The Fun Theme Photo Meme

Burlesque Baby – Fun Theme Photo Meme

I wanted to post this picture as part of a new meme which is being hosted by my good friend Sweetgirl. I know that she has worked really hard on this project and has been absolutely thrilled with the participation so far. So the idea behind the Fun Theme Photo […]

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caveman brain

My Caveman Brain

Anxiety is something that we all feel and it comes from our caveman brain. It is natural to feel it. It is a good thing and it keeps us safe from danger and helps us to problem solve. But for some anxiety can take over and it can become an […]

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time travel - in white cowboy boots

Slipping in time

I am funny about messing with time. There are things I would change, of course, if I had my time over, but I wouldn’t go back given the choice as I worry that it would affect other things. I think that if you mess with what is or what could […]

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Valentine’s Date Night

We never really do anything for Valentine’s Day.  One reason is that it is so close to my Birthday and we have usually celebrated that in some way, and the other is that I am not really a big fan of commercialised days and ways to mark how I feel. […]

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romance - extract from valentine by carol ann duffy

Romance

I thought that I would start with the Carol Ann Duffy poem, ‘Valentine’ because, through her metaphysical interpretation, she turns on its head our preconceptions of romance, and I have always quite liked that. In comparing love to an onion, she covers many of the aspects of relationships which are […]

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Fifty

Fifty has always sounded quite old to me so the fact that it is actually here feels a little odd.  I have thought for a while about the fact that I wanted to celebrate it though, because really, I think that it conjured up a different image in my head […]

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Mindful Masturbation

Mindful Masturbation

Setting the Scene It is a Sunday morning and I am sitting in the bath, about to  masturbate with a toy. It is nearly two weeks since I decided that I was going to prioritise me time and connecting with my body.  The fact that it has taken so long […]

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wearing his collar and cuffs out to dinner

Wearing his collar and cuffs

I get ready as usual in the clothes that we have agreed I will wear. I see that on the counter, he has set out my play collar and cuffs.  It is not unusual to see them because often a hotel stay will include some heavier play and I know […]

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flaunting myself

If you’ve got it, flaunt it.

I am not very good at flaunting myself. I tend not to have the confidence to do it, although I would like to. I have been able to do it before and have enjoyed it. It has only come at a time when I felt really good about myself, usually […]

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self love

The things I do for (self) Love

Let me start by saying that I am not good at self love. It is not something that comes naturally and I can slip quite easily into being my own worst critic. Like many things in this world, however, I know the theory, I just don’t always put it into […]

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Showing Stigma the Finger

Showing Stigma the Finger

I have been fortunate not to have suffered a lot of stigma in my life, but when I saw an email from Hot Octopuss yesterday explaining their #ShowStigmaTheFinger campaign, I felt it was such a good cause that I wanted to take part. Anything that raises the profile of a […]

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Lucky

Lucky is a state of mind

So, this is late and is not the post that I was planning to write at all.  I had planned a combined post about luck and about words to live by but it is not this post. I had sat down at my laptop and written one line of the […]

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White Shirt

The white blouse can be light and floating, impeccable and austere, sumptuous and all-enveloping, tight and close-fitting. It rises up to frame the face. It sculpts the body by transforming itself into a second skin. Imputed with glamour and poetry, freedom and impetuousness, the prim white shirt turns out to […]

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Sexy Pictures

Sexy Pictures

The first sexy pictures I ever took were for HL. This is probably partly due to my age. Mobile phones and modern technology have made it so much easier and more commonplace. The fear and embarrassment of where and how to develop such pictures is no longer an issue, and […]

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Glove and lace knickers

Gloves

There is something sexy about long satin opera gloves, and that is often the way that they make me feel when I am wearing them. They are one of those accessories that feel a bit suggestive, whether that is your intention when wearing them or not. This sort of suggestion […]

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reading sexuality and submission

Reading, sexuality and submission

Reading can spur a lot of erotic emotions, thoughts, and actions. Write about the books, magazines, or other reading materials that have shaped your sexuality. The first book to shape my sexuality was Nancy Friday’s ‘Forbidden Flowers’. I had masturbated before, and had even orgasmed before I knew what it […]

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Dressing for you

Dressing for You

“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.” – Coco Chanel Clothes can be like props to transport you into being something a little different. I have always like that part of dressing up, or indeed of dressing down. For me, getting ready is part of the […]

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self-care

D/s and self-care

It might seem that focussing on the needs and desires of your partner would leave you open to being taken advantage of and not able to fully have your own needs met. I think that this can be a common misconception of those who do not have a full understanding […]

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people in uniform

All about the Uniform

The first few times HL and I got a chance to be together properly, he was dressed in an army uniform. I didn’t ever think that I had a thing for men in uniforms but I do look back at those times with fondness and a twitch you know where. […]

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Poser

Poser

I have blogged quite a bit about posting risqué photographs of myself so I was pleased it came up as a topic for Food For Thought Friday. It has been quite a journey for me in a number of ways. Initially I wanted to do it for two reasons. The […]

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