at my most edgy. So consider this a […]

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date for a spank

A date for a spank

It is early on in our relationship and HL has told me that I have a date for a spank. We have the house to ourselves so he wants to make the most of it. He has gone upstairs to our bedroom and told me to wait 5 minutes before […]

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time travel - in white cowboy boots

Slipping in time

I am funny about messing with time. There are things I would change, of course, if I had my time over, but I wouldn’t go back given the choice as I worry that it would affect other things. I think that if you mess with what is or what could […]

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Codependency - couple with his arm around her

A couple of things about Codependency

I have written a post about codependency and D/s for The SafeworD/s Club which focusses on what makes a healthy relationship, and what a codependent D/s relationship might look like in contrast. I made the point in that post that although some people would see a power exchange as being […]

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Lines and shapes

Lines and Shapes

I like lines and shapes. Between them they seem to provide order and pattern and promise. They tell me that I can stick between them, or push past them. I can remain with what I know, or venture further, farther into things previously unknown. Sometimes we realise that conforming to […]

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missy in fishnets

Lola in fishnets

Things felt like they had been slipping for a while and she knew she needed to do something to get them back. It was hard though as in many ways she didn’t have the energy or the inclination. That was part of the issue really. They sort of mirrored each […]

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Valentine’s Date Night

We never really do anything for Valentine’s Day.  One reason is that it is so close to my Birthday and we have usually celebrated that in some way, and the other is that I am not really a big fan of commercialised days and ways to mark how I feel. […]

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romance - extract from valentine by carol ann duffy

Romance

I thought that I would start with the Carol Ann Duffy poem, ‘Valentine’ because, through her metaphysical interpretation, she turns on its head our preconceptions of romance, and I have always quite liked that. In comparing love to an onion, she covers many of the aspects of relationships which are […]

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blindfold

Blindfold

Blindfold in place, he starts. She looks so vulnerable and he feels himself pricking with anticipation. She wrinkles her nose a little as if to prove to herself that she can and he continues to watch her, making her wait. He can see her breathing start to change as her […]

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Fifty

Fifty has always sounded quite old to me so the fact that it is actually here feels a little odd.  I have thought for a while about the fact that I wanted to celebrate it though, because really, I think that it conjured up a different image in my head […]

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Submissive

For me complete submission is not about obeying rules without question, or about providing a service, or about having someone support me to push at boundaries that I have identified as being movable. It is about going beyond that, to a place where none of that matters anymore; it is […]

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used as ornament - objectification

Objectification as a Kink

I have an objectification kink.  I always feel a bit embarrassed about that because it seems wrong to want such a thing, but then again I guess a lot kink seems a little wrong, in a good way of course.  I don’t enjoy just any objectification though so it has […]

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