lost sex

Lost Sex ~ a short Sunday reflection

I am writing about libido for another post and have been thinking a lot about desire and how it works. I think in most relationships there will be times when you almost forget how good things can be, time passes, and you slip into a place where you are no […]

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Not the Menopause

It’s not the menopause, well not as we know it

So I wanted to write about early signs of the menopause. This is the monthly prompt for The Menopause Diaries and unfortunately I am late for March rather than early for April. However, highlighting the trials and tribulations of the menopause is a positive thing to do, if not a […]

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So you want to be a MILF?

Actually I wouldn’t mind being a MILF again. I know it’s not always taken as a compliment but as someone who has moved out of my milfing years I am sort of sorry to see them go. I am not sure what age you have to be to be a […]

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Find what makes you feel sexy

Find what makes you feel sexy

I suppose this is a bit of a follow up to my last post where I said that I was finding it hard to feel sexy. Basically I know that this starts with me because it is a mindset I have fallen in to. I think it has happened for […]

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fresh start

Every day is a fresh start ~ C for challenge

When life feels reduced in so many ways, it can be difficult to see opportunities. It can be hard to see any day as a fresh start when it feels like groundhog day every day, no matter how hard you try or how much you might want to. Feeling inspired […]

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shifting focus and how to enjoy a smaller world

Shifting focus and how to enjoy a smaller world

I have spent some time thinking about this recently, because in many ways a smaller world is what we are facing at the moment. Focus can be so important and to focus on what there isn’t and fight and struggle with that can be really hard. I do feel fortunate […]

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be daring and find ways to surrender

Be daring and find ways to surrender

It takes courage to surrender. We are designed to want to feel in control of things. We crave routine and order and a sense of, well … things making sense really. But often that is not what we find. It can be exhausting when we try to control elements that […]

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Something sexier - black and white

And now … for something sexier

I have always enjoyed dressing up and my feeling good project is about that very thing really. All my recent reflection has made for a heavier and more serious feel so I was ready to write something lighter and something sexier. In terms of clothing and style, I love lingerie […]

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the feel good factor - cover

The Feel Good Factor

One of the things I wanted to come out of this year, was a focus on trying to feel good, about myself and about my life. This came partly from turning 50, partly from the craziness that has been going on around us in the world, and partly just because […]

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cleaning orgasm - cleaning the shower

A Cleaning Orgasm

Every Saturday I clean the house. And every Saturday I have a cleaning orgasm. I have never written about this and I’m not sure why. That is I am not sure why I have never written about it as I have written about most other things I do, but also […]

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New Socks

Sassy Sexy Socks

It is always nice when things come along that you didn’t expect. I am very active on Twitter but my friend Posy knows that I love socks and she tagged me in a #ThighHighThursday photo theme which was being hosted by Indulgent Desires. I had fully intended to tweet an […]

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feel naughty

Never too old to be naughty

I like being naughty. I like it, but I find it hard to do sometimes. My self consciousness is a bitch and she kicks in and stops me from letting go, from being the naughty girl I want to be. It has got harder as I have got older. She […]

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Submissive photo challenge

Submissive Photo Challenge – Exposed

This week I was set a submissive photo challenge. The idea was for me to take a photo each day and post it in a group chat. I was told that the purpose was to focus my mind on doing something for someone else. Secondary to this was to push […]

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Hot legs

Hot Legs

Hot Legs Who’s that knocking on my doorIt’s gotta be a quarter to fourIs it you again coming ’round for moreWell you can love me tonight if you wantBut in the morning make sure you’re goneI’m talkin’ to youHot legs, wearing me outHot legs, you can scream and shoutHot legs, […]

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Feeling playful in a wetlook playsuit

Feeling Playful

I enjoy dressing up. Dressing up for HL is even better as he makes me feel sexy. I have written before about enclothed cognition and the fact that the right clothes can completely change my mindset for the better. I have been trying to celebrate this through a focus on […]

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Bondara flirt wet look cami

Bondara Flirt Wet Look and Mesh Cami ~ Review

I really liked the look of the Bondara Flirt Wet Look and Mesh Cami, Thong and Stockings when I saw first saw it on the their website, so I was delighted when Bondara agreed to send it to me in exchange for an honest review. I love clothes and I […]

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nudity and freedom

Nudity and freedom

I have mixed feelings about nudity. I can find being naked really liberating and sometimes I am totally on board with it, but my fragile body image and body dysmorphia can also make being naked an impossibility. My mixed feelings extend to taking pictures. I tend not to publish those […]

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Want to play

Want to play?

Some say I don’t play well with others. I say it depends on who it is and what they want to play. Click on the badge to see who else is taking part in MONOCHROMEROTIC or click here for more of my images

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seeing through things

Seeing Through Things

“It is said that wisdom lies not in seeing things, but seeing through things.” Manly P. Hall We are really lucky in that we are getting away for a few days. I have been looking out for clothes which will work. HL prefers me to wear as little as possible when the opportunity presents […]

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