Laughter is good for you. It is an integral part of social communication and the way that human bonding happens most easily. When people are asked what makes them laugh they will think of jokes and comedians and funny events but actually we laugh most when we are in the company of others. Not because something is inherently funny but because it is part of the connection we make with others. How many times have you tried to recount something funny that you laughed uncontrollably about with someone else, only for it to fall flat in a different context?
It has also been evidenced that when asked to discuss something about their partner that annoyed them, couples who used laughter and smiling not only felt better immediately but also reported higher levels of satisfaction in their relationship, and stayed together for longer. This shows us that laughter is an emotion that we can use with the people we are close to on an emotional level, as well as using it to make ourselves feel better. Studies around the value of laughter outline benefits in terms of physical health, mental health and social health – more detail can be found in this Help Guide article, Laughter is the Best Medicine.
As a couple we laugh together quite a bit. I have written before about Laughter and Orgasms and explain in that post that I tend to laugh at circumstantial things, rather than at jokes where I know what is coming. Actually my sense of humour differs to HL’s but that doesn’t really seem to matter. We enjoy being around each other and laugh a lot about different things. One of the things that has always intrigued me is the uncontrollable laughter. A fit of the giggles that you can’t suppress, a hysterical outburst that you just can’t explain. That is the orgasmic laughter I have experienced.
The first time it happened we had been playing for quite a while. HL was forcing orgasms from me and I really felt that I had nothing more to give. He was using the wand and kept going and going, only allowing a little time with a reduced level of vibration, and then ramping it up again. What I experience during this time is a sensory overload. As he pushes me further and further, I feel like I can’t cope and I sort of desensitise myself a little. By doing this I am able to lie there with the wand on my clit and not wriggle away. It is painful, but pleasurable as well.
After a short time, my body kicks back in and something shifts deep inside me. I feel the orgasm build up and am back with him again. This continues as he keeps playing in this way and each time I am pushed further and further from myself in order to cope with the intensity of the wand. I am not sure how long we had been playing like this on that first occasion, but it must have been well over an hour. I was so far past anything I ever thought I would be able to take and I had even given up begging him to stop and trying to fight. I was in a floaty space where I was completely under his control.
Suddenly I began to laugh. It came from nowhere and seemed to overwhelm me. It was uncontrollable and it wasn’t that I thought anything was funny. It seemed to rise up from inside and engulf me and I was powerless to stop it. Even when he took the wand away and turned it off, I continued to laugh hysterically. It felt similar to an orgasm in the way it seemed to take me over and come in waves, twitching out of me in bursts and spasms, only to slow and then take me over again. As I lay in his arms during aftercare, I continued to giggle in small fits as I floated away in a quite delicious, if a little confusing way.
This has happened a couple of times during forced orgasms scenes since. It feels such a happy and positive space that it is a real connector for both of us. I know that some will cry cathartic tears which they find is heeling for them, but for us, things manifest in laughter rather than tears. This suits us and perhaps it is because it comes from the extreme pleasure of relentless sensation rather than the pleasure pain of impact. I am not sure why it happens and don’t feel that really matters. D/s is my happy place and I embrace it with a laughter that takes me higher.