Alone

I think we’re alone now

Well it looks like we have our empty nest. It has felt like a slow time coming, but also as if it has suddenly appeared upon us. I am glad that there are positives for us in having more privacy and time to ourselves as it is hard in many […]

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aging

Aging, sex and the mainstream media

I have a bee in my bonnet again. It is about aging. Again. It isn’t that I am fighting it. On the contrary, I would like to grow old gracefully, but aging with grace shouldn’t come at the expense of other things. I should be able to be gracefully old […]

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simplicity

The simplicity of a white shirt and black boots

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication Leonardo Da Vinci Sometimes it is the classic things which have an appeal. Personally I like the simplicity of a plain white shirt worn with very little else. I also love boots. I have lots of pairs and so it is fun to slip them […]

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Feeling Fresh

Turning the feeling into action

Feeling like a change is needed I have been talking about feeling I wanted things to change for a long time. My impatience to see results has spilled over into my writing and I feel that I am going over the same ground quite a lot of the time. But […]

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sexy is

Sexy is as sexy does

I have made no secret of the fact that recently I have struggled to feel sexy. But I have also struggled to take my own advice. I know that I need to make some changes but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. But enough of the doom and gloom: Other times […]

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Cervical Screening

Why we need to talk about Cervical Screening

Cervical Screening Awareness Week – 14 – 20 June 2021 This week is cervical screening awareness week. Despite invites for women and people with a cervix to attend cervical screening appointments via their GP surgery, there are still some who are not taking up this offer. According to leading cervical […]

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closing the orgasm gap

How to close the orgasm gap

I suppose I was aware that there was an ‘orgasm gap’ but had never really heard it being referred to or discussed before seeing it highlighted May’s 4 Thoughts prompt. Basically the term refers to an issue in predominantly cis gendered hetero-sexual couples where the focus in on PIV sex […]

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Why D/s is good for my self care

Why D/s is good for my self care

It might seem that focussing on the needs and desires of your partner would leave you open to being taken advantage of and not able to fully have your own needs met. I think that this can be a common misconception of those who do not have a full understanding […]

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talking about masturbation

Talking about masturbation

Talking about masturbation. Generally we don’t, do we? I mean here in these sorts of circles we do, But out there? Not so much. And I wonder why that is. I suppose like all things sexual, we are conditioned to feel it is something which should be kept private. It […]

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lost sex

Lost Sex ~ a short Sunday reflection

I am writing about libido for another post and have been thinking a lot about desire and how it works. I think in most relationships there will be times when you almost forget how good things can be, time passes, and you slip into a place where you are no […]

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Not the Menopause

It’s not the menopause, well not as we know it

So I wanted to write about early signs of the menopause. This is the monthly prompt for The Menopause Diaries and unfortunately I am late for March rather than early for April. However, highlighting the trials and tribulations of the menopause is a positive thing to do, if not a […]

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MILF

So you want to be a MILF?

Actually I wouldn’t mind being a MILF again. I know it’s not always taken as a compliment but as someone who has moved out of my milfing years I am sort of sorry to see them go. I am not sure what age you have to be to be a […]

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Find what makes you feel sexy

Find what makes you feel sexy

I suppose this is a bit of a follow up to my last post where I said that I was finding it hard to feel sexy. Basically I know that this starts with me because it is a mindset I have fallen in to. I think it has happened for […]

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fresh start

Every day is a fresh start ~ C for challenge

When life feels reduced in so many ways, it can be difficult to see opportunities. It can be hard to see any day as a fresh start when it feels like groundhog day every day, no matter how hard you try or how much you might want to. Feeling inspired […]

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shifting focus and how to enjoy a smaller world

Shifting focus and how to enjoy a smaller world

I have spent some time thinking about this recently, because in many ways a smaller world is what we are facing at the moment. Focus can be so important and to focus on what there isn’t and fight and struggle with that can be really hard. I do feel fortunate […]

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be daring and find ways to surrender

Be daring and find ways to surrender

It takes courage to surrender. We are designed to want to feel in control of things. We crave routine and order and a sense of, well … things making sense really. But often that is not what we find. It can be exhausting when we try to control elements that […]

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Something sexier - black and white

And now … for something sexier

I have always enjoyed dressing up and my feeling good project is about that very thing really. All my recent reflection has made for a heavier and more serious feel so I was ready to write something lighter and something sexier. In terms of clothing and style, I love lingerie […]

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the feel good factor - cover

The Feel Good Factor

One of the things I wanted to come out of this year, was a focus on trying to feel good, about myself and about my life. This came partly from turning 50, partly from the craziness that has been going on around us in the world, and partly just because […]

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cleaning orgasm - cleaning the shower

A Cleaning Orgasm

Every Saturday I clean the house. And every Saturday I have a cleaning orgasm. I have never written about this and I’m not sure why. That is I am not sure why I have never written about it as I have written about most other things I do, but also […]

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