shifting focus and how to enjoy a smaller world

Shifting focus and how to enjoy a smaller world

I have spent some time thinking about this recently, because in many ways a smaller world is what we are facing at the moment. Focus can be so important and to focus on what there isn’t and fight and struggle with that can be really hard. I do feel fortunate […]

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submissive mindset

Focus questions for a submissive mindset

This post is part of the back to basics focus that HL and I have for our D/s this year. I started by looking in general terms at myself as a submissive and from our shared reflection and discussion, we identified mindset as being something we both wanted to address. By submissive mindset I mean […]

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the library

The Library ~ A Tale of Hidden Erotica

It is funny the things you just don’t know exist, until you do of course. I always think of people moving through their lives unaware of the kinky underworld that opened up for me when I first met Cathal. I had been like that too of course. Living on the […]

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be daring and find ways to surrender

Be daring and find ways to surrender

It takes courage to surrender. We are designed to want to feel in control of things. We crave routine and order and a sense of, well … things making sense really. But often that is not what we find. It can be exhausting when we try to control elements that […]

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Something sexier - black and white

And now … for something sexier

I have always enjoyed dressing up and my feeling good project is about that very thing really. All my recent reflection has made for a heavier and more serious feel so I was ready to write something lighter and something sexier. In terms of clothing and style, I love lingerie […]

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Submissive Goals - looking in the mirror

Submissive Goals ~ Looking in the Mirror

Setting Some Submissive Goals This is the third part in response to Setting Goals for D/s. It is not the final part because we will use our reflection to agree some joint goals and HL is still working through his. However, doing this has thrown up some things for me […]

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What I want from being submissive

What I want from being submissive

This is the second part of my response to Setting Goals for D/s which is part of a new Dom Sub Workbook I am creating over on The SafeworD/s Club. Part 1 was about my positive Submissive Traits and Qualities and also about the negatives ones which can be barriers. […]

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submissive traits and qualities

Submissive Traits and Qualities

HL and I were discussing goals for our D/s this morning. From that, I decided to reflect a bit and wrote a post for The SWC about setting goals which I hope to make into a Dom sub workbook. Having started the task myself, I realise that what I have […]

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The Gift of Giving

The Gift of Giving

I began to think about the gift of giving when I attended an event Some years ago where I was asked to speak about the value of developing philanthropy in young people.  In thinking about what I might say, I obviously had to consider the rewards of giving, and as […]

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A spanking story

A Spanking Story

Despite my love for spanking, it is a while since I wrote a spanking story, so here is one just for you. We have just had dinner and I have set down the coffee cups when the conversation turns to spanking. HL asks if Q has ever done it and […]

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The Best of 2020

The Best of 2020

2020 has been quite the year. I have written a bit about some of the negatives that have occurred but I have found that each has brought me some positives too, whether that be in the real world or the online world. Essentially this has been in the form of […]

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the feel good factor - cover

The Feel Good Factor

One of the things I wanted to come out of this year, was a focus on trying to feel good, about myself and about my life. This came partly from turning 50, partly from the craziness that has been going on around us in the world, and partly just because […]

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cleaning orgasm - cleaning the shower

A Cleaning Orgasm

Every Saturday I clean the house. And every Saturday I have a cleaning orgasm. I have never written about this and I’m not sure why. That is I am not sure why I have never written about it as I have written about most other things I do, but also […]

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Angels from the Realms of Glory

Angels from the Realms of Glory

Angels from the realms of gloryWing your flight through all the earthYe who sang creation’s storyNow proclaim Messiah’s birth GloriaIn excelsis deoGloriaIn excelsis deo The prompt this time for Monochromerotic was to create a festive photo. And what is more festive than an angel? I love the idea of angels. […]

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My journey in submission

My Journey in submission

My journey really began when I met HL. He wasn’t HL back then of course, but without knowing it, I saw the part of him that HL would become. There was something about him and the way we interacted. It was exciting, it was full of promise and it felt […]

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The sound of thunder

The Sound of Thunder

I am hanging ON THE EDGE. My head is FULL of him, so FULL OF HIM. I can HARDLY THINK and I CAN’T PROCESS in the usual way. I WANT HIM and nothing else. I WANT MORE of what he is doing. I want him to TOUCH ME and TEASE […]

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13 things about a D/s relationship

13 Things about a D/s Relationship, and a Bertie

Let’s start with some common misconceptions about a D/s relationship 1. D/s is not abuse And those who take part in it are not always victims of abuse looking for a way to manage it. While public opinion would have you believe that D/s relationships are abusive, this is not […]

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