Paddle

An impromptu Saturday morning paddle

“Go upstairs, take your clothes off and lie on the bed. I want to use the paddle on you.” I do as I am told and wait for him. When he comes in he gets the paddle out of the drawer and I see is not the leather and fur […]

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Emotional Play

Emotional Play and why it’s on the edge

What is Emotional Play Emotional play is a type of BDSM play which explores using situations which will make a submissive feel uncomfortable in an emotional sense. As with anything, it is important to see this play within the context of a safe and caring relationship. With any play which […]

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Dom Worship

A little bit of Dom worship

For fear of enraging the D/s purists who scream “topping from the bottom” when I explain what I did the other night, I am going to tell you about a little bit of Dom worship that took place. I have thoughts on the whole topping from the bottom thing of […]

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Electric sex - ElectraStim

Electric Sex – charged up and ready to go

Why we decided to try electric sex The topic for Tell Me About… this time is Electroplay. This is something I have written about quite a bit and, if you are interested, I have linked the posts at the bottom. Suffice to say, we enjoy electroplay. We have an ElectraStim […]

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Being perverted

Being perverted and why I like it

Perverted: characterized by sexually abnormal and unacceptable practices or tendencies I like the thought of being perverted. It turns me on and I suppose that is all the proof needed that it is a good fit. I don’t take it as an insult or as being a bad thing, more […]

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sex toys

Sex Toys ~ How we use them and the ones we love

Sex toys is the current topic for Tell Me About and surprisingly I have never really written about them before. We have LOADS of toys and so, although I am linking to Wicked Wednesday’s peep show prompt, this is more of a peep at a virtual show and tell than […]

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The sound of thunder

The Sound of Thunder

I am hanging ON THE EDGE. My head is FULL of him, so FULL OF HIM. I can HARDLY THINK and I CAN’T PROCESS in the usual way. I WANT HIM and nothing else. I WANT MORE of what he is doing. I want him to TOUCH ME and TEASE […]

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Impact Play picture of crop on bottom

Impact Play – beyond spanking

Life Before Impact Play I often think that spanking is like the gateway drug to impact play. These days it is almost mainstream and, in my opinion, that has to be a good thing. Now, while I do feel that nothing beats a good over the knee spanking at the […]

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Spank me pink

Spank me Pink

I will be over his knee, my bottom upturned towards him. He is going to spank me pink. I feel silly laying over him like that. I am a grown woman and yet there I am laying like a child across the lap of my husband, waiting for him to […]

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A humiliating display

A humiliating display

This snapshot, a humiliating display, contains consensual erotic humiliation. Erotic humiliation is psychological humiliation which produces erotic excitement and sexual arousal. On a psychological level it can work by using what a person fears and is embarrassed by and exposing them to it in a way which is safe. It […]

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Dragon Tail

The Dragon Tail

The Wicked Wednesday prompt this week is Dragons. I thought about writing a Dragon Tale but then decided to write about the Dragon Tail instead. I have not written any fiction for quite a while. There are a couple of reasons for this: Firstly I prefer to read and write […]

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The Humiliation Game

The Humiliation Game

My phone pings. I check it casually and notice which chat the message is in. I feel a flutter in my stomach. I have been thinking that I would like to take a series of photographs of Missy for you personally. My stomach lurches and I don’t really know what […]

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A facetime call

A Facetime Call

We are out for a walk first thing and are chatting about the possibility of a Facetime meetup with a D/s friend we have. We have not had a face to face meeting yet and I say that I feel nervous about it. This is always the case with me. […]

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blindfold

6 Reasons To Use A Blindfold

There are lots of good reasons to use a blindfold: they can be fun, they can be sexy and in a BDSM sense, they can enhance the experience that you have in a number of ways. Sexually, I quite like to have my eyes closed as I am less distracted […]

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a spank an orgasm and an audience

A Spank, an Orgasm and an Audience

I mentioned in my post about limits and boundaries that we had been away with friends and had pushed some of the boundaries we previously had with regard to playing with, and in front of, others. Choosing to do this was not a conscious thought; it was more that we […]

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in Suspension cuffs

In Suspension Cuffs

HL tells me that tonight we are going to use the new suspension cuffs we received from Bondara. I am not sure what to think. I have mentioned before that I am a lazy sub and the thought of holding my own weight and making an effort sometimes stops me […]

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Taking more pain - howler

Taking more pain for him

When your partner acknowledges their sadistic tendencies, it causes you to think about your own masochistic ones. For me, my true masochism lies in the emotional torment that he can inflict via erotic humiliation. I have written a lot about the way that the thrill of shame works through cognitive […]

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Booty Harness Image

Booty Harness

I have a confession to make in that I have been a bad friend to ML in terms of supporting her Tie Me Up project. We have never really been bitten by the rope bug but we had vowed to use the opportunity and inspiration that her fortnightly rope prompt […]

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candaulism

Candaulism ~ Being an Exhibit

Candaulism, Voyeurism and Exhibitionism This is really the second part to Watching or being watched where I concluded that one of my key kinks was candaulism. Candaulism seems to be less discussed than its partner kinks of voyeurism or exhibitionism, but it is closely related. Where voyeurism is about gaining […]

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