Top Ten

And now for the Top Ten

I don’t tend to pay a lot of attention to stats, but it can be interesting to look and see what posts have been popular and which haven’t so much. Often I think it depends on factors beyond my control, and it is not always the quality or content of the post. A catchy title will make a difference, as can a sexy picture. The time of day will often have an impact, as can the day of the week or the time of year. And often, it seems to be random. Obviously some posts rank higher on searches than others and, as most of my views come from search engines, I tend not to over think too much.

This year has been a bit quieter than last. For one, I have written a bit less, but the main reason for this was the first lockdown due to Covid 19. The pandemic led my views in 2020 to peak, as people took to the internet, and presumably researched their kinky fantasies, or wondered how to spice things up with a bit of dominance and submission. I have been blogging for five and a half years now. The first six months I had about 22 000 views which then went up to 140 000 the following year. Since then I have had just over 300 000 views a year, except for last year which was nearer 372 000.

I don’t know what this means in terms of anything real, but I am pleased that people find me and read, and some, like yourselves, even come back and comment and help me to grow as a writer and as a submissive due to your input and interaction. I have always written for myself as it allows me to process and build on aspects of my relationship, as well as on a personal level. But at the end of the day, this is my hobby, not a job, so I am not here to make money or be recognised for any thing more than being a genuine individual who may have likeminded views and some experience to share.

The prompt for Wicked Wednesday this week is Top Ten. The idea is to link the top ten posts from your blog this year. Some of these I might have chosen in my own top ten and some I would not. But these are the posts which the stats say readers hit on the most. On the left are the top posts across my whole blog this year, and on the right are ten of the posts that I like from this year only. The overall list from all blogging years is a little different, and a number of the posts from my Story of the O feature.

In my own list I would probably include some of the fiction pieces as they lean towards my own humiliation fantasies, but as my blog is essentially true life, those are the ones which tend to rank higher. I also have posts which hold special memories for me so they stand out on a personal level. I suppose this doesn’t always translate into a post, but as this is a journal of sorts, it is great for me to be able to look back and remember all of those special moments that have brought me to where I am today. This happens with photography too and so an ultimate list would have to include some of the photos we have taken.

10 Most Viewed Posts in 2021

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