Time is a funny thing. There never seems to be enough of it, and yet, we make it work for us, fitting in with the ticking and passing of the units it gives us. I sometimes wonder what the world was like before these units of time, and often think they add to the pace and stress of the modern world. I have tried slowing it down by having a focus on the small things, and this has helped. But often, times remains my enemy, and the feeling of it ticking away is often what leads me to stress.
Within D/s play, time seems to stop for me. When I am deep within my submissive headspace, I have always felt that I lose sense of space and time. The only thing that grounds me is HL and his words, actions and instructions. Beyond that I feel free. Free from myself and my own inhibitions and boundaries. Free from the realities of life which pull me and sometimes seem to trap me with their own agenda. And free from the expectations of the world we live in.
Time often seems to preside over life. There is a time for everything and we use it to shape, to structure and to try to understand things which sometimes don’t make sense. We use it as a stick to beat ourselves and an arm to comfort ourselves. We allow it to manage us at the same time as managing ourselves within its frame. We seem to gift ourselves time when we need, it and withdraw it from ourselves at others. It seems a complicated and contradictory relationship.
Submission has taught me patience. It was hard in the beginning to take things slowly, and not rush in the excitement of finally being able to articulate and embrace what I realised I had always wanted, and probably needed. On the other hand, there are times when I allow myself to be distracted from what I want and need, and stop waiting, choosing to get on with other things instead. This leads to a sort of disconnect, and I stop craving what I know will help.
As one year closes and another one opens, it is often time for reflection. I find myself looking at my growth personally, as well as professionally and romantically, and readdressing the balance in terms of priorities and focus. The time we had as empty nesters during autum and early winter allowed us to really focus on ourselves and our dynamic and I am excited that there will be more opportunities to explore that this year. I know what I want my focuses to be ,and feel it is time to embrace those again.
I am not going to turn this into one of those posts with a list of resolutions and targets for the year to come, as I have learnt that often life alters that path. But within the areas of D/s, family, work, health and blogging there are definitely things which I hope to put my time and energy in to. I am sure that time will be as elusive at points this year as it has been the last, but at others, it will work for me and allow me the freedom and escape that I have learnt keeps me going.
So as one year shifts into the next I would like to take this opportunity to thank all of you who have been with me this past year. For your friendship, your support, and your words of wisdom and encouragement, I raise a glass to you. Wishing you a Happy Hogmanay, and all the best to you and yours in the year to come.
Beautiful image… Do you know the song by Jim Croce – Time in a bottle? It is old but the lyrics say so much – I dedicated it to my man many years ago. Time is an oddment indeed
Thank you. I don’t know that one but will have to look it up. Missy x
What gorgeous images! Stunning. Missy thank you for your wonderful and insightful blog, I always enjoy your posts, and long may you continue. Happy 2022 to you and yours, and Boo to Covid. Jim
Hi Jim. Thank you for such a lovely comment. I hope you have a good one and look forward to seeing you around in 2022 xx
Your blog has been a happy discovery. I hope to continue in 2022 reading, learning and contemplating the exquisite images that it shows. Happy New Year to you and your family.
Thank you kindly Rafael. I wish the same to you and yours and look forward to engaging more in the year to come xx
Thank you 😊
A perfect end-of-year reflection. And I do hope this year brings you many blessings and opportunities!
Thank you. The same to you lovely xx
A Happy Hogmanay to you and HL.
I look forward to read more of what you’ll be up to as empty nesters in the year to come.
Thank you Iris. Hopefully there will be lots of fun to be had! x
Missy, that image is absolutely stunning, with, and without the image. Just gorgeous.
As for being in a reflective mode, strangely enough I had nothing of that in December and am still not feeling reflective, or particularly energized for 2022. I think my head is just too full…
~ Marie xox
Thank you ❤️
I can understand you feeling that way. I think when you are in survival mode things get pared right back so feeling a lack of reflection or energy is probably part of that. How you remain so creative is beyond me as that is one of the things that seems to leave me. Hopefully you will soon be in a place where you can relax a bit and see what comes xx
I try to just take it day by day. The festive days have left me drained, not because of doing too much, but because of reflecting on the past year’s happenings. It was a bit much…
I am really sorry to hear that. I really hope that the new year will bring some real positives to boost you. ❤️
Thank you, Missy. I hope so too.
Happy New Year Hogmanese Missy! I hope its brings good things for you + yours! 🙂 <3
And the same to you and yours. Wishing you all the best ❤️
Well done in pose and edit.
Thank you xx
Nice post, good wishes. Time is a complicated thing. It seems to me that we do not always evaluate it correctly. But, at the same time, there is a saying: If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.
Thanks Mary. Hindsight would be wonderful! Missy x