As time has gone on, I have come to learn that erotic humiliation is probably my main kink. It is also a trigger for my submissive mental space so is something I write a lot about, both in fiction and non-fiction. Find all my writing on this theme here.
U is for Unexpected This entire experience really has allowed me to be more open to the unexpected. I realise how much I have held myself back in the past by needing to know the outcome and the direction of things. It is hard to trust that things will be […]
O is for Objectification Really, yesterday was excellent preparation for today, and I found that it helped to have some previous experience to draw on for what took place today. I was able to connect more easily with the discussion about objectification and the different forms that it could take. […]
H is for Humiliation If you had asked me before today whether or not I liked to be humiliated, I would have said no. Humiliation is the embarrassment and shame you feel when someone makes you appear stupid, or when you make a mistake, often in public, and who would want to feel like that? […]
There is a lot that I find uncomfortable about my sexual thoughts and a lot that I would find distressing for others to know about. While they are fantasies in the sense that they turn me on, they are not things that I would ever want to do if that […]
Astrid had wandered the shores for three summers now, begging for him to come. She had seen him in her dreams and, longed for what she knew only he could give. He could complete her. He could make her feel alive, although it seemed ironic under the circumstances. She didn’t […]
We have been meaning to try mummification for quite a while. It was actually one of the gifts on our advent calendar this year (and last) but for some reason, something has always come up to stop it from happening. HL had said this year that the gifts which had […]
I have been hurt sexually before. It wasn’t pleasant. It has happened in a few different ways but I think the thing that hurt me most was rejection. Not an outright knock back, but that night after night realisation that, despite offering everything up, it was not going to happen. […]
He has told me to make sure that I have shaved for him. When I get into the bedroom I notice that there are christmas carols playing and I wonder how sexy that will make me feel. He once played ‘The Carpenters’ and I had to yellow as the crooning […]
She had bought the laser lights for him, thinking they would look nice for Christmas. He had set them up while she was out, working hard to make sure that they fell correctly across the house. It hadn’t been easy and there was a lot of trial and error to […]
10 – Write me a fantasy to carry me away to an erotic land! This is something that we tried last year in the D/s advent calendar for 2017 and so we thought that it would be nice to give it a go again. And as fantasy tends to turn […]
I am a submissive living in a full time D/s dynamic with my husband and Dominant. Assumption would dictate that I will be weak and dependent on a stronger (male) partner to make decisions and choices for me. It would struggle to imagine how I could be of a nature […]
He tells me to sit and wait for him, naked on the edge of the bed. The new hood is laid out on the dresser, beside the lube and some other items. I try not to look at what is there, choosing instead to close my eyes. When he comes […]
I know that something is different when I go into the bedroom and my clothes are laid out for me. He tells me to put them on and something in his tone means that I don’t ask any questions about the dress he has selected. I get a flutter […]
“I don’t want to.” “I know babe. I know it is hard for you which is why it matters to me that you do this. If it were easy then what would be the point? Try them on.” Slowly, reluctantly, she slipped her jeans down. The temperature had dropped outside but […]
I have always had a good pain threshold. Pain was always something that I could manage and make work for me so I probably would have said back in the vanilla world that I was a masochist, or at the very least, masochistic. When we started D/s I was able […]
This week’s Kink of the Week is tails so I thought I would explain more about what it is that I get from this kink. When I posted A Tail of the Unexpected back in March I said that wearing a tail was something that I once fantasised about but it […]
The definition of exhibitionism as, extravagant behaviour that is intended to attract attention to oneself, or in terms of psychiatry, a mental condition characterized by the compulsion to display one’s genitals in public, both have negative connotations. In the kink world, where there are negative connotations for just about every act we enjoy, […]
A to Z Challenge – H They do say that the most important sex organ is the brain and for me that is definitely true. What goes on in my HEAD is a recurring theme in many of the posts written here on my blog, although I have chosen to link It’s […]
So this is sort of a part two to yesterday’s post and came from the discussion with HisLordship following him reading it. He was asking me questions and talking about how the constant discussion and analysis of things at home when I was young had not only led to me […]
I grew up in an environment which was quite tightly controlled. There were certain house rules and there were expectations of how you should behave. I think that is fairly usual and probably most homes are like that to a greater or to a lesser extent. Through my role at […]