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Pleasure from Pain

Although I have always had a high pain threshold I am not really a masochist in the physical sense, although I do get pleasure from pain.. I think that I have a good level but when you play in the safety of your own home, without an audience, you really […]

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Consensual Non-Consent

This is a post for a number of reasons.  It is partly a follow on from my last post on Consent and D/s which became too long to add anything else. It is also partly in response to last weekend when we were away together and HisLordship requested the presence of […]

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Consent and D/s

Consent is a serious topic and it is a complicated and contentious area in BDSM. For us consent is always present unless a safe word is used, but in reality Sir would never ask me to do something that I didn’t want to. The level of trust we have is […]

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Hot Stuff

So I got my need met, and some. As it turned out, Sir had planned to play anyway so my cry for help was well timed.  I thought, actually that he hadn’t seen my post as I published it just before we started watching a film together with my daughter.  After […]

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A need to be used

I often feel that things build for me physically until I get to the point that I have a need for something more extreme.  This can be all consuming sometimes and it feels like it will only be properly satisfied by being physically overwhelmed by HisLordship.  I suppose it is […]

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Kinkless Sex

Sometimes it seems that there is a lot of focus in D/s relationships on kinky sex. Personally, Sir and I love being kinky and exploring that previously denied part of ourselves. But not all sex has to be kinky, and I think that when you enjoy a frequent and regular […]

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Sensory Scene

I am pretty excited as I had not expected a scene today but Sir told me an hour ago that he wanted me to be ready. Having prepared myself, I enter the room.  I don’t know at this point that it will be a sensory scene. He holds me for […]

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Schoolgirl Scene

There can be a variety of ways to start a schoolgirl scene but on this occasion I am simply instructed to have a bath, prepare myself, and then get changed into the clothes that he will leave outside the bathroom. I love this part of a scene, getting ready; it […]

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DIY DOM

Sir is good with his hands. This extends not only to how he deals with me, but also far beyond, into the realm of DIY.  It is great to be able to live with someone who can turn their hand to fixing most of the things that go wrong around […]

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Anal Play

Anal sex is one of those things that, once considered taboo, now seems much more mainstream. There has certainly been an increase in the numbers of heterosexual couples who admit to having anal sex and a survey published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2010 found that one in […]

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Sensory Deprivation

Sensory play is a huge part of any sexual activity. From touch, to sight, to taste, to smell, it all works to heighten the experience; but within BDSM sensory deprivation can play an even bigger role.  When you lose one sense the others immediately become enhanced, meaning that the experience […]

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The Reality of my Fantasy 

The reality of my fantasy is hard to explain. HisLordship commented in his recent post that behind my “‘come fuck me eyes’ lurks a mind probably full of dreams, like clouds of purple and red smoke whirling around forming new erotic shapes.” This reminded me of the poem pictured here which […]

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Humiliation

I have wanted to write about humiliation for a while; erotic humiliation that is.  I haven’t for a couple of reasons.  The first is ironic.  I am embarrassed that I am into it.  The second is that what we find a turn on is very personal and very individual and […]

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Kinky

HL and I were chatting this evening about our direction and where we wanted our D/s to go. As often happens we ended up in quite an interesting discussion where we were talking about things we had experienced and the directions some of the other people we know seemed to […]

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The Doxy

I mentioned in my last post that we went to sexpo last year and that when we were there we bought ourselves a brilliant new wand. This has to be the single best toy that we have bought so far and although it was pretty pricey, it was worth every penny. […]

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Story of the O – #6 Blended Orgasms

I think that this is probably the last of the orgasm posts for me; unless of course there is a type of climax I still have yet to discover, which could well be true based on what the past two years have shown me. To me, a blended orgasm is […]

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Evening 'Completus'

I do realise that completus is a made up word, but this is the continuation of my last post Evening Interruptus.  Having had our plans for Wednesday evening’s play foiled, Sir had postponed things until Friday when we would, hopefully, be alone again.  Friday was a little more tricky than Wednesday […]

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3D Reading

So, Sir introduced something new last night – 3D reading! He explained to me that this would mean that he would read my post while I served him using the topic related to the content of my writing.  He said that I was to do this last night for him […]

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Story of the O – #5 Spanking (impact) Orgasms

I have already posted a couple of times about spanking and the role it has in our dynamic (Spanking Uncovered and Oh That Sweet Sweet Spot).  In the second of these posts I have referred to the sweet spot and the fact that the repeated attention to that area can get me […]

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Story of the O – #4 Anal Orgasms

An anal orgasm was not something I was really prepared for and it came as a bit of a surprise. A pretty amazing surprise but a surprise nonetheless. We had been engaging in anal play for a while when it first happened. I think I said before that I had […]

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