I mentioned in my SoSS post that I wanted to do something to mark advent for 2018 but I wasn’t sure what. The idea sprang up originally as our circumstances had changed and so 2016 was going to bring less in the way of material gifts for Christmas. I was also aware the HL had been finding things hard and so wanted to spoil him a bit, as well as making the run up to christmas special, so each day I gave him a gift which was posted and revealed on my blog. My Submissive Advent Calendar was born. Last year it was tricky as HL was working away a lot so we decided to take it turn about and do a D/s Advent Calendar as we thought that might be a good way of connecting across the miles. We started well with this but hit a few bumps for a variety of reasons so some of the days didn’t work out as planned. Such is life.
This year is kind of a combination of the two. We want to take this as an opportunity to spend more time and focus on each other, and we also want to connect well during times that we are not together. This term is always the busiest term at school for me and I end up feeling pretty wiped out and running on empty, trying to create extra hours in the day where there are none. In addition, HL has several weeks of work which mean that he will not be at home, and at times not even in the country. Adjusting to a new schedule in a new timezone has always proved tricky so we have tried to come up with things that will help.
Rather than trying to post each day like I did the first year, I think I will just write about how things are working as and when it seems to fit, but I will post the completed list at the end regardless. I have also toyed with the idea of tweeting the gift of the day too, so I will see how that seems to work out. Giving is a huge part of our relationship and despite what some think about how D/s works, in reality we are both required to give in order for things to work. The power exchange is centred around give and take and as long as we find our own balance, it all runs along pretty smoothly.
What we have found hard this past while, is finding time for ourselves. This has led to us not only finding it hard to fit in the bigger things like longer scenes, but also allowing some of the little things to slip. The small things you do for and with one another are so important and I feel that acknowledging this through our advent activities will be a welcome reminder and celebration of who we are and what we have. So as this is the first of December number 1 has been revealed and I have to say I am feeling quite excited. We are off out to dinner but this evening looks to be promising.
1 – A Glass of Christmas
A glass of christmas cheer can come in many forms and for us at the beginning of the festive month a nice warm glass of something is just what we need. In this case we will be using our glass dildo collection for temperature play to get us in the mood!