We never really do anything for Valentine’s Day. One reason is that it is so close to my Birthday and we have usually celebrated that in some way, and the other is that I am not really a big fan of commercialised days and ways to mark how I feel. I think being thoughtful and showing your partner that you care and think about them is something that is more effective when done regularly in the small ways, rather than through the more showy grand gesture. I wrote about this earlier in the week so I suppose that it seems odd, then, to have chosen to mark the occasion this time.
As I said in my post last week, I had surgery the day before my Birthday, and so it didn’t go with as much of a bang as we had hoped. That being said, we did have a nice time with family and although I was a bit wiped out, it ended up being lovely and just what the Doctor ordered. HL has taken really good care of me and I have felt his arms around me, even when he wasn’t here. I am pretty resilient and quite independent, but it still always feels nice to be looked after, especially when everything feels a bit off. I know that he likes it when I am a little needy and he steps up whenever there are opportunities to take care of me, so I wanted to say thank you to him in some way for that.
Often when the need for nurture and protection is there, it comes at a time when there is less opportunity for sex. This has been the case this past week, and I didn’t even get my birthday spankings! We have found ways to create the intimacy in more gentle ways and made sure that we were able to connect on a physical level, but it has not been as easy as usual. I have had to sleep in a bra, we couldn’t fall asleep with our usual spoon, and then to top it all I got my period and was cramping. Suffice to say, things have now moved on and I am feeling much better than I did. So that brings me to my offer and my invitation.
As a submissive, I obviously don’t want to lead but HL does like me to take the initiative sometimes. I try to do things in a more gentle way, hence an invitation and an offer. I planned some drinks and a meal that I thought he would like, and decided to leave the kinky fun as a play thing for his amusement, which meant that he could plan what to do. Although it would be nice to be undressed for the occasion, with teens in the house this is usually not possible, so I took the picture above on my iPhone to make into an invite, so that he had an element of sexy in his mind even if not at the dinner table.
Ironically, for someone who doesn’t really do much to mark the passing of Valentine’s day, I have still managed to write a lot about love this week. You might want to check out the following:
A love letter to HL
Romance
How to be Dominant or submissive AND Romantic (The SafeworD/s Club)
sooo pretty – it looks like you are glowing xx
Thank you. I love to glow ?
Just lovely x
Thank you ?
That is a sweet thing to do. I agree that we should do things year round to show our love and appreciation, but days like this just put me in a more heightened mood, I guess. I like to celebrate them if only by offering a verbal and physical reminder that I would choose him again…it is sort of like our anniversary…a day to just celebrate our love and remind each other of all the important things. We do it on other nameless days, too. This is a beautiful photo. What did you make him for dinner? And did you get the sex you were hoping for?
Thank you Brigit and yes I know what you mean about the mood. I made scallops to start and then lamb for the main. I made fun fizz cocktails too and bingo – play did happen. It was electric, literally and metaphorically ?
Ha! That sounds like an amazing meal!
Wow missy, that looks really professional, like a billboard for a film. You are beautifully decorated to be enjoyed by HL.
Thank you PS. He seemed to like it ?
Stunning image missy, you look very inviting indeed. I think this was such a lovely gesture and the wording is just right!
Thanks gem. It seemed to do the trick ❤️
I’m blown away by this image, it’s just bloody stunning.
I’m not a huge fan of overt romantic gestures, I just don’t trust them, and like you, prefer, and put much more stock by, smaller gestures.
Cuntella
Thank you so much cuntella. I am really pleased that you liked it. ❤️
It is a beautiful image and you are a beautiful woman. He is very lucky man
Molly
Thank you. You are very kind. ?
Lovely photo. Agree re commercialism but I like to just go with the flow and not overthink things x
Always a good thing. And thank you ?
It’s a beautiful image, an invitation he could definitely not ignore x
Luckily for me it was accepted ?
Wow, the atmosphere in that picture!
Thank you very much ?
A very sensual, mysterious and beautiful picture. I am glad to hear that things are better with you now, and I hope that soon all will be back to normal.
Thanks DS. I feel much better now actually ?
The image is gorgeous, the invitation special and precious. What a great way to celebrate, even if you are not celebrating 🙂
Rebel xox
Hehe. Thank you Marie xx
Those secret messages, pictures and other ways of communicating when the kids are around are a beautiful and needed connection.
Yes I think they really help. Like a secret language ?
I love the coloring on this one. Something very ethereal about the whole thing.
Thank you Simina and thank you for commenting too ?
Beautiful, beautiful photo !!!
Xxx – K
Oh thank you ?
I’m in agreement with you, we don’t really do anything for Valentine’s Day, he often cooks me steak which I don’t refuse but we show each other affection all the time rather than saving it up for one day.
By far the best way I think though a steak is always nice ?
Beautiful image ns I’m glad you are on the mend. I’m totally with you when it comes to a low key valentines. xx
Thanks Julie xx
We aren’t valentines people in our house – we prefer to show each other all the time – rather than one day. This image is stunning <3 x
Thank you LSB ?