A Need for Domination

Domination is my safe place. For those who are not in a D/s relationship it can be difficult to explain why this is the case and how it works. Sometimes it can also be difficult to explain to my Dominant what it is I need and why I need it, […]

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Surviving the holidays

Really this post should be called, surviving the holidays, with your D/s intact, or holiday tips. This can be difficult to do. There can be so many pressures on you – usually time and people – that keeping each other as your priority can be hard. In our efforts to […]

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This Thing We Do

The last few weeks have made me realise that actually my effort at a submissive advent calendar is a good example of how I define this thing we do: ttwd; this D/s thing. It is an illustration of how my submission works and I think it is a good insight […]

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Catch me if you can

The first thing with Sir is that he can catch me, and the second is that I know that he will catch me. This is reassuring to say the least; I trust him implicitly and he has never knowingly let me down. However, sometimes it is hard to catch someone […]

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The Power Exchange

The power exchange that takes place in our D/s relationship is a key part of what keeps our dynamic alive, but it is not something which is easy to explain. I imagine that those in similar relationships can understand the significant part it plays, but for those who aren’t, or […]

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Two Years of submission

I decided to that it would be useful to think about the past two years living as a submissive wife.  I guess that really what I want to think about it how far I have come and where I am going to go next.  I have always believed that relationships […]

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Respect

I have been thinking a lot about respect and what that means to different people. In our D/s relationship respect is extremely important. Sir requires that I am respectful to him at all times and in turn he has the greatest respect for me and values me as being part […]

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Domination, submission and Trust

                                                               via Daily Prompt: Trust Trust is vital in any relationship.  It is one of the cornerstones and without it […]

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Meltdown – finding forgiveness

I’m calling this post meltdown because officially a meltdown is ‘an intense response to overwhelming situations’. It happens when someone becomes completely overwhelmed by their current situation and temporarily loses behavioural control.  I think that this pretty well sums up my feelings and behaviour the other night.  This is an […]

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Consent, Safety and Aftercare

This post is written in response to a comment on my last post Forced Orgasms. Thank you for the feedback lurvspanking. In the relationship we have, consent is taken as a given.  This is because we trust each other and communicate fully with one another.  We have discussed limits, both […]

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Collar Time

For want of trying to describe our current dynamic, Sir and I would label ourselves as 24/7. We are not, however, in a high protocol Dominant/submissive relationship full-time as there has to be space there for the other things that make up our lives; work, children, friends, domestic chores etc. […]

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Patience

Wisely and Slow

Patience is a virtue; not one that I would ever have attributed to myself readily, however. And yet, I can wait sometimes.  And I do believe that I have learnt better patience through my submission. When we first began this lifestyle I wanted to run with it all. But to […]

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Lightbulb – I need to submit

I feel like I have posted a lot about going back to work and feeling tired.  Actually, maybe it is more that I have been mad busy back at work and I haven’t posted much at all because of it. Anyway work has come between me and the things that […]

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D/s with kids

D/s with kids

D/s with kids is a topic that comes up quite frequently when I talk with other married submissives, particularly those starting out.  It is also something that I have been asked about by vanilla friends and family who are aware of our dynamic.  I guess that the fact that people […]

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Miantenance D/s

Maintenance D/s

I think I would have to describe this past week as a week of maintenance D/s, if such a thing exists. It hasn’t been full on, in your face bells and whistles that is for sure, but rather bubbling away under the surface, an ever present part of what we […]

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Actively Submissive

As good submissives we are all ready to submit to the will of our Dominants; we wait in anticipation of his commands, and try to meet his needs, wants and desires. But sometimes it takes more than being ready to respond. Sometimes we need to be more active and really […]

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Letting go of control

Letting go of Control

Letting go of control was hard (and I would be lying if I did not say that it sometimes still is!!!) When I met the man who is now my Dom, I was living as a single parent and had control over pretty much all aspects of my life (acts […]

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Communication

Communication 

I think that I said before how important we felt communication was in helping us to build and maintain our D/s dynamic. For us, the key foundations are love, trust, respect, honesty and open communication but really we have found that the communication is the glue that holds the rest […]

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Setting Limits

  In addition to the rules, rituals and tasks that we agreed to take on as part of our commitment to a D/s lifestyle, we also had a set of protocols designed around play and scenes. In terms of setting limits, we worked on a limits list quite early on […]

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Rules and Rituals

Rules and Rituals

One of the first things we did was to agree on the rules and rituals that would set the dynamic for our D/s relationship. How would it differ from what had gone before? Did we need a ‘contract’? Every thing that we read screamed, ‘YES!’, but with a marriage certificate, […]

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