The sound of thunder

The Sound of Thunder

I am hanging ON THE EDGE. My head is FULL of him, so FULL OF HIM. I can HARDLY THINK and I CAN’T PROCESS in the usual way. I WANT HIM and nothing else. I WANT MORE of what he is doing. I want him to TOUCH ME and TEASE […]

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Impact Play picture of crop on bottom

Impact Play – beyond spanking

Life Before Impact Play I often think that spanking is like the gateway drug to impact play. These days it is almost mainstream and, in my opinion, that has to be a good thing. Now, while I do feel that nothing beats a good over the knee spanking at the […]

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Spank me pink

Spank me Pink

I will be over his knee, my bottom upturned towards him. He is going to spank me pink. I feel silly laying over him like that. I am a grown woman and yet there I am laying like a child across the lap of my husband, waiting for him to […]

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A humiliating display

A humiliating display

This snapshot, a humiliating display, contains consensual erotic humiliation. Erotic humiliation is psychological humiliation which produces erotic excitement and sexual arousal. On a psychological level it can work by using what a person fears and is embarrassed by and exposing them to it in a way which is safe. It […]

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Dragon Tail

The Dragon Tail

The Wicked Wednesday prompt this week is Dragons. I thought about writing a Dragon Tale but then decided to write about the Dragon Tail instead. I have not written any fiction for quite a while. There are a couple of reasons for this: Firstly I prefer to read and write […]

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The Humiliation Game

The Humiliation Game

My phone pings. I check it casually and notice which chat the message is in. I feel a flutter in my stomach. I have been thinking that I would like to take a series of photographs of Missy for you personally. My stomach lurches and I don’t really know what […]

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A facetime call

A Facetime Call

We are out for a walk first thing and are chatting about the possibility of a Facetime meetup with a D/s friend we have. We have not had a face to face meeting yet and I say that I feel nervous about it. This is always the case with me. […]

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blindfold

6 Reasons To Use A Blindfold

There are lots of good reasons to use a blindfold: they can be fun, they can be sexy and in a BDSM sense, they can enhance the experience that you have in a number of ways. Sexually, I quite like to have my eyes closed as I am less distracted […]

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a spank an orgasm and an audience

A Spank, an Orgasm and an Audience

I mentioned in my post about limits and boundaries that we had been away with friends and had pushed some of the boundaries we previously had with regard to playing with, and in front of, others. Choosing to do this was not a conscious thought; it was more that we […]

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in Suspension cuffs

In Suspension Cuffs

HL tells me that tonight we are going to use the new suspension cuffs we received from Bondara. I am not sure what to think. I have mentioned before that I am a lazy sub and the thought of holding my own weight and making an effort sometimes stops me […]

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Taking more pain - howler

Taking more pain for him

When your partner acknowledges their sadistic tendencies, it causes you to think about your own masochistic ones. For me, my true masochism lies in the emotional torment that he can inflict via erotic humiliation. I have written a lot about the way that the thrill of shame works through cognitive […]

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Booty Harness Image

Booty Harness

I have a confession to make in that I have been a bad friend to ML in terms of supporting her Tie Me Up project. We have never really been bitten by the rope bug but we had vowed to use the opportunity and inspiration that her fortnightly rope prompt […]

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candaulism

Candaulism ~ Being an Exhibit

Candaulism, Voyeurism and Exhibitionism This is really the second part to Watching or being watched where I concluded that one of my key kinks was candaulism. Candaulism seems to be less discussed than its partner kinks of voyeurism or exhibitionism, but it is closely related. Where voyeurism is about gaining […]

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Watching or being watched

Watching or being watched

If someone asked me, I would say that I don’t enjoy watching or being watched in a sexual sense. I am not an exhibitionist and I am not a voyeur, and yet, there is something about it that does appeal to me. HL watches me all the time. It is […]

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Surrender

You tell me we will play later and I hear the anticipation in your voice. You smile and go back to what you are doing but when you stand up later you seem taller as you look down and say, “Bed?” with an upturn in your tone that means I […]

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bit gag

Wearing a bit gag

I stay away from gags usually. Firstly I like to talk and so to be silenced is not something which appeals. Secondly, I have a bit of a saliva-phobia and so the thought of not being able to swallow properly and allowing myself to dribble and drool a little, is […]

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sex and BDSM

Sex and BDSM: Dominance and submission

Many people assume that sex and BDSM are linked in that BDSM (Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) is always about sex. I suppose this depends on your definition of ‘sex’. For me, all of these elements would have a sexual charge, I find them sexy too, […]

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date for a spank

A date for a spank

It is early on in our relationship and HL has told me that I have a date for a spank. We have the house to ourselves so he wants to make the most of it. He has gone upstairs to our bedroom and told me to wait 5 minutes before […]

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hitting the marks

Hitting the Marks

I remember when I got my first mark from a spanking. It was a bruise and I loved it. I kept looking at it and it made me feel like a proper submissive somehow. It was my secret and it told the story of my secret life. It also made […]

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Sacrilege - the perversion of ceremony

Sacrilege – the perversion of ceremony

Content Warning – as the title suggests, this post talks about sacrilege. If this is a kink which you find offensive then you may wish to read no further. The Thrill of the Taboo One of the things that is attractive about sacrilege is the thrill of taboo. Whether you […]

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