13 things about a D/s relationship

13 Things about a D/s Relationship, and a Bertie

Let’s start with some common misconceptions about a D/s relationship 1. D/s is not abuse And those who take part in it are not always victims of abuse looking for a way to manage it. While public opinion would have you believe that D/s relationships are abusive, this is not […]

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nipple play is not for me

Nipple Play is not for me

I know it seems odd to write a post about why nipple play isn’t for me. I am usually positive about most types of play but really nipple play just doesn’t do it for me these days. I could say that this was always the case. And actually going back […]

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6 things I love about submission

6 Things I Love About Submission

The advent task today over at The SafeworD/s Club is ‘6 things’ so I decided to write about 6 things that I love about submission. Number 1 : Intensity The first thing I love about submission is the intensity. I have made no secret of the fact that, prior to […]

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D/s Advent 2020

Advent Calendar 2020

I have been deliberating what to do with my advent calendar posts this year. I explained in this post that for Advent 2020 we were taking a community approach and creating the tasks on The SWC. I have been posting in the Forum there and also on Twitter but I […]

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D/s Advent

This Year’s D/s Advent

As long time readers will know, for the past four years I have done some form of D/s Advent Calendar for HL. I began with my Submissive Advent Calendar in 2016 as a way of making a bit of a fuss of HL because he’d had a pretty rubbish year […]

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Elf on the Shelf

Elf on the Shelf

As a family we have never done Elf on the Shelf and I only really heard about it the last five years or so, and, like Black Friday, appears to be another of those things which we have adopted from the US. The idea behind it seems to be an […]

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fist of winter

Fist of Winter

Number 15 on the calendar for us was ‘The fist of winter’.  I have written about fisting before, and one post that I wrote quite recently was The hows and whys of fisting where I explain more of the nitty gritty to fisting. It also has links to some other posts […]

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Sexy Sleigh Ride

Number 14 of our advent calendar was ‘Sexy sleigh ride home – driver is missy in underwear.’ What could possible go wrong?  HL was off on a night out in town and the plan was for me to collect him and drive him home in only my underwear. Sounded simple […]

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Sensational Sunday for missy

Sensational Sunday for missy was actually sensational Friday. I explained that things sort of threw us off in my Christmas Stockings post but that we are working through our gifts regardless of falling behind. We may still be doing them in January but to me, that will only be a […]

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Christmas Stockings

Christmas Stockings

Christmas Stockings is part of our Festive Photo Shoot and is day 12 So any of you who are following our Advent Calendar this year will have noticed a bit of a hiatus on the posts. Basically things caught up with us and we didn’t catch up with the things […]

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naughty or nice

Naughty or Nice?

“Naughty or nice?” he said, indicating two piles of toys laid out on the dresser as she came into the bedroom. She looked from one to the other and froze. He had done this once before, put on that voice and said those things and, to be honest, she just […]

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cock worship

Cock Worship

So number 7 in our advent calendar is cock worship. This seems timely as I read a post earlier by Purple Sole on the same topic. In his post, PS asks the question, what is the difference between a blow job and cock worship.  Now that is the post I […]

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You light me up

The number 6 spot on our advent calendar this year was taken by electric play: You light me up – with electric – wired and ready to rock your world. I bought an ElectraStim kit last year for HL as part of our Kinky Christmas and we absolutely love it. […]

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TV and fondle under a blanket

Well the big number 5 was entitled ‘The Weather Inside is Frightful’. and it was TV and a fondle under a blanket. Actually nothing could have been further from what I wanted. We snuggled up and after the dog stopped trying to come between us by staring at the movement […]

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candy caning

Candy Caning

Well, number 4 was a candy caning – ‘apparently stripes aren’t just for the cane; they give them too’. I had been looking forward to this one.  We used to have a regular cane session on a Wednesday night but for one reason or another, it seems to have slipped […]

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Glass of christmas cheer

A glass of Christmas Cheer

Number 3 in this year’s calendar was a carry over from last year: ‘A glass of Christmas cheer.’ The idea behind this was some play with our glass icicle dildo (warmed up luckily!) I wondered whether to post about this because really, it didn’t work out so well but I […]

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Gloves because Baby It’s Cold Outside

Number two in our advent calendar was ‘Gloves because Baby It’s Cold Outside.’  I was pretty surprised with this one and it wasn’t really what I had expected. This can be a good thing and it was. The weather has turned pretty cold up here and I couldn’t seem to […]

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Christmas Bake off

Christmas Bake Off

So the first day of our calendar was ‘Christmas Bake Off’.  In reality this was more of a bake up than a bake off but it was about me doing something nice for HL. Not very sexy I know but I think we have found over time that actually the […]

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D/s Advent Calendar 2019

D/s Advent Calendar 2019

It is that time again. Well actually it is four days into that time again but although my post is late, my submissive slant on advent is underway. Actually we weren’t sure we would do anything to mark advent this year. I think we swayed because we have done it […]

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missy and HL exchange gifts as part of the D/s Advent 2018

Festive Fun – Our D/s Advent Calendar 2018

Well that is the period of advent at a close and, therefore, the end of ‘gifts’ that we were giving each other as part of our D/s Advent Calendar for 2018. I have posted about some of these activities and others I have left private. In order to be transparent, […]

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