As time has gone on, I have come to learn that erotic humiliation is probably my main kink. It is also a trigger for my submissive mental space so is something I write a lot about, both in fiction and non-fiction. Find all my writing on this theme here.
Words turn me on. This is no surprise really as the brain is the largest sex organ but talking the talk is a vital part of arousal for me, and for many others I would assume. In terms of Dominance and submission, I think that words are the key. For […]
This snapshot, a humiliating display, contains consensual erotic humiliation. Erotic humiliation is psychological humiliation which produces erotic excitement and sexual arousal. On a psychological level it can work by using what a person fears and is embarrassed by and exposing them to it in a way which is safe. It […]
My phone pings. I check it casually and notice which chat the message is in. I feel a flutter in my stomach. I have been thinking that I would like to take a series of photographs of Missy for you personally. My stomach lurches and I don’t really know what […]
We are out for a walk first thing and are chatting about the possibility of a Facetime meetup with a D/s friend we have. We have not had a face to face meeting yet and I say that I feel nervous about it. This is always the case with me. […]
I mentioned in my post about limits and boundaries that we had been away with friends and had pushed some of the boundaries we previously had with regard to playing with, and in front of, others. Choosing to do this was not a conscious thought; it was more that we […]
I have written generally about limits and boundaries in a post for The SafeworD/s Club. I wanted to make this post more personal to me and about a bit of a defining moment concerning my submission. More specifically it is concerning my submissive headspace, or my submissive space as I […]
Candaulism, Voyeurism and Exhibitionism This is really the second part to Watching or being watched where I concluded that one of my key kinks was candaulism. Candaulism seems to be less discussed than its partner kinks of voyeurism or exhibitionism, but it is closely related. Where voyeurism is about gaining […]
If someone asked me, I would say that I don’t enjoy watching or being watched in a sexual sense. I am not an exhibitionist and I am not a voyeur, and yet, there is something about it that does appeal to me. HL watches me all the time. It is […]
I stay away from gags usually. Firstly I like to talk and so to be silenced is not something which appeals. Secondly, I have a bit of a saliva-phobia and so the thought of not being able to swallow properly and allowing myself to dribble and drool a little, is […]
Statistically, the odds of her finding herself here had been pretty high. He liked to play games, but the games, of course, were never really stacked in her favour. Well only insofar as he knew her needs of course. He loved a spreadsheet too. He kept data on everything and […]
I have an objectification kink. I always feel a bit embarrassed about that because it seems wrong to want such a thing, but then again I guess a lot kink seems a little wrong, in a good way of course. I don’t enjoy just any objectification though so it has […]
In thinking about fantasies or, more specifically my fantasies, I have to admit that I have come quite far, for someone who wouldn’t discuss them and couldn’t write about them. It has taken a long time, and I have still got a long way to go, but I think that […]
I have written a lot about anal and wondered if I still had anything to say on the matter. But when I thought about it, I can see how much this is an area which has grown in significance as part of our D/s. Looking back now at how far […]
Public play is something that we both find quite interesting and therefore, it might seem strange that we have not done more of it. Although we have had a couple of opportunities and have give it a go, it is not something that has become much of a feature of […]
Well cast me out and curse me right now as I am going to be honest here; things which are taboo turn me on. That doesn’t mean that I am turned on by all things wrong of course, but what it does mean is that if I see something as […]
He had me opened up completely. I was on the bench with my legs in a set of makeshift stirrups made from cuffs and attached to a spreader bar which was suspended above me on the ceiling hook. I didn’t want to think about how I looked. It was more […]
“Up on the edge of the bath now and spread your legs. I want to look at you.” I feel awkward but I do as he says. Something trills inside me a little and my eyes lower, not as as a conscious act of submission but more as a natural […]
Obviously I set the topic for TMA and so want to take part. But I am also aware that I have written a lot about erotic humiliation here already and that is because it is one, if not the biggest one, of my kinks. I suppose the way I experience […]
More and more I am realising that it is Dominance that turns me on. I am not sure why I am surprised about this as it was one of the things which initially encouraged me to ask HL to be my Dominant, but I at points we have got lost […]
Why Erotic Spanking? We love erotic spanking. I suppose I could ask what’s not to love, but I know that not everyone enjoys it like we do. As you might imagine, within our dynamic HL is the spanker and I am the spanked, but we both enjoy what it gives […]