The Teacher and Me

The Teacher and Me

I could hear his voice and that became my grounding, my root. I listened and he kept me with him although the words were just like a caress over my skin as they didn’t seem to lodge in my brain to be understood or to have a purpose. In fact […]

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I dislike social media

Why I Dislike Social Media

Firstly, although somewhat contradictory to the title, I want to say that I do see positives to social media. It can be a useful way of communicating and connecting with others. I have had some positive experiences of it too, but I would have to say that I have also […]

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Unwrap Me

Unwrap Me

Unwrap me. Touch me gently and open me up. Unfold me. Slowly unfurl me and smooth me back out. Want me. Show me desire and need in your eyes. Take me. Channel my thoughts and draw me to you. Use me. Break me apart and set me free. Hold me. […]

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a spank an orgasm and an audience

A Spank, an Orgasm and an Audience

I mentioned in my post about limits and boundaries that we had been away with friends and had pushed some of the boundaries we previously had with regard to playing with, and in front of, others. Choosing to do this was not a conscious thought; it was more that we […]

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Limits and boundaries

Limits, boundaries and submission

I have written generally about limits and boundaries in a post for The SafeworD/s Club. I wanted to make this post more personal to me and about a bit of a defining moment concerning my submission. More specifically it is concerning my submissive headspace, or my submissive space as I […]

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in Suspension cuffs

In Suspension Cuffs

HL tells me that tonight we are going to use the new suspension cuffs we received from Bondara. I am not sure what to think. I have mentioned before that I am a lazy sub and the thought of holding my own weight and making an effort sometimes stops me […]

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How do I go slow?

How do I go slow without going insane? Reader question

My husband and I are just venturing into the D/s relationship. My type A personality and work don’t make submitting easy outside the bedroom. And his work schedule doesn’t make letting control go easy either. I’m trying to figure out how we take it slow but not go insane! Any […]

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Bondara flirt wet look cami

Bondara Flirt Wet Look and Mesh Cami ~ Review

I really liked the look of the Bondara Flirt Wet Look and Mesh Cami, Thong and Stockings when I saw first saw it on the their website, so I was delighted when Bondara agreed to send it to me in exchange for an honest review. I love clothes and I […]

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Peak outside

Peak Outside – peek if you dare

Following an increase in coronavirus (COVID-19) cases, local advice on travel and indoor gatherings between households has changed. The city is back in lockdown and after being reviewed it is decided that restrictions should remain in place, and will be reviewed again in 7 days. These measures will not affect the […]

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nudity and freedom

Nudity and freedom

I have mixed feelings about nudity. I can find being naked really liberating and sometimes I am totally on board with it, but my fragile body image and body dysmorphia can also make being naked an impossibility. My mixed feelings extend to taking pictures. I tend not to publish those […]

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Sex as the sixth sense - picture of the brain

Sex as the Sixth Sense

Back in the 18th century, philosophers debated whether or not sex was a sense. This continued into the Victorian times with good arguments on both sides, but the discourse became sort of settled and the acceptance of only 5 senses was adopted. More recently discussion has started again with proposals […]

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Taking more pain - howler

Taking more pain for him

When your partner acknowledges their sadistic tendencies, it causes you to think about your own masochistic ones. For me, my true masochism lies in the emotional torment that he can inflict via erotic humiliation. I have written a lot about the way that the thrill of shame works through cognitive […]

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Want to play

Want to play?

Some say I don’t play well with others. I say it depends on who it is and what they want to play. Click on the badge to see who else is taking part in MONOCHROMEROTIC or click here for more of my images

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seeing through things

Seeing Through Things

“It is said that wisdom lies not in seeing things, but seeing through things.” Manly P. Hall We are really lucky in that we are getting away for a few days. I have been looking out for clothes which will work. HL prefers me to wear as little as possible when the opportunity presents […]

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Booty Harness Image

Booty Harness

I have a confession to make in that I have been a bad friend to ML in terms of supporting her Tie Me Up project. We have never really been bitten by the rope bug but we had vowed to use the opportunity and inspiration that her fortnightly rope prompt […]

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Personality Type

I am an Advocate ~ Personality Type

Finding my Personality Type Influenced by my friends, I decided to take a personality test. The personality types are based around the Myers Briggs Type Indicator, which is something we use a version of at school with the pupils. I have taken the test with them and you come out […]

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Enclothed Cognition

Feeling Sexy – Enclothed Cognition

I have wanted to write about clothes and how they make me feel for a while now. I love clothes and I love dressing up. What I wear can really change the way that I feel about myself and I have found that if I feel good, I tend to […]

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candaulism

Candaulism ~ Being an Exhibit

Candaulism, Voyeurism and Exhibitionism This is really the second part to Watching or being watched where I concluded that one of my key kinks was candaulism. Candaulism seems to be less discussed than its partner kinks of voyeurism or exhibitionism, but it is closely related. Where voyeurism is about gaining […]

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