Top Ten

And now for the Top Ten

I don’t tend to pay a lot of attention to stats, but it can be interesting to look and see what posts have been popular and which haven’t so much. Often I think it depends on factors beyond my control, and it is not always the quality or content of the post. A catchy title will make a difference, as can a sexy picture. The time of day will often have an impact, as can the day of the week or the time of year. And often, it seems to be random. Obviously some posts rank higher on searches than others and, as most of my views come from search engines, I tend not to over think too much.

This year has been a bit quieter than last. For one, I have written a bit less, but the main reason for this was the first lockdown due to Covid 19. The pandemic led my views in 2020 to peak, as people took to the internet, and presumably researched their kinky fantasies, or wondered how to spice things up with a bit of dominance and submission. I have been blogging for five and a half years now. The first six months I had about 22 000 views which then went up to 140 000 the following year. Since then I have had just over 300 000 views a year, except for last year which was nearer 372 000.

I don’t know what this means in terms of anything real, but I am pleased that people find me and read, and some, like yourselves, even come back and comment and help me to grow as a writer and as a submissive due to your input and interaction. I have always written for myself as it allows me to process and build on aspects of my relationship, as well as on a personal level. But at the end of the day, this is my hobby, not a job, so I am not here to make money or be recognised for any thing more than being a genuine individual who may have likeminded views and some experience to share.

The prompt for Wicked Wednesday this week is Top Ten. The idea is to link the top ten posts from your blog this year. Some of these I might have chosen in my own top ten and some I would not. But these are the posts which the stats say readers hit on the most. On the left are the top posts across my whole blog this year, and on the right are ten of the posts that I like from this year only. The overall list from all blogging years is a little different, and a number of the posts from my Story of the O feature.

In my own list I would probably include some of the fiction pieces as they lean towards my own humiliation fantasies, but as my blog is essentially true life, those are the ones which tend to rank higher. I also have posts which hold special memories for me so they stand out on a personal level. I suppose this doesn’t always translate into a post, but as this is a journal of sorts, it is great for me to be able to look back and remember all of those special moments that have brought me to where I am today. This happens with photography too and so an ultimate list would have to include some of the photos we have taken.

10 Most Viewed Posts in 2021

Submissive Positions – April’s Submissive Training Journal

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Lifestyle Submissive

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Hand Spanking

hand spanking

I have written about spanking before as it is something that I enjoy and is a big part of our dynamic so thought that I would try to put another...

Rules and Rituals

Rules and Rituals

One of the first things we did was to agree on the rules and rituals that would set the dynamic for our D/s relationship. How would it differ from what...

A humiliating display

A humiliating display

This snapshot, a humiliating display, contains consensual erotic humiliation. Erotic humiliation is psychological humiliation which produces erotic excitement and sexual arousal. On a psychological level it can work by using...

I want to spank you

“I want to spank you.”

Giggling, she collapsed onto the bed.

“I am serious,” he said, watching her from his chair across the room.

She felt her face flush slightly as a wave...

What type of submissive am I?

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Kneeling and submission

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A Spanking Story

A spanking story

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Submissive Traits and Qualities

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10 Posts I like from 2021

Being Exposed is my Kink

being exposed is my kink

I know I am kinky in vanilla terms but because we have been exploring kink for so long, much of what we do feels normal to me now. I wondered...

Emotional Play and why it’s on the edge

Emotional Play

What is Emotional Play

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A celebration of love, lust and what we have

A celebration of love

It has been a hard week for us. We have had some difficult things to deal with and I can say with certainty that we are not over the worst....

What is submissive headspace and how to access it

Submissive headspace

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Age Play – the truth about bigs, littles and middles

Misconceptions of age play

There are a lot of misconceptions surrounding kink and BDSM. There are a lot of misconceptions surrounding D/s too and I have written about some of those in 13...

A Rant about Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom

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Being perverted and why I like it

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I like the thought of being perverted. It turns me on and I suppose that is all the proof needed...

Exploring my hidden fantasies – turning fantasy to reality

Exploring my fantasies

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The truth about teaching pornography


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The trick of a successful punishment

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Wicked Wednesday

Marie is celebrating her #500th prompt for Wicked Wednesday this week. This is such an achievement for a meme and I believe it is all down to her hard work and commitment to encouraging others. I feel lucky to be supported by Marie, as a friend as well as a blogger, and I wish her another 500 prompts for Wicked Wednesday. Congratulations and thank you for all that you do Marie.

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  1. Like you, I think there are many different factors that lead to more hits or less. In the past I paid a lot of attention to my stats, but I don’t anymore. I love having readers, especially the regulars, but my focus is not my stats. It’s creating content and enjoying myself, and hoping in the process I bring someone else pleasure too 🙂
    Love the posts in your list, and love the way you are presenting them 🙂
    ~ Marie xox

    • Thanks Marie. I totally agree with you on that score. I find the same with many of the food and wellness blogs I follow. The fact that they love what they do and are doing to for them really comes across. xxx

  2. This year has been tough! But things can only get better. Right? …right….
    I love the format you used to display your posts. Very chic!
    Hopefully, we’ll both get back to regular posting in the new year or at least being more regular.
    A happy new year to you and yours Missy! May it be everything 2021 wasn’t!( but only the positive parts, the negative can stay in the past ,where it belomgs)

  3. Interesting that 2020 saw a spike in viewership for you. My views pretty drastically declined in 2020, and they went further downward in 2021. Which might be down to changing screen time habits and computer fatigue from COVID stay-home ness, or might be something else entirely. I’m not sure. I know I’m not the only one who saw views decline though, so I’m really glad to see that yours increased! 👏

    I appreciate your real-life deep-dives in your writing — your willingness to talk about things like humiliation and other forms of edge play is always honest and enlightening. I also really liked your account this year of how you & HL and Gem & PS shared some erotic adventures. That kind of “real” content is hard to find when it comes to any kind of swinging/foursomes kind of stuff (I recognize that you might not choose those labels for it, I’m just using broad strokes) and it’s really what people who are looking for non-porn style information could benefit from.

    Thank you for always providing such great content. I wish you well in continuing to do so for many years to come!

    Happy end-of 2021! 🍸

    • Thank you so much Mrs Fever – that really means a lot.

      I don’t much care for labels and am not sure I can find one that fits what we have shared with PS and gem but it is what it is and it is real, as you say. It has been interesting to explore and I although I found I was cautious initially in sharing both about that and about my love of humiliation, I feel more confident in it now which is a real positive. I think feeling part of a bigger community swayed my content a bit and once I was ‘out’ of that it felt easier to write what I wanted.

      The readership thing is a hard one to grasp. There was definitely a spike for me during March and April that year when my views more than doubled. They rested back again though so it was like it followed the covid curve at the time which was weird. I prefer not thinking much about it and just doing what I do. Not being on any ‘lists’ helps me just to be me I think so there are always silver linings. For a while there was a sense of pecking order and competition which didn’t bring out the best in me so I am happy to get back to just doing me and seeing where that goes.

      Wishing you all the best for 2022. I look forward to following along with your journey and am excited to see what creative projects you come up with this year!

  4. Happy new year Missy – I think what makes your blog so strong is the fact that you stick to brand most of the time – i know i have said it before but people know what they are getting when they come to your site and that means if they like it and it is what they are looking for they will return time and time again.
    May xx

    • Ah thanks May. I do tend to have that focus. Most of the views are random searches but there are other people in the lifestyle who visit too and those, like you, who are loyal readers. Thank you for your support. I read your top post too but as usual I couldn’t fathom the medium to comment. I really need to get myself there in the new year and find out what you are all up to. All the best to you and your man for 2022! I am excited to see what projects you take on as you always seem to have something new up your sleeve xx

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