D/s with kids is a topic that comes up quite frequently when I talk with other married submissives, particularly those starting out. It is also something that I have been asked about by vanilla friends and family who are aware of our dynamic. I guess that the fact that people […]
I think that for me this is true. Obviously there are many different types of love in life – the love of our children, parents, friends etc will be very different to the love of our partner, but to actually feel that love is always an incredible thing. It is […]
I think I would have to describe this past week as a week of maintenance D/s, if such a thing exists. It hasn’t been full on, in your face bells and whistles that is for sure, but rather bubbling away under the surface, an ever present part of what we […]
I want to share with you a letter that I sent to my Sir yesterday. The purpose of doing this is to show that not everything can ever be positive all of the time. Any relationship, especially one with rewards as good as ours, is hard work sometimes. We are […]
I guess that really, giving meets receiving is the crux of a power exchange, certainly one with a D/s slant. Making your partner happy and meeting their needs and desires is both fulfilling and consuming in equal measure. It becomes a powerful part of who you are and who you […]
What you will have realised from reading my blog so far is that I am married (to my husband and Dominant), we are in a monogamous relationship, and I am a submissive. We are both in our 40s, we have a blended family and we live in the UK. We […]
The night before last, Sir became unwell. This resulted in a journey to the hospital emergency department in an ambulance. For most of the night we remained there while they conducted various tests and in the end discovered that he had gall stones and would need to be moved to […]
As good submissives we are all ready to submit to the will of our Dominants; we wait in anticipation of his commands, and try to meet his needs, wants and desires. But sometimes it takes more than being ready to respond. Sometimes we need to be more active and really […]
Letting go of control was hard (and I would be lying if I did not say that it sometimes still is!!!) When I met the man who is now my Dom, I was living as a single parent and had control over pretty much all aspects of my life (acts […]
I think that I said before how important we felt communication was in helping us to build and maintain our D/s dynamic. For us, the key foundations are love, trust, respect, honesty and open communication but really we have found that the communication is the glue that holds the rest […]
I think that being kinky is something that you are and not something you become, although the realisation that not everyone feels as you do and wants to do the things that you do can mean that you don’t always get to explore as you might. I remember even as […]
In addition to the rules, rituals and tasks that we agreed to take on as part of our commitment to a D/s lifestyle, we also had a set of protocols designed around play and scenes. In terms of setting limits, we worked on a limits list quite early on […]
One of the first things we did was to agree on the rules and rituals that would set the dynamic for our D/s relationship. How would it differ from what had gone before? Did we need a ‘contract’? Every thing that we read screamed, ‘YES!’, but with a marriage certificate, […]
By 24/7 D/s, I mean that the foundations of the Dominant/submissive dynamic are woven throughout our relationship. These foundations are open communication, honesty, trust, respect and love. We have made a commitment to one another to be submissive (me) and Dominant (Sir) to one another and this is something we […]
Starting out on my D/s journey was both exciting and nerve wracking at the same time. Having realised in a lightbulb moment that what I had felt for a long time was because I was (or needed/wanted to be) a submissive, was just the first step. I still had to […]
You commented yesterday when we spoke that you didn’t know what went on in my head when we played and that you just had to trust I was getting something out of it. Well here is my response. What happens is that you transform my head. You take the jumble […]
I hear you come home. I am waiting. You walk in and fill the room. I am overwhelmed by what I feel. I want you, and to be yours. I can’t express it as I wish and want to bottle these feelings for a time when I can show you […]
At the beginning of our D/s Sir set me a task to work on kneeling and practising breathing and meditation. I was also to train to become proficient in 9 positions of submission so that they became a natural and key part of our power exchange. We have used these […]
I look forward to reading your thoughts and the lessons learnt during our journey together. Equally, I hope that others will find support here for their journey and that through your blog we can all learn something from each other that will make all our relationships more fulfilling. Yours, though […]