The deeper the blue

The deeper the blue

“The deeper the blue becomes, the more strongly it calls man towards the infinite, awakening in him a desire for the pure and, finally, for the supernatural … The brighter it becomes, the more it loses its sound, until it turns into silent stillness and becomes white.” Wassily Kandinsky Sometimes […]

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Dom Worship

A little bit of Dom worship

For fear of enraging the D/s purists who scream “topping from the bottom” when I explain what I did the other night, I am going to tell you about a little bit of Dom worship that took place. I have thoughts on the whole topping from the bottom thing of […]

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An invitation to watch

An invitation to watch my wife

I shift in my seat a little. I am waiting and although the cameras are set up in the room, I am not sure if they are running yet or not. In fact I don’t think they are. But I am scared to assume anything. My head is a mess. […]

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Period Sex

The Truth about Period Sex

Period sex is one of things that still isn’t that acceptable to a lot of people. I would say that we are a pretty open couple, and HL would say that he is ok with period sex, but in reality, we rarely do it. I have brought it up for […]

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Electric sex - ElectraStim

Electric Sex – charged up and ready to go

Why we decided to try electric sex The topic for Tell Me About… this time is Electroplay. This is something I have written about quite a bit and, if you are interested, I have linked the posts at the bottom. Suffice to say, we enjoy electroplay. We have an ElectraStim […]

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Being perverted

Being perverted and why I like it

Perverted: characterized by sexually abnormal and unacceptable practices or tendencies I like the thought of being perverted. It turns me on and I suppose that is all the proof needed that it is a good fit. I don’t take it as an insult or as being a bad thing, more […]

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Back on track

Back on track and back to basics

Getting back on track Sometimes you lose each other. It can be hard when you are used to the closeness to work out what to do about it and how to get things back on track. We have been talking a lot lately about what to do and how to […]

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sexy is

Sexy is as sexy does

I have made no secret of the fact that recently I have struggled to feel sexy. But I have also struggled to take my own advice. I know that I need to make some changes but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. But enough of the doom and gloom: Other times […]

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Is masturbation selfish

Is Masturbation within a relationship selfish?

Question: Is Masturbation Selfish? The topic for the erotic journal challenge is whether or not masturbation is selfish. As I had been thinking about this a bit recently anyway, I thought I would get my thoughts down on the page and hopefully find out what others think too. The key […]

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Standing Still

Standing Still

I am standing still, waiting for him. He is watching me but he hasn’t made a move.  My body is sore, tense in its pose, my muscles aching for release.  The awareness of my physical self and my inability to allow it comfort challenges my mind and, it too, slips […]

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the comfort zone

Why being comfortable is over-rated

Finding your Comfort Zone We all seek comfort. Why wouldn’t we? Ultimately a place where we feel safe and in control is what we are stacked to aim for. Comfort is a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint so it is natural that as people we […]

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Not tonight dear, I've got a headache

Not tonight dear, I’ve got a headache

I know that the “Not tonight dear, I’ve got a headache,” thing is just a joke really and certainly for me, saying no to HL isn’t part of our deal. That said, my headaches do get in the way quite a bit. I have written before about my hormonal migraines […]

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Cervical Screening

Why we need to talk about Cervical Screening

Cervical Screening Awareness Week – 14 – 20 June 2021 This week is cervical screening awareness week. Despite invites for women and people with a cervix to attend cervical screening appointments via their GP surgery, there are still some who are not taking up this offer. According to leading cervical […]

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Role-Playing

How to Introduce Role-Playing to Your Relationship

‘How to introduce role-playing to your relationship’ is a guest post written by Daria Roman of Silicon Wives. In the post Daria gives some ideas and suggestions about the way role playing might work and what it could add to a relationship. Missy. Every relationship can have a tougher time, […]

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sex toys

Sex Toys ~ How we use them and the ones we love

Sex toys is the current topic for Tell Me About and surprisingly I have never really written about them before. We have LOADS of toys and so, although I am linking to Wicked Wednesday’s peep show prompt, this is more of a peep at a virtual show and tell than […]

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closing the orgasm gap

How to close the orgasm gap

I suppose I was aware that there was an ‘orgasm gap’ but had never really heard it being referred to or discussed before seeing it highlighted May’s 4 Thoughts prompt. Basically the term refers to an issue in predominantly cis gendered hetero-sexual couples where the focus in on PIV sex […]

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Why D/s is good for my self care

Why D/s is good for my self care

It might seem that focussing on the needs and desires of your partner would leave you open to being taken advantage of and not able to fully have your own needs met. I think that this can be a common misconception of those who do not have a full understanding […]

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