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Warm up and cool down

I wrote this post for The SafeworD/s Club because our theme this week was warming up and cooling down so I wanted to focus on how this works within a D/s play relationship. These thoughts are based on my own experience so should be taken as suggestions only, as different […]

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Forced Orgasm Scene

The first proper scene the we did when we started D/s was a forced orgasm scene and it remains one of the easiest ways for me to reach subspace. To get to that point would probably be between 4 and 6 separate orgasms but with rolling ones in between. * […]

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Greedy

He has been forcing the orgasms from me for so long I have long lost count. I am so far past myself that I am no longer aware of what I am doing. I can hear the noises I am making but it is as if they are coming from […]

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Risky Sex

As a school girl I can remember my mum coming home after delivering meals on wheels to the elderly lady who lived across the road and reporting the she had said, “I see your eldest is courting.”  What the lady had actually seen was my boyfriend kissing me goodnight at […]

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Masturbation

I remember when I first started masturbating. I don’t know how old I was, maybe 12, but I recall the way it felt. Even then it wasn’t just the physical; doing it felt really illicit and I loved it. In fact the thought of doing it was so thrilling and […]

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Broken Rules

I am in trouble. Today I broke two rules in a very short space of time. This is really not like me as I don’t like punishment and also my rules are things that I have agreed to because they are in my own best interest. That being said, we […]

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All about the Uniform

The first few times HL and I got a chance to be together properly, he was dressed in an army uniform. I didn’t ever think that I had a thing for men in uniforms but I do look back at those times with fondness and a twitch you know where. […]

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Playing it down

I posted last week about the fact that sometimes people exaggerate or spin their experiences in order to make them seem more exciting, or more interesting, or more something else than they actually were. As a realist, this doesn’t sit well with me. However, I can see the value in […]

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emotional masochism

Emotional Masochism

I have always had a good pain threshold. Pain was always something that I could manage and make work for me so I probably would have said back in the vanilla world that I was a masochist, or at the very least, masochistic.  When we started D/s I was able […]

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Can I put my finger in your arse?

HisLordship and I knew each other quite well by the time we were actually together. As I explained in On the phone, we had talked about lots of things via phone and text and knew that our interests were outside the ordinary. I don’t know if either of us would […]

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On the phone

It is a long time since HisLordship and I engaged in proper phone sex. At the beginning of our relationship it meant everything, as that was the greatest medium we had for regular communication, but since living together we have used it less and less. Having said that, I think […]

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what we mean by a scene

Ready, Get set, Go!

The post Ready, Get set, Go was originally published on the blog at The SafeworD/s Club . Although it was co-written with HisLordship, I thought that it might be helpful to anyone visiting here too as clearly I can’t have the experiences that I do, or write about the things that I do, without […]

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A Play and a Symphony

It seems funny now to think of how far I have come since the first naked piano recital that I did for HisLordship. At the time, I was still very shy and body conscious. It was quite near the start of our D/s really and I was trying to push […]

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Fire and Heat

Well I asked for fire and heat and for some reason that is what I got. If only all good thoughts translated to wishes with such speed and such ease! Being honest I am not sure if it was the thinking that changed something within me, the fact that we […]

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Sensational

Currently there is lots of talk in therapy circles about mindfulness. Mindfulness is the name given to a technique where you focus on the here and now and experience the world, and your thoughts and reactions to it, through your senses. It is something that can be practised and in […]

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Playing Roles

I was pleased to see that the kink of the week topic this time was role-play.  I like role-play and I thought that it was something I could write about. Then I realised that I ALREADY HAD! so the post I would have written is there if you want to read about […]

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Telling Tails

This week’s Kink of the Week is tails so I thought I would explain more about what it is that I get from this kink. When I posted A Tail of the Unexpected back in March I said that wearing a tail was something that I once fantasised about but it […]

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Hotel Scene

A hotel scene often lasts longer than our regular scenes. Scenes at home either start late evening, or are fitted in during a couple of hours when we find ourselves alone; even when we have had longer than this, there will be distractions at home that just aren’t there when […]

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Exhibitionism

The definition of exhibitionism as, extravagant behaviour that is intended to attract attention to oneself, or in terms of psychiatry, a mental condition characterized by the compulsion to display one’s genitals in public, both have negative connotations. In the kink world, where there are negative connotations for just about every act we enjoy, […]

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Doggy Style – Kink of the Week

I love rough sex and I love being used. Not all the time of course, and it is probably only because I am in the relationship that I am that I want to be taken this way sometimes. To be pushed or commanded up onto my hands and knees is […]

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