Writing about mental health and its relationship with Dominance and submission, this is a collection of pieces which aim to promote honesty and openness, and challenge some of the stigma surrounding mental illness.
With so many people struggling to manage mental health issues of one sort or another, self care and well-being are key. Writing in this section will focus on some of the issued but also on the positive steps that can be taken to try to manage. Includes being sex positive and body positive.
Sometimes I struggle to write. This can happen for a few reasons, but usually it is because something is in the way. Another thought, another idea, another set of emotions which needs to be processed before I can tap into the part of my brain which allows me to think […]
Last year I took part in Tabitha Rayne’s 30 day orgasm fun, a challenge about ‘masturbation for a mental health boost‘. Essentially, is about focussing on yourself for the 30 days of April and sort of reconnecting with yourself on a sexual level. Last year was a mixed bag for […]
Sleep is a funny thing. I know that I need sleep, but I have often resented the time that it takes up. This is silly as I know that our brains work when we are asleep and the work that they do is vital to the functionality that we get […]
Self-harm has become a wellbeing issue which has been in the spotlight for a while now. I think with the rise of social media, it is something that is spoken about more openly and that is a good thing. However, I also think that self-harm is probably about as misunderstood […]
The prompt for SB4MH this week is eating disorders. Actually, it is National Eating Disorder Awareness week, so it seemed a good time to write about this topic. It is something I have touched on before. I have been open from the beginning of this blog about the issues I […]
A big part of my job is in supporting children with their mental health. This is not an easy thing to do for a number of reasons. Firstly I am not a clinical psychologist, although that would certainly make things easier. And secondly, there is a growing number of young […]
I know they say that laughter is the best medicine and really this is not such a surprise. But when I tried to think of things which had made me laugh this week, I found it quite hard. That is not to say that I don’t laugh, but it tends […]
A really important part of a successful relationship is effective communication. Although we begin learning how to communicate with those who are around about us and will support us and meet our needs from a very young age, many of us are not truly effective at communication. Communication is a […]
The biggest challenge to my mental health is control. Ironic for a submissive who has relinquished control of a number aspects of my life that this should be the case. Or perhaps, it is not an irony after all. Perhaps it makes a lot of sense and perhaps the requirement […]
So it turned out that I took a break from writing posts last week. This was not planned, it just sort of happened. But it has made me think, once I got over my feeling of guilt that is. And that is it! Why was I feeling guilty about something […]
As this is the first Sinful Sunday of 2019 and also a prompt week, I decided to picture the letter F with all of the personal pictures that I posted on my blog last year. I started taking part in Sinful Sunday in February last year and what a year […]
I am always interested in mental health and emotional well-being and so I wanted to write a post for the Food For Thought Friday prompt this week. I do feel a little fraudulent, however, as I am fortunate that I don’t suffer from depression, so I did hesitate about posting […]
Content Warning: The subject matter of this post relates to eating disorders and self-harm. Bulimia nervosa is an eating disorder characterized by binge eating followed by purging. Binge eating refers to eating a large amount of food in a short amount of time. Purging refers to the attempts to get […]
I decided to write this post as I was reading A Tale of Long Ago and also talking to a friend about my past relationship. This is not a D/s related post as it is about insecure attachment but I hope it might help anyone who has, or is in a […]
When I heard about this orgasm project I was keen to take part. It was the mental health/wellbeing thing that got me really as it is always an issue that has my support; anything that can improve or highlight things so that the stigma falls away the better. And what […]
April here we come! As is often the case, I like to set myself a challenge now and then and the start of the holidays is always a good time for me as I usually have more time than during the term and so sign myself up to take on […]
I have been quite overwhelmed by the response to the recent pictures that I have posted here. I know that people are usually kind but it really has made me think about the body image issues that I have. In some ways I feel bad about it. I know that […]
So this is sort of a part two to yesterday’s post and came from the discussion with HisLordship following him reading it. He was asking me questions and talking about how the constant discussion and analysis of things at home when I was young had not only led to me […]
I grew up in an environment which was quite tightly controlled. There were certain house rules and there were expectations of how you should behave. I think that is fairly usual and probably most homes are like that to a greater or to a lesser extent. Through my role at […]
Tomorrow is World Metal Health day so I wanted to take a minute just to raise awareness for that. At work we are saying hello yellow by wearing a ‘touch of yellow’ in order to highlight this as there are growing numbers of young people in schools who are managing […]