Ask Me Anything

I frequently get questions from other people interested in D/s. I love receiving your questions as it allows me to reflect on my own dynamic as well as to talk about something I am passionate about.

If you have a question you would like me to answer then please type in the box below and I will answer your question as a part of a blog post.

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Where can I find resources for education and support?

I am a married wife who has recently started to explore her submissiveness. Since my husband is not a Dominant I am currently being trained by a Male Dom who is fully aware of my marriage and my husband's complete...

what books would you recommend for married D/s

Do you have any recommendations for books about married D/s relationships? i love to hold the printed word in my hand. I refer to your website, but i was just wondering if you have any books that you like to...

what sort of submissive am I?

This is a big one: defining and coming to terms with the kind of submissive I am. In some ways, I feel like a little. I often call him “Daddy” as that’s something I called him before we started this,...

What can we do when we have gone off track

Hi Missy, I've just found your blog and I'm so relieved! Thank you so much for your honesty and for sharing so much of your relationship with your Sir, it means so much to feel just a little less isolated...

How do I take account of her needs but still remain Dominant_

Hi, I’m new to D/s. My girlfriend has been a sub in other relationships. I am excited about trying this out, but I think asking her too many questions like “what kind of discipline do you want” will ruin the...

how can I talk about negatives in a respectful way

Hi! I came across your website as I was looking for some information. I am a new submissive and am trying to learn what I can about this lifestyle. This is the second D/s relationship I have been in, but...

D/s out of the question

Missy, I have spent a great deal of time admiring you and your blog, but have a long ways to go... My wife was a school teacher and is still in education. She taught at a religious parochial school for...

How do I go slow?

My husband and I are just venturing into the D/s relationship. My type A personality and work don’t make submitting easy outside the bedroom. And his work schedule doesn’t make letting control go easy either. I’m trying to figure out...

what do I do if he is not engaging

Thank you for offering me the opportunity to ask a question. My husband and I have begun our journey into a 24/7 Dom/Sub relationship. I am ALL IN, but he doesn't seem to be. What should I do? What do...

How do I choose a name

How did your names for each other arise? It’s something I assumed would be organic (and I imagine should be), yet we still have yet to firmly land on names and it makes it feel less official (as silly as...

How do I encourage Dominance

How do you deal with a partner that struggles in being the Dominant? This issue is weighing on my marriage. I discovered my submissive personality and needs about 2 years into our marriage. We're 15 years in now. I wasn't...

How do I share my daddy?

How do I quell my jealous nature when I have to share my Daddy with his daughters? They are adults, but very much Daddy's girls. I try to be the adult but I am his babygirl of 3 years now...