How do I share my daddy?

How do I share my Daddy? Reader Question

How do I quell my jealous nature when I have to share my Daddy with his daughters? They are adults, but very much Daddy’s girls. I try to be the adult but I am his babygirl of 3 years now and we live together. It is becoming harder for me […]

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The magic of Dominance and submission

The Magic of Dominance and submission

It’s a kind of magic I don’t use the term magic here to mean wonderful and refer to the fact that I love living a D/s lifestyle – “It’s just magic, honest!” I mean it in terms of the mysterious, mystical nature; the spell that it seems to cast over […]

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How do I talk about my needs?

How do I talk about my needs? Reader Question

I have recently started thinking about the Dom/sub lifestyle. I’ve always liked stuff like that but thought it was wrong or not something I should get aroused or excited about, so I ignored that side of me. Recently my husband showed me his Dom side but I’m sure he thinks […]

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process emotions - F Scott Fitzgerald quote

Writing to process emotions

A block on the blog front Writing, blogging in my case, is a way to process my emotions and, in doing so, to deal with them. Recently there have been things that I wanted to say, but this has not been the forum for my words. It has been difficult […]

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bit gag

Wearing a bit gag

I stay away from gags usually. Firstly I like to talk and so to be silenced is not something which appeals. Secondly, I have a bit of a saliva-phobia and so the thought of not being able to swallow properly and allowing myself to dribble and drool a little, is […]

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feminism and submission

Feminism and submission

I have mixed feelings on the topic of feminism. I believe in equality of opportunity and in a society which is inclusive and non-discriminatory. I realise that our world is far from achieving these goals and am supportive of those who try to effect change in these areas. I grew […]

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Where’s the Discipline?

In a D/s relationship the term discipline really covers quite a broad range of areas. While the one which springs to mind would be about rules and the subsequent punishment thereof, there are other areas where it plays a significant part. In my post about Training for The Safeword/s Club, […]

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this is my truth

This is my Truth

Truth is important to me. Truth really is everything to me. Your truth is significant but my truth is essential. I am not keen on those who twist the truth and try to deceive others. I find them slippery and would rather deal with someone who was able to own […]

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What are we left with? – COVID-19

I wasn’t sure about taking part in Brigit’s prompt of Love and Life in the Times of Corona. I felt that I had written enough about COVID-19 and how it affected me at the beginning and I have sort of run out of steam with it, but really, that should […]

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asking for dominance and submission

Asking for Dominance and submission

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 2 It is all very well knowing what you want, or at the least, thinking that you know, but once you have worked out what it is, you need to be able to ask for it or make it happen. Asking for Dominance […]

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sex and BDSM

Sex and BDSM: Dominance and submission

Many people assume that sex and BDSM are linked in that BDSM (Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) is always about sex. I suppose this depends on your definition of ‘sex’. For me, all of these elements would have a sexual charge, I find them sexy too, […]

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Love, life, music

Love, life and music

I don’t know where to start with the challenge of creating a soundtrack to my life. I have loved and listened to so many different tracks and artists over the time and many of have developed a personal significance to me. I suppose there are always moments which stand out […]

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pleasure like this

I have never known pleasure like this

‘Many of us pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that we hurry past it.’ Søren Kierkegaard The sexual pleasure that came with the practice of Dominance and submission, sort of hit me in a way which was both unexpected but familiar. It was like something I had always known was possible was but […]

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Just another statistic to crawl for

Statistically, the odds of her finding herself here had been pretty high. He liked to play games, but the games, of course, were never really stacked in her favour. Well only insofar as he knew her needs of course. He loved a spreadsheet too. He kept data on everything and […]

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sexual epiphany

How it all started – a sexual epiphany

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 1 The winds of change really started when my mother-in-law recommended a new trilogy she had been reading as holiday literature that I might want to consider. “It has, you know, sex and things, but I sort of skipped some of that as […]

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Being missy - Me, myself and her

Me, myself, and her – being missy

She is me and very much me, but I am not always her. I don’t know if that makes sense or not but I hope that it does. Being missy is an important part of me and, really, she has always been there although I didn’t see her there before […]

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Nothing Lasts Forever

Nothing Lasts Forever

My friend Jae Lynne, has started a new bi-weekly music meme called Musically Ranting, which is hosted over on her blog. I really enjoy music and like taking inspiration from other forms to use as a stimuli for my writing. I have used the words from a number of songs […]

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picture perfect

Picture Perfect – avoiding the negatives

My issues with my body mean that things are never going to be picture perfect for me. The chances of any picture meeting the grade are slim, and there are always a lot of casualties along the way. This is hard for HL, who is often the photographer. I get […]

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A time to transform

“Within you is the power to rise above any situation or struggle, and transform into the brightest, strongest version of you ever.” I found this lovely quotation and it seemed apt. I have struggled to find out who to attribute it to, as there were so many different sources, so […]

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Offering an act of service

Acts of Service

I wrote about service before, back in August 2017, when I had various revelations about the fact that, despite believing that I was not a service sub, there were elements of my relationship which were acts of service and had a service function to them. My revelations came really due […]

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