Currently the prompt for SB4MH is to choose the most popular post you have written for the meme. I have been blogging about mental health for a while and when I went back through all of those I had written, the most read post in my Mental Health category was not one that had been linked to SB4MH, as it was written prior to that. The most widely read linked post that I did was this one about eating disorders, or more specifically, my eating disorder and how living with disordered eating has affected me. If you would like to read it and haven’t already then please just click on the picture of the post below.
I am not sure whether it was because it was posted during eating disorder awareness week, or whether it was just luck but I was quite pleased to see it had done well as the post felt really personal.
Mental health is a topic that is important to me and I think that Cat’s meme is such a good thing. There is still an awful lot of stigma around mental health and the only way that things can ever change is by highlighting it. That being said, I have often felt a bit of a fraud joining in. I am someone who has always had an interest in mental health, it is something that plays a large part of the work that I do on a professional level, and I am quite consciously aware of my own mental health and wellbeing. But when there are a lot of sex bloggers who are managing quite significant mental health issues, I sometimes feel that I am not really entitled to take part.
I realise that these are my own issues and Cat, May, and Melody are all so encouraging to those who link up. They all stress that you don’t need to be writing about your own experience, just about the topic in general. This makes a lot of sense. A big part of reducing stigma is about being more open about the things that affect us, and also about promotion of positive mental health and wellbeing, including the strategies that we use to try to manage life and the ups and downs that it throws at us. I have also written about some of the things that I have learnt from supporting others through my work too.
In fact the SB4MH pledge is as follows:
I pledge my commitment to blog for my mental health. I will write about mental health topics not only for myself but for others. I do this to destigmatize mental illness and to promote mental health awareness & education. I am a sex blogger for mental health. #sb4mh #bfmh #notalone #SexNotStigma
I have written quite a bit about how blogging helps me in a number of ways: the reflection is useful and allows me to work through things which are on my mind, conscious as well as sometimes subconscious; in addition the feedback has given me some acceptance of, not only the way that I look, but also some of the things that I am in to. Being able to be open and honest about my thoughts about sex, as well as who and what I am, has been healing and freeing in lots of ways. My blog has become the place where I can be the person I really feel I am, and it is good to feel that I have found my tribe by being here.
If you haven’t had the chance to look at the Sex Bloggers for Mental Health site, or weren’t aware of it, then I would suggest clicking on the badge below and checking it out. You can get involved by reading and commenting on some of the posts which are linked there, and also by adding your own posts to the weeks as they go by. As with most of the memes there are prompts to inspire and help you, but any relevant posts on the topic of mental health are welcomed. I was surprised when I looked back that I had so many posts in this category, so I have put them together at the bottom of the page. I hope that you find some of them interesting.