D/s Advent

This Year’s D/s Advent

As long time readers will know, for the past four years I have done some form of D/s Advent Calendar for HL. I began with my Submissive Advent Calendar in 2016 as a way of making a bit of a fuss of HL because he’d had a pretty rubbish year […]

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Aftercare - two hands holding hearts

Happily Ever Aftercare

In BDSM, aftercare can be the secret to things being lasting and retaining that sense of magic you share with your play partner. It allows you to feel safe, build trust, and create a strong connection through the shared experience. Although it is the play rather than the aftercare which […]

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Double Trouble

Double Trouble

I was working on a picture to use for the #ComfyUndies theme on Twitter and decided to play around with my image. I often wish that I had a submissive friend to hang out with in real life and although I have many online, the times I get for fun […]

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silver linings

Silver Linings and Giving Thanks

2020 has been such a year. It is hardly conceivable to imagine this time last year that we would be sat where we are right now. Unprecedented is the word on everyone’s lips and it is the only word really which seems to fit. I have written a lot about […]

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New Socks

Sassy Sexy Socks

It is always nice when things come along that you didn’t expect. I am very active on Twitter but my friend Posy knows that I love socks and she tagged me in a #ThighHighThursday photo theme which was being hosted by Indulgent Desires. I had fully intended to tweet an […]

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Impact Play – beyond spanking

Life Before Impact Play I often think that spanking is like the gateway drug to impact play. These days it is almost mainstream and, in my opinion, that has to be a good thing. Now, while I do feel that nothing beats a good over the knee spanking at the […]

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broken trust

Broken Trust

I have written a lot about trust and the need for trust in a D/s relationship such as the one I have with HL. In order to build this level of trust it is important to be honest and open and this can make us vulnerable. I am generally a […]

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diary of a submissive

Diary of a Submissive Wife

I have been meaning to do the D/s Diary Project for a while but one thing has led to another and it has never quite happened. The purpose is to provide a snapshot into my life as a submissive wife. I am married to my Dominant, HisLordship and we have […]

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In a dungeon

In a Dungeon

I tried to give this image a dungeon feel and, although it was not actually taken in one, I would like to visit a dungeon some time. We had plans before COVID and hopefully when things are back to normal we can plan for this again. I think that there […]

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An unrequited love for kink

An Unrequited Love for Kink

Unrequited love is usually concerned with a love which is not reciprocated for whatever reason. It may be that the object of your desire is unaware of your feelings, or indeed unavailable to you. It might happen that your love for them has continued beyond the point where you were […]

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Lest We Forget

Lest We Forget

We Will Remember Them The prompt for 4 Thoughts this time is Lest We Forget. May had mentioned a story but I don’t really have a story in me so I thought I would try something else. Marking Remembrance Day has always been something I have done. I was very […]

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A simple sunday from the past

Simple Sunday

Simple Sunday is the best. It has been quite a week and it feels good to take some time for us just to be. I am glad to have HL to guide and protect me. Together the world feels better: we celebrate each other’s successes and support during those difficult […]

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Desires, Dominance and submission

Desires, Dominance and submission

The Difficulty with our Desires Many of us are never able to have our desires met for one reason or another. This might be to do with the fact that we keep them to ourselves and feel unable to share them, or it might be that we have not found […]

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Summoning a Dominant

Summoning a Dominant

I thought I would get on board with the spooky Halloween themes taking place on many of the memes and try to create an image which fitted the prompt. I know it is very unsubmissive to be summoning a Dominant, but mine is not to question the power of magic. […]

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haunted by you

Haunted by You – A Vignette

I am haunted. Haunted by you. My hands brush my face and I smell you. It catches me off guard as I breathe you in and I am thrown back in time, there with you again. My fingers trace the length of your cock, enjoying the silk of your skin […]

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feel naughty

Never too old to be naughty

I like being naughty. I like it, but I find it hard to do sometimes. My self consciousness is a bitch and she kicks in and stops me from letting go, from being the naughty girl I want to be. It has got harder as I have got older. She […]

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honesty in a dominant submissive marriage

Honesty in a Dominant submissive marriage

Honesty is one of the cornerstones of a Dominant submissive marriage. Honesty is a hard one in lots of ways. Many people take it to mean the absence of telling lies. Clearly it is important to be honest about what you say but honesty is also about your actions. If […]

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Spank me pink

Spank me Pink

I will be over his knee, my bottom upturned towards him. He is going to spank me pink. I feel silly laying over him like that. I am a grown woman and yet there I am laying like a child across the lap of my husband, waiting for him to […]

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A humiliating display

A humiliating display

This snapshot, a humiliating display, contains consensual erotic humiliation. Erotic humiliation is psychological humiliation which produces erotic excitement and sexual arousal. On a psychological level it can work by using what a person fears and is embarrassed by and exposing them to it in a way which is safe. It […]

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